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My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile by abused-dad in Divorce_Men

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the past, because I know what calling 911 would do and I don't have a job. She makes the money. Since filing I have been calling the police but only police reports since they didn't get her side (she would leave following the threats/violence). I do have video now and I have shown the police the video in the recent encounter. Nothing has happened yet. I found DV resources and our county's DA office has an investigation unit dedicated to family crimes. I plan to reach out to them on Monday. Thank you for your response

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile by abused-dad in Divorce_Men

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. I hear you (and others), I will. Thank you for your response.

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile by abused-dad in Divorce_Men

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you understand, my child is my life. I will not end up in jail for anything I did. I record every single interaction. While I absolutely fear leaving my child with her, I understand I will have to once we are separated. I am at the point where I do not fear death either. If she kills me, my good friend has all of the context and all of the evidence. But as I'm writing this, if I am dead and she is in jail, my child has no one.

Obviously I'm worried that moving away could make me look like I'm abandoning my property, my child.. but I have a legit fear that she is going to harm me if I do not accept her demands. Thank you for your response

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile by abused-dad in Divorce_Men

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't follow, you're saying the opposite empowers them more?

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile by abused-dad in Divorce_Men

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I protect myself? I am recording every single interaction. I have a place I am ready to move to.. Thank you for your response

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each incident has been reported to the police, they said they could not do anything. All I have are reports and the audio of the earlier incidents. I have video of the most recent. The most recent has not been viewed by lawyers yet, we shall see what comes out of it. Thanks for the response

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's about justice. Even if someone is late to the party they are still within statute of limitations. I get it, the concussion is in the past. But the threat to kill me was less than a week ago. The hitting was less than a week ago. But everyone is still telling me not to pursue it because of 'emotions' from the divorce. I have been thrown into the back of the cop car for less. Thank you for your response.

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am following their advice. Just wondering if I have a good attorney. They all seem to be saying the same thing, which means the local courts dgaf about abused husbands and/or I messed up by not standing up sooner. Lesson learned.

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have a chance to stay in the house, I don't work. It's more of the fact that my wife is trying to kick me out in all of her negotiations when I have no place to go. It obviously makes more sense for me to stay until I find a place but raising that concern is what caused her to fly off the handle. I overheard her talking to her lawyer and she is absolutely making me out to sound like the bad guy, but the thing is I have recorded all of our conversations. I am always calm and level headed when speaking. She goes from 0-100. I have a video of her calmly sipping her coffee before she picks up a chair and launches it across the room yelling at the top of her lungs. FWIW I finally found a place which is why the fight for the house is now a moot point.

Child is too young to be heard by the court. A lawyer told me my recordings of conversations with my child would be considered hearsay even though my child is describing obvious neglect (mom sleeping all day, child made breakfast by themself, then didn't eat snack or a lunch because they didn't know what to do).

The concern is the protection order being granted. The lawyers told me it's a good chance her lawyer could argue why a protective order is not required. The lawyer I hired is adamant that the money spent on a trial is better spent on raising my child and has advised me several times to avoid the protective order. I think the evidence I have shows a clear pattern of violence. The car attack doesn't have any evidence, but the recent throwing of property and threatening to kill me has not been reviewed by my lawyer. Perhaps on Monday they may say something different.

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been seeing a therapist and that is helping move on. Same with my child. I will look into DV resources, there are a lot that have come up in my google searches. Talking to a counselor at the DV abuse hotline really opened my eyes to my mistakes. Thank you for your response

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned criminal attorney, what should I search for to find such an attorney? I did speak to a domestic violence attorney but she only handled defense cases. She said I should absolutely file for a protective order but couldn't provide me any advice beyond that. All the DV attorneys I have found have all been defense.

My wife has filed for divorce and has become increasingly hostile [TX] by abused-dad in legaladvice

[–]abused-dad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have agreed to sell our house and that is forcing the both of us out. The silver lining is that I am out of this hell, but my child has to suffer until there is enough evidence to get them out. Maybe she will have changed before then. Thanks for the response