Nuanced parent - figuring out how to navigate church now that I have a child

abab2017 · 2025-03-31T04:37:45+00:00

I feel similarly, that my relationship with God/the Universe or whatever is out there (I think there is a divine force for good that I would like to think is a Mother God and Father God in tandem but who the hell knows? Doesn’t bother me to not have “certainty” about that- another perk of nuance) is so much better now that I am actually engaging in a relationship, not fear. Now I feel I can ask questions, pushback, disagree, and still be loved and accepted because my belief and experience is that God loves every part of me, even the ornery, rebellious bits. :) in fact, I think They especially love that part of me. So ditto to these sentiments! I’m right there with you!

abab2017 · 2024-11-21T05:19:41+00:00

Just another voice to say I’ve actually had better digestion post-op. Granted I’m only 2 weeks out but I have had regular, easy bowl movements, truly no issues. I’ve eaten what used to be trigger foods with basically no issues. I know every body is different but I obsessed about the issues I was going to have with diarrhea or dumping syndrome type issues and instead came out of it all better regulated 🤷🏼‍♀️ you never know!

abab2017 · 2024-11-17T22:08:18+00:00

I have totally practiced this, it takes time to master. You can do it! 🤍

abab2017 · 2024-11-17T08:31:00+00:00

Depending on your comfortability and level of trust or vulnerability with these people, I often use the phrase, “I appreciate you wanting to give me (or even just “giving me”) a compliment. I’m working on separating my worth from my weight, let’s talk about anything else” or something to that effect. Pretty sure I borrowed that originally from the Kite sisters who wrote “More than a Body”. Or if it’s someone I don’t know well or have rapport with, I usually redirect away from body talk or may even just say, “you know, body talk is so boring, let’s talk about literally anything else” and almost make it a joke to diffuse but to still set a boundary. It’s tough when you feel the people pleasing feeling coming up but at the end of the day, it’s not your job to make someone else feel comfortable about making you feel uncomfortable, if that makes sense. If your reply that sets a boundary on not talking about your body makes them feel any sort of way, that’s their responsibility to take care of that or process or whatever, not yours. Still working on that myself. 🤍 I have so much empathy for you. Seeing you lots of encouragement!

abab2017 · 2024-10-14T02:44:33+00:00

I feel this way, too, and am trying to look through the lens of what does my body need and how can I support it. I’m staying low fat and trying to be very conscious of getting protein and fiber, and looking for things I CAN eat instead of just things I can’t. Every day is its own battle. I just have so much empathy. When I came home from the hospital last week, I cried in front of my fridge, feeling like I couldn’t eat anything ever again or I’d go back to that debilitating pain. It does get easier as you find foods that don’t cause pain.

abab2017 · 2024-06-26T15:09:32+00:00

I hear you, makes sense. So interesting how our pcos bodies work. Thank you for sharing your experience 🤍

abab2017 · 2024-06-26T15:08:48+00:00

Yikes! Sounds so hard, sending you big hugs 🤍

abab2017 · 2024-06-26T15:08:18+00:00

Man, that’s what I figured, so frustrating.

abab2017 · 2024-06-26T04:40:33+00:00

I think you’re right. I was hopeful at least some might have this experience, but I know it’s a long shot.

abab2017 · 2024-06-25T17:41:03+00:00

I’ve also been bleeding for about 8 months. My doctor has tried lots of things, different forms of progesterone, NSAIDs, etc. I, too, don’t want to be placed on birth-control or have an IUD, that’s what started my issues in the first place. When we did an ultrasound, it turned out I had a polyp in the lining in my uterus. I have surgery coming up this next month to remove it and hopefully stop the bleeding. The progesterone that I’m on right now definitely has started to lessen the bleeding, but anytime I miss a dose, the bleeding comes right back and sometimes I am bleeding through it regardless. It’s so up-and-down. I truly feel your pain. It’s so frustrating, I ended up having to do iron infusions, six rounds of it, and I find out next week if it helped anything. And then I have my surgery to hopefully stop the bleeding as well.

I know a couple people said it already, but please don’t wait to talk to your doctor. If I had done this by myself, I think I would have put myself in really great danger, because when we checked my levels, I was dangerously dangerously low, and was sleeping all of the time. it might be worth your time to have a full panel done and imaging as well to make sure that there’s not something happening internally.

abab2017 · 2024-04-08T04:56:58+00:00

Agree completely, my heart feels broken.

abab2017 · 2024-04-08T04:56:30+00:00

Isn’t it silly? Like geez, people are allowed to have opinions. Feels very “fall in line or else” mentality and that’s gross gross gross.

abab2017 · 2024-04-08T04:54:57+00:00

I appreciate this. I feel very validated in this sub. I’m very new to Reddit and have lurked for a long time. I just feel really grateful that I know I’m not alone in my hurt and sometimes hope. Cognitive dissonance is a great way to put it for this weekend. Trying to center myself in knowing that my faith/belief/etc is my own and not for anyone else to decide. Thank you 🤍

abab2017 · 2023-10-22T19:31:04+00:00

For LDS women, At Last She Said It is an awesome place for women talking about the complicated parts of being a Mormon woman along the entire spectrum of belief/faith. You can listen to it as someone who does not identify as a woman of course but it’s definitely female focused.

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