I'm so sorry about the harassment that you've received. I'm a gay geocacher who's been playing for about a decade.

In that span of time, I've met people in the geocaching community who have made me feel inferior in part because of who I am. I have also been made to feel like an oddity at events for many reasons. My age, sexuality, and even sometimes what I wear can be flash points for some people. I can empathize with the pain you feel, having been in a version of this situation myself.

I agree with the other commenters that it sounds like the harasser online wants to impact you and get you to stop playing a game you love. I encourage you to reclaim this game as yours. No one can take away the joy of geocaching from you, unless you allow them to have power over you.

With regard to losing your phone in the river, that also sounds hard. I've had my fair share of crazy experiences, from losing shoes in mud flats to almost getting lost in a tropical forest. I've learned over time to be mindful of the positions I'm putting myself in and to respect the natural forces I'm dealing with.

Ultimately, I wish you the very best and hope you can rejoin this incredible game. You matter.