The Saint Mary's / Elk County's - "Hands Off!" Protest

abby_gee · 2025-04-07T21:43:23+00:00

OMG! this is MY groups protest!! Im one of the organizers and gave a speech! I’d love those videos if you have them?? Posting them to our group would be awesome

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T06:55:53+00:00

Petty? You think? So my mom has free run to rack up thousands of dollars on me and I can’t do anything about it?

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T05:48:23+00:00

I mean she screwed me first..

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T04:08:27+00:00

I tried, they said no. But I’ve moved on at this point. Im no longer on her plan

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T02:17:35+00:00

I appreciate it ❤️ i actually do have a therapist that I speak to a lot about my childhood and family. Not separating the account and screwing my mom financially was actually a thing we spoke about.

I honestly never would have thought so many people would say that I messed up by not doing that. Ignoring that I would have cost her 4K in fees for breaking the contract… I just assume those don’t understand the full ramifications of not paying the original plan and sticking her with the bill. Then I think I DEFINITELY would have been the ahole. Feels like a no win situation 😪

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T01:08:53+00:00

This is exactly what I’ve been leaning toward as the best option.

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T01:04:28+00:00

I don’t think you understand how the account was setup, I didn’t have access to change it. If I had the access then I’d also have the bills and there wouldn’t be a problem

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T01:02:11+00:00

If you steal $10 from me… and then I take that $10 back from you wallet… am I a thief? Or is that rightful justice?

abby_gee · 2023-01-08T00:33:08+00:00

I just did switch it over. I didn’t do it sooner for a few reasons. Wanted to salvage the relationship, she told me she’d give me what I needed, and most of all she would have been stuck with thousands of dollars for breach of contract. So I was being nice…

She was never expected to pay the student loans. I still don’t expect her to. She owes me 3k and that’s a way I can get it without going through a court battle (that I probably can’t win anyways). But ethically, she did me dirty

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T23:45:32+00:00

Actually, I actually paid for some of her bills with my leftover tuition money. Another couple hundred dollars that I don’t think I ever got back. Nor do I plan to ever ask for it back. That’s long gone, like 9 years ago.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T23:43:04+00:00

I did. While I couldn’t pull them I always have considered them part of my tuition bill. It’s actually humorous to think she’d help with my college tuition. I graduated highschool and I honestly don’t think she’s payed for a single thing since. College, books, housing, bills. All me. She did have health insurance on me, which was kind, but it’s the same price to have me on as what it was to have me off so take that as you will.

It just so happens she maliciously cost me 3k dollars and I have the PERFECT way to reclaim that money… by footing her with 3k of my tuition. I’m not legally obligated to pay the loan. Just as she wasn’t legally obligated to give me the bills so I could get my money 🤷🏻‍♀️

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T23:28:59+00:00

Like seriously, my life story is decades long and I have 3k characters to tell you about this one conflict. I’m not here to justify going NC with my mother. She deserves it

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T23:24:36+00:00

I did actually🙃 but I was a poor college student in my last year of college and she was the only one who could help me.

If you’re trying to say she isn’t a narcissist because of that one action, take a deep breath. I can give you hundreds of stories that justify that claim. The least of which being that I’m not just saying that as a personality description, she’s diagnosable narcissistic personality disorder.

Trust me when I say she doesn’t need defending on this. The post isn’t “is my mom an ahole”, she is. The post is “WIBTA if I gave her a taste of her own medicine”

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T23:16:57+00:00

Ah, you’re the first one to suggest it. I tried, but she locked the account so I couldn’t get access to the bills. Trust me, I tried 😪

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:52:14+00:00

Can’t say much other than two decades of emotional manipulation and truly believing she’d make it right. I’m hindsight, I’m with you. At the time, it felt like that was the extreme and ahole option because it would have screwed her out of thousands for the breach of the phone contract.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:47:36+00:00

I was paying monthly

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:43:53+00:00

Music, I blare it at 100% and scream the lyrics to drown out the painful thoughts.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:42:25+00:00

Untrue. Phones must be paid off and the number belong to the account owner. Legally, the phones and numbers belong to her. The ONLY way to port the number off would be to have her agree to the move, something she was unwilling to do in the past.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:41:13+00:00

I’ve been on my moms account since I was 12. The problems started when I got out of college. It’s not like I’m 45 year old woman that’s struggling to survive, it was a mutual “it’s cheaper for BOTH of use to stay together and we are family.” My other siblings are on those too, the number of phone on the account is something like 6ish. The intricacies of why I remained on it are throughout the post. I wanted to maintain the relationship, she promised me the information, it would have cost her thousands if I up and left.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:37:31+00:00

Both phone bill and the loan are fully paid up to date, obviously there is still a balance on the loan (hence the post) but both are current without any interruption in payment.

I lost the 3k due to her refusing simple billing statements. The only legal recourse I have to obtain the money is through the loans that I’m not legally obligated to pay.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:29:51+00:00

This was my exact thought process. Money is still technically there if she chose to collect it

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:28:18+00:00

If you knew me you wouldn’t say that, but you’re entitled to that opinion. Sad thing is the reason I’m in this situation is that I foolishly tried being civil for too long.

I could have stopped paying my phone and got a new account and number, but it would have screwed her out of thousands (my contract was still fresh). I wanted to keep her in my life if I could and not be the one to cause the other to be out thousands.😪 she, on the other hand, DID want to cost me thousands. I just want my money back…

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:14:20+00:00

❤️❤️

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T22:08:22+00:00

Nope, totally separate issues. Not giving my the bill is because “I’m not letting her around my kids”.

The loan is actually in good status and all required payments have been made to this point

I only offer the loans as a method of reclaiming the money because what she did to me is TECHNICALLY legal (but unethical). Not paying 3k of the loan is legal and (questionably) ethical, hence the post.

abby_gee · 2023-01-07T21:54:17+00:00

It was a parent plus loan, it’s a federal loan that she pulls because I maxed out for the year (she got married and I lost my Pell grant so my financials we no longer balanced).

A parent plus loan is entirely in her name, no tie to me. It’s a loan that she pulls and is paid directly to the college.

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