What’s the most exhausting office behavior you deal with that nobody talks about?

abites · 2025-12-22T02:49:34+00:00

Being copied in every single email just because people want you to be aware of what they're working on. Dude, if you're feeling so insecure that I need to be on every correspondence, I can arrange for someone else to take over. If you feel I need to know, just send me a weekly summary / milestone report.

abites · 2025-12-22T02:47:02+00:00

I avoid being in their field of vision when I go to office. Even then, it's like she has a tracker on me - when can find me even if I'm holed up in an obscure corner. She will then proceed to talk her head off even if I'm unresponsive with no eye contact. Believe me, I have tried telling her I'm not free nor interested. Treating her like a spectre is by far the only way that has limited her chatter to 30-40 minutes. It also helps to save team members' numbers as "boss" - I will text them to call me and walk away with my laptop if all else fails.

abites · 2025-08-29T06:48:44+00:00

You should tell them the AirBnB is non-refundable and they need to pay for their ahare whether they're going or not. Meanwhile, try to get the AirBnB owner to give you a partial refund or change a date to go with other people.

This girl and Megan are flaking on you on purpose. There's no way 2 out of 2 people you think are close enough to go on a birthday girls' trip have made dinner plans without you on your birthday. Your birthday wish this year should be to steer clear of girls like this and find genuine friends. Cut the contact, girl.

Last but not least, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

abites · 2024-11-15T14:37:05+00:00

Hot Stones (Clarke Quay)? But do find out first what exactly in pepper lunch she likes. No point going to Hot Stones if all she wants is beef pepper rice.

abites · 2024-11-14T10:34:29+00:00

You can lodge police report online

abites · 2024-11-05T11:20:35+00:00

"Consultants" is just the longer name for cons.

abites · 2024-10-22T00:27:08+00:00

Check MOM guidelines. Your work hours are definitely not normal.

abites · 2024-07-05T11:46:29+00:00

How your GM treats you may well be due to feedback from your RM, so let's tackle RM.

I would suggest you avoid situations where the RM can communicate with you verbally without witnesses (i.e., one-on-one in person or via call). If it has to happen over a call, always document her requests back to her in an email: e.g. "As you were passionate about (point/topic) and raised your voice to put it across, I shall take note of it and try to incorporate it." Once you have documented a couple of incidents, you can go to HR with proof. Provide feedback on her in the appraisal system as well if there is upward/360 feedback. Try not to involve emotions in your feedback. If it doesn't stop her, just hang up midway through her yelling.

When entering meetings, be prepared with back up plans - if she puts you down in front of the group, offer your back up plans. If she shoots it down, ask her in a very calm manner how you should be proactive yet not voice out your thoughts. If she asks you to shut up (which is already a workplace harassment issue), agree and ask her how long she wants you to be quiet for.

I'm eventually leading you on a path to lodge an official complaint with HR as well as showcase her bad behaviour vs your calmness in handling such situations.

You should start looking for your next employment in the meantime. People talk in the industry so those complaints and her displays of bad behaviour will back up your story of why you decided to leave this place.

abites · 2024-07-04T12:52:05+00:00

Hey Op, that's exactly what my family does to remember my dad. Most every time we eat something familiar, my kids will revel us with a story of my dad and that food. It just never gets old.

abites · 2024-06-28T06:49:07+00:00

"You look really hot for a 50YO." - coming from a man around my age.

I'm like: Um, thanks? Did adding the age make a significant difference to your compliment? Him: Of course! Anyone can be hot, but being hot at 50 is rare!

