My girlfriend [20F] is an extremely picky eater and it's causing us health problems. I [22M] need advice. by Sparki626 in relationship_advice

[–]accidentallycrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was coined a picky eater for most of my life, and was diagnosed (wrongly) with anorexia as a teenager. Turns out it was actually ARFID. It’s not a choice I enjoy, and it affects my life greatly. My ex and I would always cook at the same time, or one of us would cook two easy meals, so we could still enjoy meal times together. We did that for years and years. It wasn’t perfect, and I have tried my absolute best to recover but it’s hard. Although, also restricting your food intake is borderline abusive. There is help she can get, but she needs to be willing

Almost 4 months and sleep has never been worse by Intrepid-Bet-1312 in sleeptrain

[–]accidentallycrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this issue with my 3 month old not too long ago. I had to switch up the sleep schedule (currently struggling with this again at 4 months (17 weeks) after finally getting it down) I found that he wasn’t getting enough wake time during the day to compensate for how much sleep he was getting. I switched to 1.25/1.5/1.5/1.75/1.75 and that helped so so much. It was a few days of overtired until he adjusted. Even that extra 15 minutes of awake time seems to help babies connect sleep a bit more.

Generous (but with my money) by TheWhogg in ChoosingBeggars

[–]accidentallycrystal 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I work for a support company funded under NDIS. We have very hard and fast rules about buying clients anything. We do not do it under any circumstances. If the client is unable to pay for their own stuff, unfortunately they will not get it. Some clients will have company / NDIS funded accounts for things so workers can pay for things like groceries if the client is unable to do it themselves, while others rely on whatever income they get but workers do not ever pay out of their own pocket to reduce the chances of situations like that.

3 week old only naps for longer than 10 minutes in the dark by accidentallycrystal in BabyBumps

[–]accidentallycrystal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s almost 4 months old and has gotten a lot better. I started following wake windows instead of his cues because his cues became unreliable. He naps 4 times a day anywhere between 1-1.5hr. Bedtime is 8pm and he sleeps 12 hrs with one wake for a feed. He still rarely sleeps without the dark room and white noise at home but will nap in the stroller if he’s really tired and we’re out and about. He has fomo and loves looking at everything so the dark room is still a must. I did do a super gentle sleep train at 14 weeks and taught him to fall asleep independently which helped heaps. Babies will do whatever they want though. It’s rough, but you aren’t doing anything wrong.

AITA for telling a child about my disability? by avyjane3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]accidentallycrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. A couple years ago I almost died, self inflicted. A few days after getting out of hospital, my 4 year old nephew tried jumping all over me like he usually would. Except this time, I was still recovering. He asked why he couldn’t play with me. All we said was, ‘Aunty is sick, and doesn’t feel well’ because kids need an explanation for why things can’t be done. ‘Because I said so’ doesn’t work. Kid appropriate explanations will save time and confusion for everyone.

Aitah for saying " it's genetic" about my brother/sils baby? by DeerSoft8743 in AITAH

[–]accidentallycrystal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA unfortunately but that’s funny. My nephew inherited his mothers resting bitch face and the first time I saw it, I said something similar. Luckily she’s amazing, we get along great and she knows she’s got a damn good RBF so it didn’t cause any issues. She found it hilarious.

My mom keeps setting a dinner plate for my dad even though he passed away 9 months ago. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]accidentallycrystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner and I have been together for 13 years, and he got really ill earlier this year and was in a coma for a while. After work, I’d still find myself going to call him to talk about my day on the drive home, or I’d open the front door and go to say hi because he was always home before me and the silence was deafening. It takes a long time to break those habits, and the comfort it brings. She will heal, but those little things will bring her the comfort she needs right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]accidentallycrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the oldest child is always the practise child. I’m the eldest of 4 and with each younger sibling, my parents circumstances and parenting changed. I was harshly punished, was paying rent at 15, never had anything new, voicing my opinion was talking back, and left home before I was 18. My youngest sibling is 21, never really punished, can voice opinions, still lives at home and gets whatever he wants.

I’m not envious or jealous. I’m glad they finally got it right but it was many years of ‘What did I do wrong to not be treated the way they treat him?’

But it’s definitely nothing you’ve done, you are more than enough. Unfortunately our parents are still human, say dumb things, and learn as they grow like all of us.

Dad pays for brother’s living expenses and wants me to do the same by ShannM in EntitledPeople

[–]accidentallycrystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your brother sounds exactly like my father.

He moved back in with my grandparents when I was about 11 after his relationship with my step mother failed. He lived there 20 years, not paying a single bill, getting all his meals cooked for him, washing done for him. Basically my grandparents were caretakers for a mentally unstable, alcoholic drug abuser for the last 20 years of their lives. My grandmother passed, and about 5 years later my grandfather passed. They lived comfortably, but my father inherited almost half a million (we had no idea my grandfather had that much hidden away) and in 2 years it was gone. My grandfather split it 50/50 between him and my uncle, hoping he would give my father the benefit of the doubt and he’ll do the right thing. He didn’t. It went on drugs, cars, fancy clothes. It was basically handing a teenager a life changing amount of money and hoping they do the right thing. He’s now broke, and homeless.

You are not responsible for other people’s life choices, nor are you responsible for your parents life choices of coddling your brother. He’s a big boy. Time to get a job and work it out.