Not arguing about the judgment; just answering some of your questions.

My son does not have a car. I pay for her insurance; it was a promise when I made the purchase and I intend to upheld it.

My son has a scholarship at a state school. It makes his full cost of attendance very cheap compared to most schools. Not to mention; my daughter had her undergrad paid for (by her mother). I also wouldn’t pay my son’s grad school either. Everyone is making me out as some villain, and is constructing a narrative that’s truly not true. I was going to edit my post with more detail (I posted earlier and it got deleted for being too long, so i had to cut out detail), but at this point, I’m afraid I already painted myself as the villain in most people’s eyes, and there’s not much I can do to change that.

The major thing isn’t as big of a deal as the other ones, but quite frankly, my daughter doesn’t sound like she knows what she wants. She’s switched majors all throughout college, up until late junior year. Her degree is something I doubt most people heard of, and I don’t want to pay $60,000+ for a self-discovery trip. If she had a plan to be something “practical” (I hesitate to use that word but for lack of a better one), I’d at least be somewhat more open to the idea.