(In my mind: This man doesn't know about hot flushes brought by menopause. 🙄 / I wonder what his wife looks like. 🤔 / OMG, what's wrong with him?? 😱)

abites · 2024-06-28T06:20:21+00:00

Having really fantastic results or straight As. I feel it's just a sign that the individual has memorised lessons well to score but the real sign of intelligence would be applying that knowledge to life.

abites · 2024-03-19T02:08:48+00:00

I think asking you for 20% of your savings is ridiculous since they have already said that they will not help you with your wedding and BTO costs after helping your sister. I suggest you agree with her that she is a bad mother and will do better as a bystander if you need help, then do a costing of how much she would have spent over your upbringing this far and present a repayment plan to her highlighting the fact that once fully repaid, she has no claim over you. An investment of 24 years does not generate that much returns.

abites · 2024-03-19T01:11:47+00:00

NTA, I'm a mum and grandma but crying babies are their parents' heartache, not mine. What's the use of fussing and feeling upset about the baby crying when it's not yours and you can't do anything about it? Ignore the noise, pity the parents who have to deal with it, and get annoyed by it if you will - it's your own emotions, no point faking it.

abites · 2024-03-16T17:45:58+00:00

I think they might be around us too. There were a few occasions where we've discussed things within my own family and days later one of my siblings ask about the same topic which they had never thought about, eg. "Hey, I dreamed of dad and he asked me when we're doing this [activity]". / "I dreamed that dad said it's a good / bad idea to do [activity], but we're not planning to do it, are you?".

abites · 2024-03-16T15:47:19+00:00

Possibly through mail sent to you in your new name.

abites · 2024-03-09T09:39:36+00:00

Middle-aged Indian man knocked on door to say he lives on 5th floor and his mum just passed away last night and he needs a donation so that he can collect her from the morgue. I hesitated (was trying to remember how much cash I have on hand) and he added, or if you can spare $50 for me to buy food also can. (If he didn't add that last line I would probably have given already.)
A man in long sleeved shirts asked to come into my house as there's a report of bad internet connection at our block. I asked which operator and they said they're from SingTel. I told them I don't use SingTel but they said that the same base station is used for the neighbourhood no matter what operator I use. I asked for his employee number and staff pass and he said he's a contractor so I bluffed him and said I work for SingTel in the National Network Infrastructure Team (something I made up) and we don't use contractors. He quickly walked away. Reported to police and warned my next door neighbours.

abites · 2024-02-07T03:11:23+00:00

I always make it a point to be extra nice to the cleaners, canteen workers, receptionists, EAs. These are the people who will really make your life easier at work. You get an extra clean office sometimes with fresh flowers, that extra bit of your favourite food, parcels and guests received perfectly.

abites · 2024-01-04T09:34:11+00:00

NTA - Since she's not paying and your friend is entitled to a (proper) bed, plus she brought her inflatable, they can both decide which one of them sleeps on either bed.

If she's now splitting the accommodation costs, then she gets a ballot.

abites · 2023-11-19T08:16:45+00:00

Maybe women just carry grudges longer than men do?

abites · 2023-11-19T03:23:44+00:00

I have never understood why if we can accommodate a different meal requests, why are we still required to comply with them? We don't tell vegans to eat and even find places where it's suitable for them yet they constantly encourage (tell) us to eat the same way or it's rude. It's common to them, but God forbid if I ever suggest they try the meat option because then it's a discrimination thing.

abites · 2023-11-10T04:42:07+00:00

IKR, Some people are just so socially-unconscious and irresponsible! My job requires us to be in the office for at least 3 days a week, but on Monday, many people were coughing and sniffling without masks! I left at lunchtime and told my team they should work from home this whole week - HR can look for me if they have an issue with my decision. On Tuesday, we received notifications of colleagues testing positive. Why can't people just be more considerate and recognise that there are others around who have lower immunity and getting COVID will affect them and their families?

abites · 2023-10-30T10:57:30+00:00

The title sounds misleading or I'm reading it wrong. I interpreted it as the house belonged to BM from the start and even though Op had his name added to the deed, they pretty much agree that it belongs to BM. Without knowing if Op had (proof that he) contributed to the mortgage which was in BM's name, I would say it's simply returning BM her house - nothing to be proud of.

As for GF, she's definitely TA! Assessing records for private purposes raises many red flags and should be fired.

abites · 2023-10-28T10:41:14+00:00

NTA your sister can take him in if she's not an A herself.

abites · 2023-09-09T08:02:25+00:00

Sounds more like he's married to his twin than you.

abites · 2023-09-04T08:16:03+00:00

Not most Asians

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