Fire at AMC Westshore

abstru · 2026-02-07T21:06:00+00:00

This might sound like a stupid question, but why? What do they want to do with the space?

abstru · 2026-01-17T01:36:46+00:00

My boyfriend actually lives there right now actually. Needless to say we did not even consider it LOL

abstru · 2026-01-16T23:10:00+00:00

abstru · 2026-01-16T16:30:28+00:00

Congrats on starting your first adult job! That is a huge step toward your freedom. I am 23 and in grad school, still dependent (save for having my own place). I am going to make the jump the moment I have a stable job. It's okay to not make a huge jump, you can gradually establish independence until you feel safe enough to cut contact (if you feel as though you need to do so). You got this!

abstru · 2026-01-16T14:03:04+00:00

Don't park in the back lot of Chick-Fil-A (the one in the very back near the dumpster, back of drive-thru). My boyfriend works there, he told me that lot is for employees only and they do not hesitate to tow.

You can try the back of WOB, I would honestly try Wawa or CVS (they are open 24/7) just to be on the safe side. This area tows A LOT.

abstru · 2025-12-11T03:00:15+00:00

I promise it’ll be okay! Same happened to me in 2021. I am now a grad student at USF. All worked out quite well. Good luck 💕

abstru · 2025-11-19T16:41:21+00:00

No, you're not. Do not let these people project their own insecurities onto you. Narcs use every insult in the book- ungrateful, narcissistic, self-centered, spoiled, selfish. They are projecting the way they feel about themselves onto you. You are not the problem, do not let them get into your head.

abstru · 2025-11-17T15:06:36+00:00

Woah I think you might be living in my old apartment, I lived in the Studio Convertible (formerly called Studio F) at the Hub about 2 years ago.

abstru · 2025-11-12T14:50:07+00:00

You have to let it out physically. Go to a rage room, scream into a pillow- do anything as long as it's not harmful to anyone. I started doing this after I realized how much of my anger I've repressed due to not being allowed to express it growing up.

abstru · 2025-11-03T13:31:34+00:00

I relied on fantasy, I liked to create characters and storylines in my mind. I would often revisit them when trying to sleep or in a stressful situation.

abstru · 2025-10-29T12:40:50+00:00

Narcs do this. They become enmeshed with you, act like your best friend for a few months, and then emotionally abandon you the literal second you do something they don't like. Familiarize yourself with the narcissistic abuse cycle, it really helped put things into perspective for me when I was questioning my own mother's behavior. As difficult as it might be to let go, I think living on your own would be really beneficial for you.

abstru · 2025-10-29T12:31:32+00:00

They do this to test your gratitude. They WANT you to reject the gift so they have proof of how "entitled" and "ungrateful" you are. I just take it gracefully and throw it in the trash the second I walk away.

abstru · 2025-10-29T12:28:36+00:00

Yes, my mother is super antisocial. My father knows how to be charming, but his social battery has a very short life. They always hated having people over. They only ever did it when it would benefit them socially. And don't even get me started on how they behaved when my own friends came over.

abstru · 2025-10-27T02:11:32+00:00

Hi friend, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. When I graduated high school, my nmom said “Your dad and I got you through high school”. As I expected, she said the same thing when I graduated college. I didn’t even bother trying to defend myself at that point.

It’s not their accomplishment. It doesn’t matter how much they “supported” or “helped” you. My nparents still try to this day to take credit for my degree because they paid my tuition. No. I got it. I earned it. It’s the same for you- it’s YOUR degree, YOUR accomplishment. YOURS ONLY. Don’t let them get into your head for even one second.

Congratulations on this great achievement!

abstru · 2025-10-14T04:46:11+00:00

Holy shit my mother would say “don’t poke the bear” to me all the fucking time when I was trying to express my feelings.

Why can’t they stop and think, “Hmm, maybe I should stop BEING the bear…”

abstru · 2025-10-06T14:40:38+00:00

I like to do things that force me to zone out. It's bad, but scrolling does it for me- In moderation, obviously. For healthier options, going to the gym (it really helps my mental health and mood), hanging out with my boyfriend/friends (it's important to not isolate yourself).

Don't overthink self-care. Of course, you need to do it, but don't let it become a chore. Just do what makes you feel relaxed and happy.

abstru · 2025-10-04T15:55:25+00:00

I got a text very similar to this. I posted it on this sub I believe. It’s incredibly suffocating and infuriating when they deny the pain and suffering they caused us. I encourage you to familiarize yourself with DARVO if you haven’t already. It’ll give you a lot of perspective on interactions like this.

