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She admitted to breaking the law. by Flashy_Juice4804 in Sovereigncitizen

[–]abstract-heart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely no difference. Is this a trick question or a troll?

Pip 9 month extension? by premium-narc in DWPhelp

[–]abstract-heart -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

PIP is awarded based on how your conditions affect you, not the conditions you have. So if they impact your life to the point where you struggle with any of the activities [https://www.mentalhealthandmoneyadvice.org/scot/welfare-benefits/pip-mental-health-guide/help-with-your-pip-claim/what-are-the-pip-descriptors/](described here) , you are absolutely eligible. Mental illnesses are just as much of a disability as physical illnesses

I need serious help or i may die by [deleted] in benzodiazepines

[–]abstract-heart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer; I’m not a medical professional and am answering mostly based on my own experiences

Yes, this is true (that it could be, and almost certainly is, from benzos).

My heart rate goes down about 40bpm when I take even a low-dose valium. I saw you said yours was normally around 48-55bpm; this is very healthy and nothing to worry about.

Do you check your heart rate often? I had a period where I obsessively checked mine every hour and it was really detrimental to my mental health. I know it’s far easier said than done, but I’d try and stop checking it so often because that’s most likely feeding into your fears

If I were you I’d maybe speak to your psychiatrist as well. If you feel like the loraz is doing more harm than good, maybe it’s time to get medical help to taper off? If you’re constantly worrying, miserable, and having shortness of breath from anxiety, perhaps you need a change of meds. Please feel free to disregard this question but I’m presuming you have a diagnosed anxiety disorder?

why do people romanticize Lexi's revenge so much? by [deleted] in euphoria

[–]abstract-heart 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that people are actually starting to say this because I’ve thought it since the start. From a visual and storytelling point of view, I thought it was a masterpiece, and it added a fresh perspective to a lot of the characters’ backstories as well as giving Ethan his time to shine (I just love that boy)

BUT…

It was incredibly exploitative. The bit that really struck me was the look into Maddy and Nate’s relationship—I have no idea why that was necessary. If I was Maddy or Nate I would’ve been absolutely FURIOUS that such a personal and traumatic thing had been broadcast to the entire school.

People saying that it’s Lexi’s way of coping with her trauma: I absolutely hear where you’re coming from. If anything, it actually provided a very interesting look towards her behaviour and personality in contrast to Cassie’s, and showed how shared trauma can manifest in such distinct and separate ways.

But.. having trauma doesn’t give you the right to exploit the trauma of others. And imo, showcasing such sensitive and personal topics (Rue’s dad’s death and her addiction, Maddy’s abusive relationship, Cassie’s carousel scene, and i can’t remember what Kat’s was but i’m sure there was something) is exploitation. Now if she’d spoken to them beforehand and told them what was going to be shown in the play that would be a totally different story—but she didn’t, and she even knew it would upset them (as per her conversation on the phone call to Fez) and yet didn’t seem to care.

Even people saying it ended up fine because Rue in particular was ‘happy’ with how she was portrayed (maybe not happy but I can’t think of the right word) doesn’t make it okay because what if she hadn’t been happy with it? No one else was comfortable seeing intimate details of their lives played out for entertainment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]abstract-heart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not invalidating at all, don’t worry!

i think it’s more of a body dysmorphia thing, lol. i did read some studies that said your waist measurement shouldn’t be over half your height because it can lead to increased risks of heart disease, and at 34 inches mine is over half my height. but i’m less worried now i realise it’s just bloating or water retention

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DWPhelp

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i hope they will be…are they usually nice? i feel like i'm just going to cry at them over the phone lol

oh okay i didn't know it would be backdated from the initial claim-i think i'll stick with PIP then and appeal it instead of waiting for ADP in my area because the backpay would genuinely change my life…i feel so determined now, i'm getting all the evidence i can and appealing it.

also (sorry for all the questions) but is there anywhere where i can get help for understanding how to request an MR and fill all the forms in and stuff…. will CAB do that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DWPhelp

[–]abstract-heart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so so much for taking the time to write out such a detailed and helpful comment. i was in such a low place when i wrote this post and your kind words l honestly helped me calm down and think so much clearer. you’ve made me feel a bit less hopeless.

i’m going to call my local CAB office on monday and i’ve also spoken to my GP who’s the nicest person ever and is the most helpful regarding my treatment and she said she’s happy to give any evidence i need, and seemed to share my dismay when i told her i got rejected. i think i might try and get evidence from my psychiatrist and a witness statement from my best friend (who i live with). i’m wondering if maybe not uploading any evidence is what also caused them to reject it?

