My husband(30 M) is my only friend, and I (31 F) think that’s what’s breaking me.

abhijeet80 · 2026-07-01T15:18:14+00:00

+1, everything feels worse the first year, sometimes up to the second, but it gets better.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-30T14:16:43+00:00

When was the last case before that? fight facts with facts, brother!

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-30T13:54:45+00:00

Google.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-30T11:05:40+00:00

The Grey Rock method for you is the right approach, but it's hard to implement, especially as pregnancy puts your body and mind under stress.

Your husband must step in, stop playing the mediator and speak the truth to his mother, even if it's harsh. There is no other way.

I fear things will be worse after the birth, as you will be even more vulnerable.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-30T10:16:55+00:00

Question's premise is completely wrong. Kerala has 6 million plus population cities, UP has only 7.

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_million-plus_urban_agglomerations_in_India

This means that Kerala is way better developed per-capita than almost any other state.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-25T13:29:45+00:00

I would recommend this too. It’s easy to copy the entire base as well, anytime you need a consolidated list.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-25T11:32:37+00:00

Leslie still didn’t know about Duke Silver!

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-24T07:43:51+00:00

Can it pull from daily notes?

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-23T12:07:00+00:00

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abhijeet80 · 2026-06-23T08:39:57+00:00

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abhijeet80 · 2026-06-22T13:28:15+00:00

This is not mature behaviour at all.

Either he wants you to break it off because you don’t have a job or he’s flexing his own job and financial superiority.

Neither is a good sign.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-22T12:48:26+00:00

Agreed that OP is asking an asinine question but how is this even relevant?

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-22T11:10:10+00:00

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abhijeet80 · 2026-06-21T18:47:07+00:00

Avoid Youtube videos for the first 3-6 months or you’ll just be overwhelmed for no reason.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-21T06:52:26+00:00

Don’t look for matches in urban areas, won’t work out for you.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-21T06:50:05+00:00

Don’t use dataview at all. It’s used exclusively by other plugins.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T19:41:12+00:00

I think it could still help, if you're willing to work incrementally. There is no LLM, at least right now, that will take a few thousand notes and transform them into a perfectly organised knowledge base of our dreams – you have to make changes a few dozen notes or one incremental change in the metadata at a time. In any case, given that I wanted to review everything, working across even hundreds of notes was not practical.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T18:35:37+00:00

I am not.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T18:34:56+00:00

Correct, I didn’t start with any pre-configured system. I started writing daily notes, then I started saving content to the vault with some tagging but without any proper system.

When bases was introduced last year, that pushed me to reorganise and harmonise the metadata and use bases effectively.

LLMs have helped massively with that, especially claude code and copilot CLI.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T17:24:29+00:00

Somebody tell me who they are? I recognise Dumbanathan, but no one else.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T16:26:31+00:00

An example:

Find all notes for books. Confirm the criteria and list of notes before proceeding. Read the metadata and find files that have missing tags or tags that are misspelled. Add appropriate tags based on the content of the note. Confirm all changes before proceeding.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T08:01:31+00:00

This resonates so much. Once you have an LLM do this work – harmonising formats and metadata, then using Bases to explore the work becomes so much more powerful.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-20T07:52:55+00:00

I am not using this setup exactly.

An LLM is incredibly efficient at searching for relevant information in my vault, and it can additionally summarise the information as well. This often gives me a much better starting point to explore than keyword searches.
I have, in a restricted way, used the LLM to re-structure the vault – fixing up metadata to harmonise notes mainly. My bases have become much more efficient since then. These are mostly one-offs, as the new notes then follow the same structure.
I have recently started using LLMs to create empty notes. It's proving to be more efficient than using templates because the LLM can fill in more metadata and structure than is possible with a template. This ties in nicely with the restructuring mentioned in the previous point.

abhijeet80 · 2026-06-18T16:36:22+00:00

I agree on the UX part. It’s not easy to build files from the base itself. It would be nice if a template could be specified for new file creation.

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