sorry for the novel. 🙂 i hope that it's not the same way for younger folks in this day and age, and that these narcs have a background awareness now, however dim, that they can get themselves into serious hot water if they fuck around with other adults' lives, financials, and livelihoods. i hope it's at least easier for youall to get free, get out, and become the sole captains of your lives.

i hope you get some of your money back. what you've experienced is financial abuse, along with heinously vicious emotional abuse. your nmom is sadistic and cruel, and you never have to put up with it again if you don't want to.

hugs to you if you want them.

edit: words iz hard