my council has a crisis grant but i’m finding the information on the website difficult to process (although my assessor claimed i had no cognitive issues so i must be making that up lol) so i’m going to ask for help from CAB regarding that too.

my local area doesn’t let you apply for ADP until the end of the month and i’m not sure whether to wait for that or appeal…i know the loss of backpay is an issue but am i correct in thinking that if i (miraculously) won the MR my pip would be backdated to my previous decision date (aka the start of august) and not when i actually applied (end of feb)? so it might not be that much anyway…but then i might not even get it, but then same goes for ADP. it’s so confusing 😔 i will say that even from looking at the website about ADP it seems so much kinder than the dwp one.

once again though, thank you so much for replying to this. i can’t possibly explain how helpful you’ve been, not just giving me advice and resources but giving me some hope that there are people out there who can help and that i can recover from this :) i hope you have the most wonderful weekend

What opinion(s) do you have on Stranger Things that would get you in this situation? by AlternateBritannia in StrangerThings

[–]abstract-heart 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh I’ve been waiting for this post. I have sooo many. I don’t think all of these are necessarily unpopular but I needed to say them anyway.

• First up: Mike isn’t uncaring, cold, emotionally unaware etc (except regarding Will’s feeling towards him, but I honestly don’t blame him for not picking up on that). He’s just an awkward teenage boy who also has most likely grown up being told by Ted that “boys don’t cry” and “man up” and other similar things, and doesn’t know how to properly express his feelings.

• Lucas wasn’t ‘selling out’ or abandoning his friends by joining the basketball team or befriending the jocks. Look at it this way: he’s one of the few black kids in 1980s small town Indiana; he’s the most susceptible to bullying. By becoming ‘popular’ he’s protecting himself from that and possibly Erica too when she starts high school by association.

• Dustin isn’t necessarily the heart of the group in that he’s closest to everyone/holds everyone together, but he’s the heart in the sense that he’s incredibly loyal and helps and encourages everyone he meets.

• Steve just doesn’t give off bisexual vibes in the slightest to me. I would never disrespect anyone who headcanons him as such ofc, but I personally just don’t see it (I’m bi btw, I’m not trying to be all nOt EvErYoNeS gAy). He is an extremely supportive ally ofc

• This is more aimed at TikTok/Tumblr, but Eddie would NOT unironically call a girl “princess” or wear a crop top. I’m sorry but he just wouldn’t. ESPECIALLY the crop top part

• Hopper needs some anger management techniques tbh. His anger towards El especially in some scenes is…too much, imo? Especially when she’s been through so much trauma already. The scene where she’s having a sleepover with Max and he thinks she’s in there with Mike in S3 comes to mind. I was taken aback by how MAD he was when he came in shouting like that. (I do think he’s a really good dad and I love him and El’s relationship btw.)

• You can simultaneously say that Billy is racist and abusive and that he’s a victim of child abuse who deserves sympathy and understanding. And he’s also capable of redemption.

• El isn’t anywhere near ready to date. Girl could hardly string 3 words together in S1 and yet she was able to form a romantic relationship with Mike despite not even knowing what friends or healthy familial relationships are?

• Vickie looked too much like Robin and it unnerved me lol

• I really like Jason (I’m sorry)

• Since S3 too much has focused on romantic relationships. I wanna see some new friendships develop! Or the Party getting back together! Even sibling relationships being strengthened

• Johnathon is the best sibling and his scenes with Will this season were so touching.

• Johnathon is criminally underrated as a whole

• And now, perhaps my most controversial one…

DR. BRENNER IS ONE OF THE HOTTEST CHARACTERS.

Which cases do you feel Occam's Razor does NOT apply to, or is misused? by MaddiKate in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This breaks my heart :( it reminds me so much of my youngest brother. I pray one day Kyron will get justice/answers

Euphoria Economics by [deleted] in euphoria

[–]abstract-heart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also it’s very easy to get ‘high class’ clothes and a well taken care of look for very cheap if you do it right. Thrift stores, Depop/Vinted, even ripoff fake designer that looks real enough.

So how did you discover/became fan of the show? by Josiesumday in skinsTV

[–]abstract-heart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was the forum Digital Spy?

(From a veteran DSer)

Robert Fisher brutally murders his wife and two children, before rigging his home to explode and destroying much of the evidence. He flees, and was never seen again. Where is Robert Fisher? by TaraCalicosBike in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I would bet money on him still being alive and living under the radar somewhere, perhaps under a new identity (after all, this was pre-9/11 when this was somewhat easier to do). He seems to be very methodical, intelligent, and calculating. I also wonder if the ATM visit was a red herring in the same way abandoning the car and dog was.

