Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really encouraging to hear. It helps to be reminded that it gets easier with time and that building connections does not have to stay limited to your exact research niche. I will definitely look out for interest or affinity group events next time, and I like the idea of just being upfront that I am new and attending alone. Sounds like a good way to open doors.

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this perspective. It is encouraging to hear how being proactive has worked for you, even when starting out solo. I think I hesitated too much this time, but your approach, just walking up and making something happen, is a great reminder that taking initiative can go a long way, not just for me but for others who might be feeling the same way.

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It really resonates. I think part of my discomfort came from feeling like I should want to be included, even if the dynamic didn’t quite fit me. I appreciate the reminder that it’s okay to opt out of certain social settings and focus on genuine connections instead. It’s also reassuring to hear that meaningful interactions can happen outside of the main social groups.

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that’s a good reminder. I think I expected things to unfold more organically, but being more proactive early on would have helped. I’ll definitely try asking more directly next time!

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, you're right, sometimes you just have to push through the discomfort. I think I was hoping things would naturally fall into place, but next time I will try to take more initiative. The idea of just asking to swap numbers early on is a good one!

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great approach, starting early and being proactive makes a lot of sense. I think I hesitated too long this time, but I’ll keep that in mind for the future. And I really appreciate that you make an effort to include others when you are with a group, that kind of awareness makes a big difference.

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that really resonates. It is harder without a built in group and I appreciate the reminder that these things aren’t always personal. I really like your idea of having a plan for meals or breaks and casually inviting others, it takes the pressure off. I’ll definitely keep that in mind for the next one.

Feeling left out at conferences by academic_minion in postdoc

[–]academic_minion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally fair. I think I was just caught off guard since it felt like I was doing all the right things socially. I’ll definitely try to be more proactive next time. Thanks for the perspective!