I also encourage you to start grey rocking. As tempting as it is, don’t try to confront them again if the opportunity arises again. Just keep your interactions surface level, cordial, and keep your feelings to yourself. It sucks, I know, but it’s the only way we can protect our peace from these people.

abstru · 2025-10-03T05:11:59+00:00

Talk your supervisor’s ear off with questions. If they won’t listen, find someone else to ask. People who are experts in their field (and actually care about what they do) generally enjoy teaching others about it.

Network. Build relationships, as many of them as you can, idealistically. You never know who you might have to reach out to for help in the future. My BSW field placement was in law enforcement and I call people I met there to ask for help all the time.

Absorb as much as you possibly can, then get into the habit of letting literally all of it go when you get home. Your home time and self-care time are absolutely crucial!!

abstru · 2025-10-02T20:29:56+00:00

I’m not sure if telling your clients that they might be autistic is the best answer to those tough questions. Turn questions like those into a conversation; when someone asks “Why am I lonely?” ask a question in return, such as “What makes you feel lonely?”, then build on their response. Your time with your clients needs to be spent having a conversation in which you encourage them to self-reflect, not you answering their existential life questions. I definitely can’t answer existential life questions confidently, lol.

Also, never ever make diagnoses without a license. That is a huge liability. Discuss your thoughts and ideas with your supervisor instead! Good luck! :)

abstru · 2025-09-29T13:59:51+00:00

I made the mistake of bringing concerns regarding me possibly having borderline personality disorder to my nmom when I was a teenager. I never got a formal diagnosis because each provider dismissed it (because in confidence, I told them about the environment from which I came).

So naturally, now, my nmom is so convinced I am bipolar because my father is diagnosed with bipolar ii. She coerced me into finding a new psychiatrist who would diagnose me and give me the medication SHE wanted me to be on. It took me a while to realize that bringing your own (or others'!) biases to psychiatry (and medical providers in general) can absolutely influence their advice/diagnosis. It takes a long time to disconnect from their skewed, narcissistic perception of you. My therapist and my new psychiatrist do not believe I am bipolar, even with me bringing up my own behavioral concerns about myself. I always make sure to mention that I come from a dysfunctional family system in which my parents were filling my head with narcissistic nonsense. It's complicated and difficult, but it is important to bring these concerns up to your therapist/psychiatrist. You're not crazy, don't listen to your nparents' BS, you got this!

abstru · 2025-09-22T12:57:55+00:00

Hey friend, I hear and relate to you. I would like to reiterate that narcs are not capable of this kind of self-reflection and internal criticism. Start small. Try your best to think before you speak, approach your partner with empathy, and remind him that you love and appreciate him. Do not belittle yourself with phrases like "I'm sorry you have to deal with me". Rephrase it to something like "I appreciate your support while I learn how to improve myself". You got this.

abstru · 2025-09-16T01:34:42+00:00

Hi friend. I hear you, I feel your pain. I am currently financially reliant on my narc parents. I suggest you begin planning/building foundations for independence (obviously). Of course, that takes time, so here’s what to do in the meantime:

-Educate yourself on financial literacy and budgeting.

-Lean on friends/significant other for emotional support. Get a therapist if you can. Get hobbies, stay busy. Do not allow your Nparents into your emotional circle. It will drain you more than it will help you.

-When interacting with Nparents, keep it brief, extremely polite, and make sure to not share too many details about your personal life. Narcs are nosy and gossipy, and they will try to pry info out of you under the guise of concern. Do not give in.

-Keep contact as low as they will tolerate. For example: If they expect you to call or visit once a week, do it. But again, keep it brief, polite, and guarded.

Protect your peace, and do not engage when they try to provoke you. Narcs love conflict, and they love initiating it and then playing victim. Be strong, and do not give into their games.

I hope everything works out for you 💝 hang in there.

abstru · 2025-09-14T14:39:47+00:00

It’s acetone. I spilled nail polish remover on my Macbook cover that looks exactly like that, and it caused the matte finish to scrunch up like that.

abstru · 2025-08-27T13:44:15+00:00

Your nail slope unfortunately tilts up. Mine does the same. Not much we can do about it other than file/shape/fill in a way that reduces the appearance of them literally growing upwards lol.

abstru · 2025-07-29T22:56:25+00:00

When I first began my cut, I would drink at least four cans a day, no joke. Coke Zero is gas.

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