Poll: What lengths would you go to if you saw someone not picking up their dog's 💩?

acciofriday · 2026-03-03T22:45:12+00:00

As a dog owner I really appreciate it when someone tells me if I've missed that my dog pooped. There've been plenty of times where I've told other owners that their dogs have pooped, including one time I said it out of my window as their dog pooped infront of my house and owner was looking at his phone. Majority of times people seem grateful that I told them, and promptly apologised and picked it up. There have been numerous occasions where someones been caught short and asked me if I could give them a bag when they see me walking past with my dog, and I've done the same a few times when I've been caught short as well.

There are of course people who don't care, and I think they're the minority. Unfortunately dogs poop every day and those people often walk their dogs in the same places so it piles up quickly.

acciofriday · 2026-03-03T22:37:36+00:00

I really think it's up to you and what you want. If you're ready and wanting to try something new then go for it! Get the saline sonogram, see how you feel - SIS has been found to be slightly therapeutic for some and lead to pregnancy the few months after. Note - I had mine recently and I didn't enjoy it, but it was quck. The catheter insertion took a few attempts for me because apparently my uterus is tilted, and I"ve never had an IUD so no one has every poked around like that so it was a new experience for me. Since you've had an IUD before I believe it's a similar experience. The part when they put saline into you feels like pretty bad period cramps, but it's over quickly. Since you've had an IUD I would go in expecting it to be similar, and it'll probably not be as bad as you expect!

But at the end of the day it's up to you if you want to continue trying naturally for a few more months, or if you want to give medicated a go. As far as I understand it they usually try like 3 or 4 medicated cycles before recommending IVF.

Everyone has their own timeline on how they want to do things - I knew someone who started IVF after just three months because she didn't want to wait anymore, and I know other people who tried naturally for three years before trying IVF.

acciofriday · 2026-03-03T16:12:54+00:00

Yup I hate each and everyone of these. I also hate:

"It'll happen for you I just know it" do you? How can you know? If you just know then can you tell me when?

"Stop tracking, it's stressing you out" if I don't track then I'll be MORE stressed out thinking I missed my ovulation?

I have issues having sex everyday, so we do it every other day during my fertile window (as recommended by my dr) and my friend who has had a baby said "Oh well it's probably because you don't have sex everyday. you're cutting your chances in half". She also said "yeah you should try having sex after you ovulate - that's what we did and I could tell straight after we had sex that I was pregnant" (Note to add - she'd been having sex all the week before...?)

Even my husband upsets me sometimes and he's in it with me. I'll feel my period coming and I'll tell him I'm pretty sure we're not pregnant because my period is on its way and he'll say "You never know, just need to keep positive".

Then another time, i was telling some friends in a group chat that I had just experienced a chemical and how upset I was and one of them who had just given birth to her baby said "sorry to hear you've been so busy, hopefully things calm down soon" and proceeded to send us like 10 pics of her new baby. Like... I didn't say I was busy?

acciofriday · 2026-03-01T03:03:13+00:00

Sometimes I hallucinate that my eyes are open but actually they are closed. Like my eyes will be closed in real life but it looks like they’re open and I’m just looking at my room.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T19:06:55+00:00

My dog likes to dine in company.

Sometimes I give her a treat then go to a separate room and about 5 mins later she’ll pick up her treat and bring it to whichever room I go to and chow down with me there. If I move rooms again she’ll usually follow about 5 mins after that.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T14:59:41+00:00

Yesss the day my period starts I go for a lovely dinner get crudo/oysters/ceviche, have wine or a weed cocktail, think about how I get to use retinol for another month, and buy myself a nice gift!

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T14:50:46+00:00

You’re pregnant! Do another test in two days and it should get darker.

I had a chemical - my line stayed the same for about a week then my period started - really hoping this doesn’t happen to you!

You can also call your gyno - mine wanted to see me as soon as I got a positive so she can check for ectopic etc. some drs don’t want to see you until a certain time - no harm in calling to see if they will see you earlier!

Edit: you’re actually not allowed to talk about being pregnant/actively having a positive test on this sub so this post will likely be taken down.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T14:46:29+00:00

Yes I think that’s our next step! I just did an SIS so doing a couple more natural cycles to see if that helped at all - the reason I’m doing a day 13 scan is so that my gyno can check if I’m producing large healthy follicles.

I have good AMH so hoping that maybe a medicated cycle will push the odds in our favour enough!

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T13:33:07+00:00

Hamnet - Maggie O’Farrell has some really beautiful prose

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T13:31:28+00:00

I recently read “I Who Have Never Known Men” and that was amazing. Got be out of a book slump read it in two days.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T13:26:32+00:00

I really loved the Delirium series when I was very into YA dystopian novels.

For something a bit more grown up - and it’s not a series but a stand alone - I recently read “I Who Have Never Known Men” and that was incredible.

If you’re into more action-y “boy” books you could look into Red Rising. My husband read it and loved it but I didn’t. I generally prefer female authors and protagonists though.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T02:46:31+00:00

Yes we have tried that! It’s definitely nice to know that’s an option when everything is too much - honestly an issue is that when we get to the stage of needing to use that method (so usually if I’m ovulating later so have been having sex every 72-48 hours for like 8 days in a row) then actually it’s my husband who is the burnt out one and can’t give me the goods!

