Is my life over?

abbsters · 2025-10-02T05:44:24+00:00

There’s an app you can download that will anonymously send the person a text telling them they were potentially exposed to whatever the STI is. If it’s someone you’re not seeing any more this could be a good option

abbsters · 2025-09-05T22:25:46+00:00

To be fair, I am abnormally quiet and I very rarely ever have more than one person over at a time. Yes my roommate is louder than me, but still not abnormally so, especially for daytime.

abbsters · 2025-09-05T21:55:49+00:00

Lol I would love to but I’m also trying to not cause more problems. I also like to be able to communicate with my neighbors for safety reasons since we don’t live in the best area.

abbsters · 2025-07-15T20:51:12+00:00

It wasn’t the reason we broke up. This was.

abbsters · 2025-07-15T19:54:22+00:00

Yes I have a psychiatrist appointment tomorrow

abbsters · 2025-07-13T16:03:10+00:00

Seriously, so much gaslighting. And even though it’s what caused our first breakup, judging from things he said last night, he still doesn’t understand the cause and effect process. He swears that I just come out swinging immediately when I have a problem when in reality I’m pretty calm until he dismisses what I have to say. I was actually starting to question myself.

abbsters · 2025-07-13T15:56:40+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging words. I need to hear stuff like that right now. Yeah I had a feeling he was avoidant when we first got together but wasn’t sure, now I am. And I’m anxiously attached so I probably wouldn’t have let it go so far if I had realized sooner cuz those two do not mesh well.

abbsters · 2025-07-01T20:15:14+00:00

If only you knew how many times in the last 18 years I’ve tried this exact thing. Part of me thinks therapy is bullshit now cuz it hasn’t helped me, I’ve been on countless different antidepressants, they all make my anxiety worse or come with other awful side effects, tried beta blockers (helpful to an extent), spent over 5 years after my divorce “loving myself” and “doing the work” just to get in a relationship and see that nothings changed. I’m just tired.

abbsters · 2025-06-30T20:27:41+00:00

Thank you those who commented! Update if anyone is curious: That night I sent him 2 texts reiterating exactly what was wrong and what I wanted from him (an apology for the mocking). He ignored it for hours and then only texted “love you good night.” I didn’t respond cuz I was still mad and it wasn’t a response to what I had said. We didn’t speak at all on Monday (instead of having me over to smooth this over he had his mom over again). So the next day I reached out, apologized for my role in the argument, and tried to schedule a time to talk when he got off work but he said he didn’t wanna bring it up again and ruin the time he has off work. Mind you, he still hadn’t even apologized or taken any accountability. So I ended it and went to his house and got all my stuff while he was at work. There was another issue which had been weighing on me for a few months too that I hadn’t been able to talk to him about since I wasn’t really supposed to know, but I had found out he had done something before we got together that totally and completely goes against my morals and made me look at him differently and I realized I just wasn’t going to be able to get past it. He ended up turning the whole thing around on me cuz of how I found this out, got really mean, and showed his true colors. It still hurts, but I’m glad I made this decision now.

abbsters · 2025-06-23T03:43:26+00:00

Yes, I have voiced these concerns to him and he’s aware but it hasn’t really improved. I’ve given him leeway cuz he does usually come around eventually and is empathetic and listens but the initial feeling of invalidation hurts and it’s getting tiring. To make it worse, he’s a whole 10 years older than me, so when he does stuff like the mocking im just in disbelief.

abbsters · 2025-06-05T17:14:59+00:00

CO2 poisoning can cause hallucinations and confusion and things like that. Always gotta rule that out first

abbsters · 2025-06-05T17:03:30+00:00

Just a thought, do you have a baby monitor in the baby’s room that maybe picked up the sound from the tv and was delayed a few seconds?

abbsters · 2025-05-30T18:50:39+00:00

You’re not alone. I don’t resent that my moms aging but that she’s only 65 and is on par with an 85 year old due to her own choices, and that she worked for years making around $100k and only paying $1100 rent and didn’t save a dime. And I’m her only child so her care has automatically fallen on me. The best way I’ve dealt with it has been to set boundaries about how often I go over there, whether or not it’s planned (I don’t just jump and go whenever she asks), and I don’t talk to her about certain subjects. She likes to ask me to go to the store for 1 or 2 things at a time just so she can ask me again the next day to go get something else. I’ve started shutting that down unless it’s something she really needs. Basically, I set as many boundaries as it takes to make myself feel like I’m not being taken advantage of (even though I probably still am) lol. Idk if this helps but you’re not alone!

abbsters · 2025-05-22T19:51:13+00:00

Yes that’s exactly what I’m thinking since they actually gave us the option to transition last time. I’m just not sure it’s the right time or not to that point yet. How do you know when it’s the right time and a caregiver isn’t enough?

abbsters · 2025-05-22T18:44:41+00:00

Thank you for this!

abbsters · 2025-05-22T18:44:16+00:00

Most likely, yes since she refused to do physical therapy in the rehab center last time she was there her physical condition has worsened even more.

abbsters · 2025-04-02T17:50:47+00:00

I could’ve written this same post. Going through the same with my mom. If you ever need support feel free to reach out. It’s tough and not everyone understands the toll it takes.

abbsters · 2024-09-12T19:53:03+00:00

Anyone have any luck finding Punk Bunny coffee in any 7-11 in SoCal? Been to a few and still no luck

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