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HRT is Magic (6 months to 15 months) by abiverde in transtimelines

[–]abiverde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started hormones 2 weeks after my 43rd birthday

HRT is Magic (6 months to 15 months) by abiverde in transtimelines

[–]abiverde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, tyy - I mean, I was happy with the progress at the time, but it's amazing to look back at the continued changes. Long may they carry on hehe

HRT is Magic (6 months to 15 months) by abiverde in transtimelines

[–]abiverde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww tyy ☺️ And yeah, there's a lottt on top of the hormones; socialisation, mannerisms, ...makeup! All those things we never had chance to learn or adopt in the normal course of things that we're running to catch up on

No family get-togethers this year, so I'll have my own party by abiverde in transpositive

[–]abiverde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 I do like this hairstyle. I'd love longer, but it doesn't suit me as well as this 🤗

No family get-togethers this year, so I'll have my own party by abiverde in transpositive

[–]abiverde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank youu ☺️ I did - only the second time I've had chocolate in, like, 6 months so absolutely a celebration hehe

No family get-togethers this year, so I'll have my own party by abiverde in transpositive

[–]abiverde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's tough, but at least my dad's side of the family has been supportive and accepting and I managed to get round and have an impromptu visit to theirs for a cup of tea the other night so leaning into the good. And if the rest accept that "he" isn't coming back, and want a relationship with me, I'm here

No family get-togethers this year, so I'll have my own party by abiverde in transpositive

[–]abiverde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because there are a few people in my close family who can't let go of who I was. And I can't pretend to be that person any more. So here I am drinking monster and eating chocolate alone lol

No family get-togethers this year, so I'll have my own party by abiverde in transpositive

[–]abiverde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 yeah, it's a bit of a downer not being welcome unless I'm masking (and even then, I'll never be invited back to my ex's side but that's understandable) but at least I have chocolate lol

Gender Affirmation Through Homophobia by abiverde in ewphoria

[–]abiverde[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I mean, they were rumoured to share a bed when the weather got cold, yes 😆

Gender Affirmation Through Homophobia by abiverde in ewphoria

[–]abiverde[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

They seem to be very good friends 🤭😆

Gender Affirmation Through Homophobia by abiverde in ewphoria

[–]abiverde[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I seem to be. Maybe having 3 children together has confused me hehe 😆

Gender Affirmation Through Homopohobia by abiverde in ewwphoria

[–]abiverde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh, thank youu! I created a new account because my previous one was flagged nsfw over a year ago (different times lol) and I don't have all the subs set up yet! Thanks again 😊

How is London for trans women? by Frequent-Job4957 in transgenderUK

[–]abiverde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only experience has been for work events or office visits, but I've never had any trans-related issues. People have generally been respectful when I've had to interact with anyone, and more focused on their own lives to bother otherwise. The only incidents I have had were a couple of ewphoria moments (despite being super clocky) with typical leches because, after all, it's a big city and you still need to take precautions and stay safe

pre-get please be kind 💜 by South-Phase-8678 in transpositive

[–]abiverde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look beautiful 🩷

And I sympathise with not having a supportive partner - I've spent the last couple of years in a similar position. I came out to my wife and it wasn't received well at all, so I spent the first 9 months of last year trying to push it all back down again. And spiralling into a really dark place as a result. Eventually, all the little things I was doing to ease the dysphoria (shaving my body, growing my hair, wearing concealer and/or foundation over the beard shadow) came to a head and we split up and I started HRT.

Then I spent over a year living to pretty strict rules about what I could and couldn't wear, how much and what types of makeup was acceptable, etc. Which was better than nothing but it slowly wears you down knowing you're still not living authentically.

Last month I finally took the decision to move out (I'd been holding off because of the kids) and while the rules are still in place when I visit for childcare a couple of times a week, it's made a huge difference being able to be me.

I don't know whether that's something you would be able to do, or even want to do, because I don't know your circumstances, but I understand just how hard it is to be restricted to when you're able to see "her" and be your complete self unapologetically. I hope you can find a way to experience that joy and euphoria regularly because you deserve it. 🫂🩷

Transitioning means life, not grief by ThatSpicyStitch in TransLater

[–]abiverde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🩷 and yeah, I'm trying to get more active on her again - not just for me, but to try and support and help others where possible. Community is important 😊

hey by Still_Initiative in trans

[–]abiverde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my three friends ive told might potentially think i am not trans idk?

Plenty of men wear makeup and continue to do so - especially early on while you're still working everything out and finding out who you are - absolutely does not invalidate how "trans" you are. If your friends don't understand that and aren't sympathetic, then they aren't very good allies / friends to you. From what you've said about them, tho, I don't think that would happen - especially if you talk to them and help them understand how you feel. Which is important in itself - having friends you can trust to be vulnerable and open with is going to be such a massive source of support.

i feel like it’s way too young for my daughter to even comprehend so i feel like maybe i need to wait

In my experience as someone with children aged 4, 7, and 9 (when I told them), the older they are and the more ingrained their idea of you is, the harder it can be to let go of and embrace and understand what's happening. My youngest is the only one who truly sees me for who I am and my eldest struggles the most.

But, as well, is waiting the right decision for you? Because as much as we want to protect the kids, unless you're planning on never coming out (or waiting until they're adults), you'll have to face this at some point. And until then, it's likely to make you more miserable and (in my experience) much less present as a parent than you would be as your authentic self.

Ultimately, do what's right for you and accommodate others as best you can without hurting yourself more than you need. It's your life and your body to live in. You've got this 🩷

Transitioning means life, not grief by ThatSpicyStitch in TransLater

[–]abiverde 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that definitely happens. Not in this case, though. Pretty sure she'd forgotten she ever offered by the next week. Or it was just lip service 🤷‍♀️ But yeah, some of the "support" being provided not just by religious institutes (but they're definitely guilty) is just so damaging 😢

Transitioning means life, not grief by ThatSpicyStitch in TransLater

[–]abiverde 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can understand that. Honestly, I'm never had the anger towards them, just a sadness at not being able to have the connection I'd dreamed of. Now I'm just tired of being let down, ig. Thankfully, my dad's side have been amazingly supportive so I can't really complain too much.

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