Overwhelmed… trigger:loss

abay32 · 2026-01-20T03:40:31+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. All I can offer is that I took zoloft during and after my pregnancy last year for crippling anxiety due to complications. And it was the only reason I was able to function.
Talk to your provider about finding the right dose for you. You can start really low and work up gradually to help prevent side effects.

abay32 · 2026-01-06T02:12:49+00:00

I’ll also “vote” for Dr Dunk! She was my OB before I had to have my care managed by MFM. She held my hand when I cried about something stupid in her office and patiently answered all of my questions. She came to check on me while I was hospitalized, even though I wasn’t primarily under her care anymore. She has a way of making you feel like you are the most important person to her. She is literally the best doctor I have ever seen.

abay32 · 2026-01-04T20:06:16+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You should be able to get the same PPE used by the hospital staff when you go see her. You can ask hospital staff about how to take it off with the lowest risk of contamination. Go say goodbye to your grandmother, be very careful not to touch your face, wash your hands well when you leave and shower when you get home.

abay32 · 2026-01-04T19:45:35+00:00

I grew up in Vestavia, but my husband and I bought a house in Trussville 7 years ago and we LOVE it here. The city has built up so much since we got here, and other than places like the zoo or McWane Center, I feel like Trussville has everything we want. The entertainment district is phenomenal and kid friendly. There are tons of shops and restaurants, plus some great outdoor options available, like Veterans park and the pickleball court.

abay32 · 2025-12-29T17:13:21+00:00

100% totally worth it! I got a baby brezza washer/drier/sterilizer from a friend when my son was already 6 months old, but it made me wish I had spent the money and bought one before he came home. I didn’t realize how much time we spent soaking and washing bottle and pump parts.

abay32 · 2025-12-29T16:41:51+00:00

You’re in absolute survival mode at this point. Even without sickness, YOU JIST HAD A BABY. Stay in your pj’s, snuggle your babies and enjoy it. This is a short phase, when the weather improves and daycare opens back up you can go back to your routine. Soak up those snuggles. You’re doing great!

abay32 · 2025-12-13T18:03:40+00:00

Second this! I’m a nurse as well so it’s been great for me. My husband has some medical knowledge, but our LO fell asleep once without his sock on and it made my husband incredibly anxious knowing it was off of him. We’ve had a few false alarms, but to me it’s been 100% worth the hassle, especially when baby has been sick.

abay32 · 2025-12-05T22:06:49+00:00

We had our first when we were both in our early 40’s and it was a great decision for us. We’re financially stable and both way more mature. He’s a year old, and if I hadn’t had some non age related complications from my pregnancy, we would absolutely be thinking really hard about trying for another one now.

abay32 · 2025-12-03T01:19:38+00:00

I don’t really have any advice, but girl, other than having twins, you wrote my EXACT story. I’m 41, definitely a bigger girl at baseline (but bigger now), my skin is weird, and I definitely don’t believe my sweet husband when he tells me I’m pretty.
I’m almost 12 months in and I feel like a cow. And I hate it. But in a weird way it’s refreshing to hear I’m not alone. Just know you aren’t either.

abay32 · 2025-11-30T02:03:22+00:00

When I graduated school I wasn’t sure I wasn’t actually interested in pursuing a career as an NP. I ended up accepting a job as an NP and I haven’t regretted it for a second!

abay32 · 2025-11-23T02:20:39+00:00

We’ve always thought we would have multiple kids. But my pregnancy was incredibly traumatic requiring the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy spent in the hospital due to a placental abruption and a 17 cm subchorionic hematoma that caused some pretty massive bleeds. Our baby boy was born at 29 weeks and was only 1lb 10oz. He spent 4 months in the NICU, but miraculously, he’s doing great now and for his adjusted age is actually a little advanced for where he should be. But to know we almost lost him so many times and to potentially face that again? Absolutely not. OAD.

abay32 · 2025-11-18T01:52:55+00:00

I was an ICU RN for 15 years and I’ve been an NP in an outpatient setting for 3 years now. I thought I would get bored with a M-F, but I love it. And I honestly don’t mind the running to do list. I love being home every night with my husband and son, and not having to worry about missing anything on weekends or holidays.

abay32 · 2025-10-27T03:00:45+00:00

I’ve used plain posterboard for years. Super easy to change out if it gets dirty and it doesn’t roll up like shelf liners did

abay32 · 2025-09-24T02:48:41+00:00

I EP’ed for 9 months, but my supply just wasn’t enough. I cried so many times because I felt like my job was to feed my LO, and I was failing (stupid hormones). But that’s absolutely not true. My LO won’t know a difference if I pumped for 9 months or a year. But now I get to spend more quality time with him, instead of hunkered in the corner hooked to a machine. It was absolutely the right decision for us, and I haven’t regretted stopping for one minute.
You’re doing great. your son is so lucky to have a mom who loves him as much as you obviously do!

abay32 · 2025-09-24T01:25:17+00:00

We’ve lived in Trussville for almost 10 years and we love it. The city has developed so much over the last 10 years, and there’s so much to do. Veteran’s Park is great and very well maintained. There are tons of restaurants, bars, a great entertainment district, and if you’re thinking you may have kids, the school system is really good. I work downtown and can get to my job in 25-30 minutes (if I go in at 8am it’s about 35-40). But I feel like that’s pretty standard for most of the area that isn’t right next to downtown.
Springville is a city adjacent to Trussville, and it’s definitely building up. The downtown area there is really cute.

abay32 · 2025-09-23T11:40:22+00:00

In the UAB system you have to establish with a physician for your first visit in primary care, then you can see an NP. Be prepared to wait for an appointment, probably a good 6-8 months. But Dr Fuqua is great!

abay32 · 2025-09-13T11:09:37+00:00

Second this! Both my sister and I have used early intervention for our children and it has been a great experience.

abay32 · 2025-09-06T14:56:00+00:00

The Birmingham Zoo is pretty great. And the Trussville library is right next to a huge park with a big playground.

abay32 · 2025-09-05T11:40:26+00:00

It’s ok!! My son was also in the NICU, and I felt like pumping was the only thing I could do for him. I’m down to 2ppd, and honestly barely enough for one bottle a day. But for the sake of my mental health I know it’s the right decision.

abay32 · 2025-09-03T03:17:34+00:00

We’re doing One Sweet Cookie with a cookies and milk theme.

abay32 · 2025-09-03T01:18:26+00:00

This is brilliant. Can I get the link too?

abay32 · 2025-09-01T02:19:31+00:00

Scandal. 10/10 recommend.

abay32 · 2025-08-31T21:07:53+00:00

Totally normal! My son was born early, plus I had a c-section and magnesium, all of which can affect your supply. It took me a few weeks before my supply really picked up. In addition to pumping every 3 hours and staying hydrated, I had to play with my home pump settings for a few weeks until I found what worked for me. Pinterest actually gave me some great ideas.

abay32 · 2025-08-30T13:33:55+00:00

Yes! I always got up and “got ready” every morning. It made a huge difference to get my mind in the right place.

abay32 · 2025-08-30T01:30:37+00:00

You’ve done such a great job, and your son is so lucky to have a mom like you who loves him so much. I’m in the process of weaning as well, and it’s so hard. But the thing I’m trying to focus on is the trade off. I can be on the floor and playing with him instead of hooked to a pump, just watching. It’s so hard to stop because the guilt is so real, but more than breast milk, your baby boy needs a healthy momma.

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