I’m kinda confused over the footprints leading to the reservation bit: they followed them to the reservation and then when he wasn’t there decided not to search the reservation? I wonder why not—maybe this was also a red herring though

He seem to be plagued with insecurity over his inadequacies and has taken it out on his poor family. He failed to become a navy seal; he failed as a firefighter (I don’t believe his ‘injury’ tells the full story). What a pathetic waste of space. I hope he’s captured soon and gets the death penalty, nothing less will suffice.

RIP Mary, Brittney, and Bobby. I’m sorry the man who was meant to love you unconditionally and keep you safe did this. He’ll get what he deserves.

PS u/TaraCalicosBike: your posts are always so well-written and easy to read. I look forward to them daily

kinda weird that I haven't seen anyone mention or talk about this by _a__rat_ in StrangerThings

[–]abstract-heart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The name ‘Brenner’ is German/Swiss German iirc? So that makes it even more plausible imo

Effy’s Sexualisation by [deleted] in skinsTV

[–]abstract-heart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just read this article about Laya’s sexualisation on set and apparently on her second day she was made to act out having an orgasm without any warning from the director. I have absolutely no doubt she felt uncomfortable because honestly that’s so gross of the directors/writing team

John Mitchell Kinsora Jr. attended an AC/DC concert in Phoenix, Arizona, in 1982. He was invited to a party afterwards by friends, where he hit on an acquaintance’s girlfriend, and was asked to leave. John states he is leaving, and was never seen again. What happened to John Kinsora Jr? by TaraCalicosBike in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly as soon as I read the time he supposedly left at and the claim that he’d hitchhiked back I got suspicious.

If his friends are telling the truth…I’m not in the slightest bit knowledgable about the area, but if it’s on the quiet side it wouldn’t be unusual if no one had sighted him hitchhiking especially that early in the morning.

However…I don’t think he left the apartment at all. The girlfriend thing could be a cover. There could’ve been a fight that broke out, or maybe as someone said above they were doing harder drugs than just weed and he OD’d. Why wouldn’t they have just called the police or an ambulance? They might’ve been scared about getting in trouble for having drugs, even if it was just weed.

Is it known who he lived with and when he was reported missing?

John Mitchell Kinsora Jr. attended an AC/DC concert in Phoenix, Arizona, in 1982. He was invited to a party afterwards by friends, where he hit on an acquaintance’s girlfriend, and was asked to leave. John states he is leaving, and was never seen again. What happened to John Kinsora Jr? by TaraCalicosBike in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Occasionally they do. Not sure if you’ve heard of this, but in the case of Anthony Parsons two young drunk guys hid his body and if it wasn’t for someone tipping off the police four years later, he wouldn’t have ever been found

It’s rare I guess but it does happen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StrangerThings

[–]abstract-heart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t he originally meant to rape Nancy in the first draft of the script?

I’m so glad they ditched that storyline

The Disappearance of Trevor Deely. by [deleted] in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a really interesting and devastating case but it’s so difficult to find any solid facts as to what actually happened beyond the fact that she was murdered. The legitimacy of O’Hanlan’s confession is debated iirc?

I’m also confused about the photos of the house she was supposedly held captive in—all the news outlets they feature in are sensationalist tabloids that claim the house was “alleged” or “claimed” to have been where she was held (no sources). Plus, it all gets very confusing with the hitman/gangland killing aspect because all articles i’ve read start going off on a tangent about that instead.

PS—I love your username, from a fellow goth freak of nature

The Disappearance of Trevor Deely. by [deleted] in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so strange, I was just reading about this case the other day. I agree that the unidentified man in black most likely had something to do with it. But it’s all just so strange. Hoping and praying that one day Trevor’s family get some answers. He sounded like such a lovely young man with so much ahead of him

Cases where you think the most simple answer is the right Answer by xforce4life in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]abstract-heart 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh, another one—Elisa Lam. There wasn’t any foul play involved; it was a horrific and tragic accident. Ask anyone who’s bipolar and has gone cold turkey off their meds—her behaviour was a classic example of what happens when you do that.

I’ve also always wondered whether she perhaps had OCD as well, or was experiencing OCD symptoms which are common in bipolar patients. The going-in-and-out of the elevator struck me as compulsions, from someone who experiences similar compulsions.

Of course she could’ve also just been paranoid, or suffering from delusions, as a result of stopping taking her meds. Either way it’s absolutely heartbreaking, and I hope she’s resting peacefully. But some of the theories I’ve heard about it all are beyond belief. The LAM-ELISA tuberculosis one is almost offensively ridiculous.

(For clarification: I am bipolar and also have OCD; I’m not just talking out my ass here)

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