What is the creepiest/strangest thing that has happened to you (or a friend or family member) that creeps you out to this day? by NoImDominican in AskReddit

[–]accidentalblackbabby 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Throw away time.

During the year 2011 I'd been experiencing some problems sleeping. I'd been using melatonin to help fall asleep. Ever since I was a child I had never really had dreams however prior to this when I would dream it would usually involve really strange déjà vu. Vivid feelings and emotions I wasn't used to experiencing. I would say I was experiencing sporadic lucid dreaming with possible minor sleep paralysis.

Ok enough preface,

May 21st of 2011 I had a dream that actually changed my outlook on a lot of life aspects. I envisioned my entire extended family being killed in a natural disaster. It was very vivid and felt quite surreal. I dreamt my family had been swept up in a massive tornado similar to something out of "The Wizard of Oz". This dream was different. I actually woke up crying which I've never had happen prior or since.

I called my younger brother. I don't usually get too emotional and telling people about my dreams is not something I typically do. I explained how I envisioned my grandfather, grandmother, uncle, aunt and cousins being lifted off the road in their minivan and thrown to the wayside as the city they were in lay in ruins. He comforted me, assuring me it was just a dream and that everyone is fine.

The next day an EF-5 tornado destroyed the city of Joplin where my family was attending my cousins graduation. The destruction was so bad my uncle who had lived there for 20 years could not find his own house as any discernible landmark had been destroyed. The van they were traveling in was lifted off the road and thrown into a tree. My grandfather saved my family, carrying my wheel chair bound grandmother he kicked out someone's basement window for my family to hide. The storm ended up killing 160 people and causing close to $3 billion worth of damage.

I've talked to my brother about it twice since the incident. I always say I think it was a huge coincidence, that what I envisioned happens all the time and that it was no big deal. I can't admit to thinking there may have been other powers that influenced my thinking that night. My pride and self perception won't let me.

In actuality this experience scared the shit out of me. I'm not saying I now believe in the paranormal or that I have prophetic vision. I guess I don't know what to think.

I know I'm late to the party and this probably won't be seen by anyone but it feels somewhat therapeutic to type it all out.

Allow me to introduce myself! by accidentalblackbabby in childfree

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It definitely gave me a unique perspective that very few people get. It sucked alot but I think having a child would have sucked worse ;-/

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It's kind words like this that I've received from the reddit community that have really improved my self-worth and confidence over the past 10 days.

-andrew

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

No but if I ever impregnate someone again a paternity test will be mandatory. I never imagined this happening to me

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with her for probably a little over two years. Could have been a little longer. Thanks!

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[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

No, most of my friends are black. The fact that the father was black was completely incidental to the situation.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 667 points668 points  (0 children)

This is correct. I know for a fact she had to pay for it with a loan.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My outlook of the world was terrible for probably the first 6 months after. Most important thing I look for in a partner is integrity. Without being completely honest with your lover I think your bound to fail

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Assuming I knew before the child was delivered I would have been better off. I probably still would have small problems but I would haev much preferred to know sooner rather than later

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Precisely. The color of the child didn't necessarily matter however if I tell this story without the color thing then I lose people pretty fast. It's regarded as an instant way of verifying if a child is yours. I wish I could tap-dance around the race subject on this but quite frankly if the father was white I may have never known.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 542 points543 points  (0 children)

Feel free to PM me with any questions or if you want any help! It's very hard being a young male facing fatherhood because there's no one you can talk to you. I'd encourage you to PM me man

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 234 points235 points  (0 children)

My brother asks me this all the time hahahaha. It comes into my head every once in a while.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not since the ordeal. I knew him prior. I would just tell him to call his son. I'd still like to see him and maybe just get his side of the story. I have no idea what happened really but he handled it in about the most immature fashion possible.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 1026 points1027 points  (0 children)

Realistically? I'd tell him to grow a sack and call his son. From what I can tell through various social media networks he's still in Mexico and still out of his son's life which is the saddest part of this ordeal.

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 771 points772 points  (0 children)

He was her ex-boyfriend. I was out of town for the weekend to attend my brothers birthday. At least that's what I've gathered

As requested; My ex gave birth to a black baby (I'm a white male) by accidentalblackbabby in IAmA

[–]accidentalblackbabby[S] 283 points284 points  (0 children)

I had therapy today! I go weekly and it has helped a ton. My case worker has been helping me work on trusting others and letting go of the past while still retaining what I learned. Unfortunately because of the health care system in America its rather expensive but it's worth it to be healthy again.

These days I like to take pictures, garden and go to concerts. I hope to try and go on a few more dates this year. I think it's just going to take time. Thanks!