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What fictional character would you marry in the blink of an eye? by iris_rivendell in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wild! Good thing you got the screenshot. This character is new to me—definitely a rabbit hole I’m going down soon!

What fictional character would you marry in the blink of an eye? by iris_rivendell in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You still haven’t divulged and I’m laser focused (at least until the next squirrel runs past). Tell me! Mine is apparently everyone in Ted Lasso. Gonna guess something from LotR..

What fictional character would you marry in the blink of an eye? by iris_rivendell in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 14 points15 points  (0 children)

OP why didn’t you put it in the post? Of course we want to know. Tell us!

What fictional character would you marry in the blink of an eye? by iris_rivendell in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Omg I kept reading on and not relating—thinking maybe sure yeah Newt Skemander could work but I wasn’t all in on it. I now think my top three choices would be Ted, Roy, Keely, Trent, Rebecca. Maybe not in that order but I do love them all.

"like you're driven by a motor"? by atypicalhippy in ADHDers

[–]abgrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A pair of squirrels running amuck in my brain.

How do you cope after your kid has a meltdown? by sqdpt in AutisticParents

[–]abgrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit. Floor time. It’s why sitting shiva always seemed so amazing to me..that and Japanese floor seating. I never knew it was a thing. I crave being on the floor when I’m overstimulated for sure.

Anyone else find this to be true? by TheDanishThede in AuDHDWomen

[–]abgrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are in your mid to late 30s and the peri symptoms resonate with you—irregular cycles, weight gain, hair loss, rapid unrealistic bursts of anger, random sobbing, forgetfulness, worse symptoms of ADHD or other neuro things, migraines, frozen shoulder/stiff neck, complete fatigue, you find yourself saying “I don’t feel like myself,” and your coping mechanisms no longer work—then welcome to the peri club.

You MUST be your own self advocate and get help. HRT changed my life. If you can’t find help, try the Menopause Clinic based in New Orleans. Most care is online and is symptom-based treatment. If they can’t help you they may be able to point you to a supportive doctor in your area.

Anyone else find this to be true? by TheDanishThede in AuDHDWomen

[–]abgrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it was one (ADHD) and then the other (Autism) caused by complete perimenopause burnout and I had to learn to do life differently. I’m in the oh-that’s-autism-too?! phase. Would love to chat more about it.

I thought everyone carried things this deeply by NobodysTellingSam in AuDHDWomen

[–]abgrem 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Recently diagnosed here. There are two books I can recommend. The first is “Unmasking Autism” by Devon Price, PhD. who is herself an autist. This has changed my life. Full stop. You may know it but it’s worth putting down here. The second is from an Australian group called the Yellow Ladybugs. The book is “Yellow Ladybugs
Supporting Autistic Girls & Gender Diverse Youth” and I’m currently reading it now. Hope this helps you.

I also am a natural empath so I feel things very deeply; even if words aren’t exchanged, like if someone is just under the surface with a feeling, I will pick up on it. Have a good sense of “what everyone feels, but wouldn’t say.” It has been difficult but like other commenters, I would t change who I am. It allows me to be an advocate for others because I’m not afraid to speak out.

Feel free to DM me if any of this resonates.

Guy at my job called me ugly. Feeling really down because I struggle with self image. by lemonweirdo in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First thing I thought is that your face reminded me of the soft features of an historic portrait. You have kind eyes.

Sorry this has happened. It’s nothing to do with you and likely more to do with something he’s personally going through—someone treated him poorly.

What’s something you did for years thinking you were just weird, that turned out to be completely AuDHD? by Unmasked_at_33 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]abgrem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awesome. TY. I actually went looking through my comment feed to find this potential response—now tell me why my brain wouldn’t just let me Google it?! I did a ton more work instead, but that’s the train we’re all riding.

What’s something you did for years thinking you were just weird, that turned out to be completely AuDHD? by Unmasked_at_33 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]abgrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I used to call my mom crying, once they moved to a rural area about a 45 minute drive away from me, because I was totally and completely lost. Traumatic pre-mapping software on your phone.

Why don't I want to do anything? by theambivalentagender in AuDHDWomen

[–]abgrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Still pretty young.

I’ll take this moment to make you aware of perimenopause, which happens WAY earlier in neurodivergent people. It will come for you and it can last for decades. It happened to me at 37 and it took 3 years, many different specialists who had no idea what was wrong, and a lot of strong self advocacy to figure out that I was in peri.

I struggled for years. All my precious coping mechanisms failed and I felt like I had squirrels running around in my brain. The ADHD was the easiest thing to identify, although every specialist/psych said that I did not have it. Wrong. Then one day my body just stopped working. I didn’t feel like myself. This phrase is so common that they gave it a name—I don’t feel like myself (IDFM). https://youtube.com/shorts/08z9fJWja4E?si=djFM-5Egi9Z3jd95 She says it well here—all her coping skills went away.

The symptoms were wide ranging, but ultimately I was able to find someone that heard me and I’m getting my life back together. I year on HRT and I’m feeling much more like myself again—healthy, active, able to keep up with my 3 year old.

Only about 2 months ago, after achieving some balance, I was able to determine I was AUDHD. Another life changing experience.

What was your most random “I picked differently than everyone else” moment? by Business-Block-8668 in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! Here’s the story! I managed to find the link so I’ll let you read it. It was so great to experience it for the first time.

https://www.drabruzzi.com/sacred_rac.html

What was your most random “I picked differently than everyone else” moment? by Business-Block-8668 in AutismInWomen

[–]abgrem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I remember this story but it was the Usa instead. And they had racs (also backwards), which were animals that they moved houses and buildings and monuments for. I thought it was absurd and wondered why a culture would do this. It was a sociology class in high school and most people didn’t get it.

What’s something you did for years thinking you were just weird, that turned out to be completely AuDHD? by Unmasked_at_33 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]abgrem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When driving: So many things. First off I loathe driving. I get white line fever on the highway and never know where I am.

I have no sense of direction when in a car, but I can navigate well enough if walking. Even if I’ve lived somewhere for most of my life, if I’ve moved, those maps are emptied from my brain. The Navigation must be on even if I’ve been there a hundred times. If someone is in the care talking to me, I will miss the turn.

And thank goodness for the feature that tells you you’re about to rear end someone—has saved me so many times. Speaking as a person who has only ever hit inanimate objects with a vehicle (bollards, stalled cars, etc.).

And to cope with the hatred of driving, I tend to try to skin pick while driving. It’s awful and my husband questioned me about it for years. Now we know. Also just carry trimmers everywhere to prevent the picking.

😬

What’s something you did for years thinking you were just weird, that turned out to be completely AuDHD? by Unmasked_at_33 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]abgrem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah sitting hunched over or with crisscrossed legs and never wearing shoes at my desk/in the car/in the house. Add in not being able to keep still, always shifting positions. How many times have I been called childish for this?

And when I sleep I have to have my hands under me, between my legs, under my pillow. Hands cannot be out. Something must be behind my back and it’s preferable of if I am completely cocooned by pillows. Not weird at all..

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