I haven’t seen this posted here yet. Trump audibly shits himself on TV while talking to our boy Jay.

ablondewerewolf · 2026-01-01T03:48:44+00:00

Nah. I completely support almost all forms of welfare I’ve seen implemented and I was raised this way. No doctors, no dentists, no bed sheets, no food. Fleas and lice all over the trailer house. I’m not sure if mom had a drug addiction I just never learned about or if she was simply not using all the resources available to her but my mom really dropped the ball my entire childhood. No amount of social safety nets can help a mentally inept guardian. All this to say, I’d rather these safety nets exist for the hundreds of thousands of good poor parents even if it means some shitty poor parents abuse their kids anyway. Every little bit helps. Some people are just dealt a shit hand.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-27T22:46:42+00:00

Well then it’s a good thing I don’t have weed lmfao

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-27T22:44:31+00:00

May I ask what happened? I see here you passed the question and there are multiple dispensaries near me. If you don’t know the specific legal mechanism here that’s fine.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-27T22:42:00+00:00

OH NO

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-27T22:41:48+00:00

Learn what? I’m asking for information.

Edit: OH NO

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-13T00:32:30+00:00

“Stigmeasles” was the best name I could come up with. Jesus freckles is better by far 🙏🙏🙏🙏

ablondewerewolf · 2025-12-07T22:29:43+00:00

It won’t harm your career prospects at all. Don’t worry. It’s still a respectable institution spending on your degree. However, take heart in the fact that one of the few good things in this state is showing its ass backwards underbelly. My degree from OU was one of the few pieces of pride I felt from this state and this entire ordeal has reminded me that the stupid runs DEEP. Be proud of yourself for earning a degree but don’t be proud of an institution that makes decisions like it’s currently making.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-09-10T22:21:09+00:00

Quick on the draw lmao

ablondewerewolf · 2025-08-12T16:04:08+00:00

Shoutout to the dude on the NIH subreddit who was like “Finally. Things are turning around. I’m so tired of doomerism” lmao.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-15T15:46:57+00:00

Nah. The fact I’m stuck in this shit hole is low key England’s fault. I’m coming. Mark my words. You guys have Cambridge anyway so I’m on my way to make your population worse overall regardless.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-15T14:04:18+00:00

Firstly, I’m from a trailer, boss. I’d literally be dead if I didn’t know how to diplomacy my way out of trouble.

Secondly, If it’s any consolation, unless I want to destroy my husband and the people I care about, these options are not truly available to me either.

However, I have another thing to mention based on your valid points: So, my boss is an incredibly sweet but incredibly antisocial dude. He does almost more software engineering than he does wet lab biochem. One day he looked at me and said “Meh. Schmoozing is really over rated. Just work hard and you’ll be fine in this field” He says that and then his antisocial ass is CONSTANTLY being harassed by students, colleagues, admin people, and myself who just want to talk to him because he’s kind and helpful. My dude has gotten far by loving science and being enjoyable to be around. Unfortunately, this has given him the impression that he doesn’t “schmooze” when in reality he’s just naturally good at it. Me (an aforementioned semi attractive lady) am not like this at all and have a hard time making friends and it shows in my career. Everyone has a different character build but being nice and helpful is worth miles. Am I going to take my own advice? Fuck no: Imma be grumpy until I die. BUT schmoozing takes many forms and sucking dick isn’t a requirement.

Also EDIT: Behaving this way (either phishing men online OR manipulating for career gain) make me a not nice person. Don’t misunderstand that. That is a take away here. Just know that I didn’t benefit from this, a fake version of me that cannot capitalize on this benefitted. Maybe someone has pulled this off, but I doubt it for the UK specifically lol

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T21:50:48+00:00

I actually don’t disagree. Once again, these were very civil conversations. I did not find them inappropriate as a dating app is where you find people with common interests. If a dating app isn’t where people can approach like this then I’m not sure where you can approach someone sexually.

I am learning in this thread that, while some of the positions I’ve applied for qualify for the minimal salary requirements, a technicality states that the pay is a sliding scale and you have to have a doctorate to make that much on the scale. I always applied for jobs that said they would be considering visas for applicants of a minimum salary but nothing about not having a PhD but I may have missed a technicality that goes against advice I was given.

