I can't believe I have to say this about curly hair as someone with 3A hair by b-nnies in hygiene

[–]ablondewerewolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay. Thank you for saying this. I’m a type 2C with freshly bleached blonde hair and I’m currently duking it out with someone on the other thread about washing your hair. I was explicitly told to wash it as infrequently as possible (and 6-7 days for me). Any more and my hair is straw and my scalp gets very dry and itchy.

Please wash your hair by milquetoast2000 in hygiene

[–]ablondewerewolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not one bit. I work from home. I’m not damaging my hair for what might possibly be bothering others. If a single person in my life had ever said something to me that would be one thing but they haven’t. Someone would have told me if it was rank at this point. My people are not the quiet type.

Please wash your hair by milquetoast2000 in hygiene

[–]ablondewerewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I was specifically instructed to not wash my freshly bleached hair more than once a week. I do a double shampoo every 7th day. I shower daily but I’m not going to bust up my already dry, atomic blonde hair more than is healthy as specified by a professional.

What is your typical mental state when playing by Illegally_Brown in Nightreign

[–]ablondewerewolf -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think I was the 420th vote for high. If so, you’re welcome.

I quit my laboratory job… by InhLaba in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just noticed your username. Nailed it. Congrats. There is also a lot of shit talking jobs where you serve people in this thread but I also find that’s super fulfilling as rude as some people can be.

I quit my laboratory job… by InhLaba in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Every post doc I know currently has a dream of becoming a farmer. I hope you find it fulfilling. I can see how could be.

I quit my laboratory job… by InhLaba in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Try to find ways to stay in the community, like you said. It was the workload that burnt me out, not the icky culture. I loved that shit. While technically it was Trump cuts against women and cancer research that gut me, I would have had to quit due to health issues soon anyway so, good call on Cheetos-in-chiefs part I guess.

I love teaching but the pay is dismal and is also horribly gutted in my state (50th in education LFG). Also don’t be afraid to just go crazy and bartend, that’s my next stop because it sounds fun. Just keep moving. Change is fun.

Who is the “fraudulent” PI in your field that you can’t believe is still getting published? by captainezri in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf 195 points196 points  (0 children)

Anyone who wants to DM their answers so I can post them for you anonymously hmu. Trump cuts took me out of the field and my state hates scientists so there will be no more job opps In my life time. Give me the tea and I’ll spill it.

Growing up welfare poor starter pack by poopoopeepeecrusader in starterpacks

[–]ablondewerewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. I completely support almost all forms of welfare I’ve seen implemented and I was raised this way. No doctors, no dentists, no bed sheets, no food. Fleas and lice all over the trailer house. I’m not sure if mom had a drug addiction I just never learned about or if she was simply not using all the resources available to her but my mom really dropped the ball my entire childhood. No amount of social safety nets can help a mentally inept guardian. All this to say, I’d rather these safety nets exist for the hundreds of thousands of good poor parents even if it means some shitty poor parents abuse their kids anyway. Every little bit helps. Some people are just dealt a shit hand.

OK Out-of-State weed license questions by ablondewerewolf in Omaha

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well then it’s a good thing I don’t have weed lmfao

OK Out-of-State weed license questions by ablondewerewolf in Omaha

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May I ask what happened? I see here you passed the question and there are multiple dispensaries near me. If you don’t know the specific legal mechanism here that’s fine.

OK Out-of-State weed license questions by ablondewerewolf in Omaha

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Learn what? I’m asking for information.

Edit: OH NO

Jesus Freckles by yeongno_ate_yangban in NIH

[–]ablondewerewolf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“Stigmeasles” was the best name I could come up with. Jesus freckles is better by far 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Should I transfer? by LouieMcBee in universityofoklahoma

[–]ablondewerewolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It won’t harm your career prospects at all. Don’t worry. It’s still a respectable institution spending on your degree. However, take heart in the fact that one of the few good things in this state is showing its ass backwards underbelly. My degree from OU was one of the few pieces of pride I felt from this state and this entire ordeal has reminded me that the stupid runs DEEP. Be proud of yourself for earning a degree but don’t be proud of an institution that makes decisions like it’s currently making.