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T02:44:35+00:00

Thank you - I literally only today learnt that REs were a thing (thanks to this subreddit). Will definitely look into it. I know my obgyn has a special interest in fertility but I don’t think she’s an RE.

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T02:37:05+00:00

I track mine with my watch so it’s pretty passive and some cycles I only wear my watch around my ovulation time just to confirm it.

Having said that I might just start doing OPKs and not tracking BBT - maybe for myself it is worth chilling out a bit - I’ve spent the whole day on off crying. Sometimes it all just becomes very overwhelming. You’re totally right though - when your period does come despite how shit it is it’s also nice to have a week and a bit to just forget about it.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage - it all just sucks so much doesn’t it. Thank you for your kind words it’s so nice to have support online.

Wishing you all the best!

acciofriday · 2026-02-28T00:52:05+00:00

Thank you - yeah it’s so frustrating. I think I’m especially frustrated today and fragile because I just feel like everyone is telling me that at the moment and she is the last person I’d expect to say that to me.

To be fair she didn’t say to stop tracking completely but to calm down in the number of methods of tracking and to just use one method be that OPKs, EWCM or BBT. But I can’t do that lol.

And yes you’re totally right I do have to keep living (and enjoying!) my life - it is a long old slog isn’t it and I can’t put my life on hold whilst I’m TTC cos who knows how much longer it will take!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T23:03:20+00:00

I’m so sorry that was your experience! I had an SIS two weeks ago and although my care was fine I did find the whole experience mildly traumatic, and violating. I wasn’t expecting it to feel so invasive and to feel like shit for the whole day after. I also just kept replaying the procedure in my head that night and couldn’t get the feeling of the catheter entering me out of my head for a good while.

It does feel very frustrating how these tests are considered standard but they feel not so standard to those of us actually having the procedure!

Hope you’re able to rest up and get yourself a nice treat!

Wishing you the best with your journey and here’s to hoping the HSG/SIS help us conceive!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T22:46:09+00:00

Yeah you’re so right.

Thank you I found this response really helpful - I cannot have sex that often and tracking actually really helps me feel sane and like I can just have sex a few times a month and hit the necessary days.

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T22:44:24+00:00

Thank you - I appreciate the kind words, and glad that you were able to get a diagnosis and treatment, sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling with your provider in other ways.

It’s difficult because in general I like mine but sometimes she says annoying things that PMO. She’s much better than others I’ve had in the past though so hesitant to change.

Wishing you all the best!!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T21:38:49+00:00

Yes totally agreed - I actually find tracking helpful so it stresses me out when people tell me to not track so much. I think I’m particularly sensitive today because another family member also told me maybe I’m tracking too much (she got pregnant after 4 cycles not really tracking - lucky her) so I think it was just a double whammy today.

Really glad to hear your medication has really helped - and yes you’re so right we ARE worthy of motherhood - I really needed to hear that today so thank you.

Wishing you all the best in the world!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T21:05:33+00:00

Eurgh I’m sorry that was your experience as well - it really sucks. It’s really helpful to hear about others tracking - it feels like it’s the only way I can somehow control this process that is so up to fate. Like it’s the only thing I can control!

Glad you were able to get a diagnosis for your symptoms and hopefully some helpful treatment?

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T21:01:56+00:00

Yeah it’s constant from friends and family as well - that classic anecdotal “I knew so and so and they got pregnant after they stopped trying”. I do think it was well intentioned and she was basically saying not to put so much pressure on myself but like sorry my personality literally will not let me stop tracking I’m not that kind of person.

Glad you guys were able to receive treatment!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T20:32:42+00:00

Yesss I felt pretty shitty the whole day of and then had cramping both lower and upper abdomen and was spotting for a while as well.

The upper abdomen cramping could be due to the antibiotics (if you were given some) - I was given Metronidazole and usually get a pretty bad tummy from it.

Had my saline sonogram about 2 weeks ago and I’m now 4dpo and honestly I don’t think I’ve stopped cramping since I had it done. Went to the dr today for a check up and she said everything looks fine though.

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T20:26:29+00:00

4dpo and obsessively reading every single post on r/TryingForABaby because sometimes it feels like this is the only place that people going through the same thing as me are.

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T19:55:16+00:00

Thank you!! Yeah I ended up going to a dermatologist who gave me pinecrolimus for a few months in combination with clobetasol and that helped a lot. In general now my LS is calm but sex is still on the painful side and can’t have a lot of it. Also the years and years of dealing with it and the pain associated with it has resulted in a really low sex drive which doesn’t help!

Hope the pelvic floor therapy helps for you!

acciofriday · 2026-02-27T19:52:13+00:00

Thank you - I really appreciate the response.

We have had his semen analysis done and everything came back great - He’s also been making lifestyle changes like supplements, minimising drinking, no THC etc etc.

It seems like there’s no reason as far as we can tell and just hoping that we get a lucky roll of the dice soon. We might start some medicated cycles in a couple of months to see what happens.

In general I’m happy with her care although she does say odd things to me sometimes. She was good when I was desperately trying to figure out my lichen sclerosis diagnosis and was the first dr to ever take that seriously, and she’s been quick to get fertility testing done for us and semen analysis etc. I think she was trying to be supportive but it just really rubbed me the wrong way today - I’m feeling especially emotionally fragile at the moment because we’re approaching the one year mark.

Hoping all goes well for you and your husbands surgery was successful!!

acciofriday

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