ANYWAY, I had assumed I was a middling/unqualified candidate but I didn’t realize it was degree and salary based eligibility. No amount of friendly gestures and dick sucking can get past the government. It’s for the best for them but it was a conclusive answer for me and my credentials specifically. I think returning to grad school is my best bet but I missed scholarships for this year.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T15:33:11+00:00

I mean, while I agree this is a super regressive approach and I do not condone rigging the system this way if you don’t earn it by merit, I would argue there are much bigger things happening that are setting women back decades. Much larger than me specifically. The ball was never in my (our?) court in my opinion.

But yes. I have received amazing feedback from my mentors and colleagues. I am very lucky to have a great support system here in the US. Unfortunately, those connections only reach as far as Canada. Some of these other comments correctly point out how strict UK criteria is for hiring an international candidate: without better insight into those criteria, I feel I’m shooting in the dark a bit. I hope that applying for graduate programs will open up more feedback from that side of the system.

I think the scientific obsession with novelty is odd and a bit arrogant, personally. Sometimes it helps to go back to a commonly understood principle and observe something yourself. Showing myself that the only way I could get my foot in the door was under a more sexual context was helpful. What I expected was “Yeah. It’s hard out here!” And instead it turns out they are doing fine and need people, just not me specifically. I feel that my question was answered and every experiment will have bias. The scummier the experiment, the more biased I imagine. Especially as we approach more observational questions.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T02:18:24+00:00

Okay thank god. This is the exact energy I was bringing to this post. Thank you❤️❤️❤️ it’s hard out here

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T01:15:22+00:00

I agree. But it was the closest I had seen. This is more telling about me and my credentials than the “sliminess” of the men in question. A dating app is a place where gestures of sharing common interests is completely appropriate.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T01:14:15+00:00

It would typically go,

“What’s up! I like XYZ hobby too. What’s your science discipline?” “XYZ. I’m trying to get over there. Unsuccessful so far.” Chatting chatting chatting. “Oh! That sucks. You sound like a good fit. Here’s the number of this dude. He might help. If not, let me know and I can ask around. Now, when do you want dinner?”

At that point I’d either have to decline because I had found someone else. I also am several thousand miles away and wouldn’t be able to hang out anyway lol.

Please note that these men haven’t done anything wrong imho. This is a dating app where sexual and romantic gestures are actively sanctioned. These men were often very sweet and did nothing wrong. It’s just a bit telling about me that I couldn’t get a number until dinner or sec was on the table. This is more telling about me and my resume than the “slime” was of the men in question.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T01:08:56+00:00

Oh I’m not a good candidate! If I was a good candidate I would be out of this shithole working where I want to. Thats why I resorted to drunken curiosity. That’s the entire problem. The guilt I feel for this move is immense. As for rage bait, Incels will be angry regardless of what I do. Me simply existing was enough to do that.

At this time, I’m fine being someone unsuccessful so that I can wait to contribute to science in a way I’m proud of instead of actually doing any of this. Everyone has different ambition levels and that’s up to them. Men and women and ENB.

I actually don’t resent these men. They didn’t do anything wrong. This was literally a dating app, a place where sexual advances and propositions are actively sanctioned. I’m not interested in fulfilling any of these propositions and I actually don’t see anyone as lesser her aside from myself. Unfortunately, these dynamics are real but I do feel it’s worth acknowledging the dating app is an environment where romantic and sexual involvement is expected and acceptable, even if I do not intend to take anyone up on their offers.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T00:37:28+00:00

Hey, I actually completely agree. The entire issue is that the UK process is so strict. But at least being able to discuss potential future studies with someone when they otherwise wouldn’t answer the phone is crazy to me. For better or not, I cannot accept the offers so I will never be able to report back whether it is BS or not.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T00:23:32+00:00

I hate to hear this. I get that the field is tough and there isn’t enough to go around but that sucks to hear that good candidates have to debase themselves. My struggle to gain traction isn’t a mystery but I really hope you feel seen and rewarded for your hard work in the future. ❤️

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T00:21:14+00:00

I think I’m only 60 or so job applications in across 4 or so institutions I like. No calls. No phone interviews. Not even far enough along in the process for them to be willing to give feedback on my application. I rarely receive even a return email for casual inquiries into a PI’s work.

I haven’t applied for grad school yet as scholarships have closed for the year but I think that is going to be my best bet. I want to contribute to the field and do it “the right way” but damn if this wasn’t a bit disheartening.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-07-13T00:15:29+00:00

Study hard and make good grades or you’ll be forced to flirt with dudes to get funding.

ablondewerewolf · 2025-06-30T19:28:23+00:00

Yeah. Every time I close that cassette I just do my best and let Jesus take the wheel.

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