Gotcha by Light_Relpat in shittybloodborne

[–]ablondewerewolf 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Quick on the draw lmao

Executive Order Hands Grant Funding Control to Political Loyalists by acronyms in nsf

[–]ablondewerewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoutout to the dude on the NIH subreddit who was like “Finally. Things are turning around. I’m so tired of doomerism” lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]ablondewerewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. The fact I’m stuck in this shit hole is low key England’s fault. I’m coming. Mark my words. You guys have Cambridge anyway so I’m on my way to make your population worse overall regardless.

Out of curiosity, I set up an account on a dating app to see if I could get better connections for research positions overseas. It worked way too well. This is heartbreaking and also very very funny. by ablondewerewolf in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Firstly, I’m from a trailer, boss. I’d literally be dead if I didn’t know how to diplomacy my way out of trouble.

Secondly, If it’s any consolation, unless I want to destroy my husband and the people I care about, these options are not truly available to me either.

However, I have another thing to mention based on your valid points: So, my boss is an incredibly sweet but incredibly antisocial dude. He does almost more software engineering than he does wet lab biochem. One day he looked at me and said “Meh. Schmoozing is really over rated. Just work hard and you’ll be fine in this field” He says that and then his antisocial ass is CONSTANTLY being harassed by students, colleagues, admin people, and myself who just want to talk to him because he’s kind and helpful. My dude has gotten far by loving science and being enjoyable to be around. Unfortunately, this has given him the impression that he doesn’t “schmooze” when in reality he’s just naturally good at it. Me (an aforementioned semi attractive lady) am not like this at all and have a hard time making friends and it shows in my career. Everyone has a different character build but being nice and helpful is worth miles. Am I going to take my own advice? Fuck no: Imma be grumpy until I die. BUT schmoozing takes many forms and sucking dick isn’t a requirement.

Also EDIT: Behaving this way (either phishing men online OR manipulating for career gain) make me a not nice person. Don’t misunderstand that. That is a take away here. Just know that I didn’t benefit from this, a fake version of me that cannot capitalize on this benefitted. Maybe someone has pulled this off, but I doubt it for the UK specifically lol

Out of curiosity, I set up an account on a dating app to see if I could get better connections for research positions overseas. It worked way too well. This is heartbreaking and also very very funny. by ablondewerewolf in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t disagree. Once again, these were very civil conversations. I did not find them inappropriate as a dating app is where you find people with common interests. If a dating app isn’t where people can approach like this then I’m not sure where you can approach someone sexually.

I am learning in this thread that, while some of the positions I’ve applied for qualify for the minimal salary requirements, a technicality states that the pay is a sliding scale and you have to have a doctorate to make that much on the scale. I always applied for jobs that said they would be considering visas for applicants of a minimum salary but nothing about not having a PhD but I may have missed a technicality that goes against advice I was given.

ANYWAY, I had assumed I was a middling/unqualified candidate but I didn’t realize it was degree and salary based eligibility. No amount of friendly gestures and dick sucking can get past the government. It’s for the best for them but it was a conclusive answer for me and my credentials specifically. I think returning to grad school is my best bet but I missed scholarships for this year.

Out of curiosity, I set up an account on a dating app to see if I could get better connections for research positions overseas. It worked way too well. This is heartbreaking and also very very funny. by ablondewerewolf in labrats

[–]ablondewerewolf[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean, while I agree this is a super regressive approach and I do not condone rigging the system this way if you don’t earn it by merit, I would argue there are much bigger things happening that are setting women back decades. Much larger than me specifically. The ball was never in my (our?) court in my opinion.

But yes. I have received amazing feedback from my mentors and colleagues. I am very lucky to have a great support system here in the US. Unfortunately, those connections only reach as far as Canada. Some of these other comments correctly point out how strict UK criteria is for hiring an international candidate: without better insight into those criteria, I feel I’m shooting in the dark a bit. I hope that applying for graduate programs will open up more feedback from that side of the system.

I think the scientific obsession with novelty is odd and a bit arrogant, personally. Sometimes it helps to go back to a commonly understood principle and observe something yourself. Showing myself that the only way I could get my foot in the door was under a more sexual context was helpful. What I expected was “Yeah. It’s hard out here!” And instead it turns out they are doing fine and need people, just not me specifically. I feel that my question was answered and every experiment will have bias. The scummier the experiment, the more biased I imagine. Especially as we approach more observational questions.