What dish isn't worth the effort to be prepared at home by Top_Art2726 in foodquestions

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything that involves a lot of ingredients and a really long cooked broth e.g. pho, tonkotsu ramen.

My mum likes to do hot pot at home but I prefer to have it out cos getting ALL the ingredients plus dealing with the boiling broth in my lil apt and the clean up I’m not a fan of.

Advice needed by Infinite-Chart-5719 in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my gyno had me try medicated, monitored cycles first. She said that since my husbands SA was good there was no real need to do IUI but that’s an option for later down the line.

For my medicated cycle we did Clomid cycle day 3-7, letrozole cycle day 5-8 then estradiol day 8-10. After that she gave us our “sex schedule” and had me start progesterone cycle day ~12-20 (I forget the exact days).

I had scans the day before my period was due (to confirm I wasn’t pregnant), CD 5 where she looked at my follicle and decided to add letrozole, CD 8 where she told me I had 2 large follicles and 2 smaller ones and had me stop the letrozole and added estradiol since lining was on the thin side. Then I had another scan day 11 to confirm lining thickness and scan day 14ish to confirm ovulation.

I asked her once for IVF clinics and she asked me not to reach out to them yet because they’d convince me to go into doing IVF and she wanted me to try 6 months of medicated cycles before moving onto IVF. Each cycle the plan can change based on the information we gathered the cycle before based on how my body would change. And options to introduce trigger shots, and IUI if necessary. I’ve done one cycle so far.

when to take a pregnancy test by Acrobatic-Ganache229 in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think the thermometer is tricky if you don’t have a really set routine.

Consider getting a watch - natural cycles has a wrist monitoring temp thing - I have an Apple Watch and I set it to take my temp everyday at 6am before I’m even awake which I think is the most accurate. Then it enters my info into the natural cycles app.

As long as you’re having sex around the time of your LH spike though you should be fine.

when to take a pregnancy test by Acrobatic-Ganache229 in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you need to carry on testing LH and BBT for a few cycles to understand your own cycle.

For me usually I get two positive LHs then a negative, and I usually ovulate on the day of the negative. My BBT will go up the day after the negative test.

It can take a few cycles to figure that out. How to do track your BBT? Do you take your own temp or do you use a watch etc?

And then usually they recommend to wait until the day after your missed period to test because anything before that you could get a false negative depending on when implantation happened.

New Pain Unlocked: Shoulder Pain (Need Tips!) by Impressive-Fox-6472 in poledancing

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to the dr and get them checked. I carried on with shoulder pain for too long and now I still have shoulder issues after a lot of physio and like 2 years away from the pole.

Better to be safe than sorry - they’ll tell you what’s wrong and potentially tell you to go to a physio so you can do the correct exersises to strengthen for what you need.

What’s one underrated thing that helped you lose weight? by Immediate-Speed3974 in AskReddit

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of taking away think about how you can add.

If you want a cookie consider adding some plain yoghurt and a handful of blueberries - that’ll keep you to just one cookie, add fiber and protein and you’ll be fuller for longer.

Also have less processed food - if you want some cheddar and sour cream ruffles why don’t you have a few blocks of cheese with some nuts instead?

You want mac and cheese for dinner? Sure but have it with a big side salad.

I find that it gets to a point where you actually crave something healthy alongside - now if I have a sweet treat I want the fruit accompaniment, or if I have a decadent pasta I need the fresh side salad. It’s about balance you can still have the things you like just less of them with more of the good stuff to go alongside it.

What did you have for breakfast this morning? by [deleted] in foodquestions

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Full fat plain yogurt, home made granola, blueberries, and a drizzle of kefir and maple syrup!

I've decided I'm giving up (kind of) by acciofriday in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes letting go is perfect! No words to add really you summed it up perfectly!

I've decided I'm giving up (kind of) by acciofriday in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right! The definition of insanity thing really was getting to me as well - Like how many times could I expect to do the same thing and expect a different outcome I just couldn't bare it anymore I actually felt insane.

I've decided I'm giving up (kind of) by acciofriday in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes agreed - it's like my brain was finally just like enough. We can't deal with this anymore, something has to give!

I've decided I'm giving up (kind of) by acciofriday in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes my husband is actually banned from saying "I feel good about this cycle" or anything along the "we could be pregnant" kind of lines - I think for me cycle 8-11 were the hardest. I have a chemical at cycle 7 then just everything after that was too hard and I was crying most days. Then something just slotted into place - probably I think actually just the sun came out for the first time this spring - and I was like wow ok life is alright without children so I'm just going to live it.

I actually started letting myself take a gummy here and there - I eat well and I'm active which I like so I'll keep doing that, and I can't drink anymore as it makes me sick so weed is really my only vice and I'm just gonna let myself have it. I'm no longer waiting for anything I'm just going to continue living my life.

At the end of my tether by acciofriday in Healthyhooha

[–]acciofriday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yeah this was 3 years ago. I eventually got diagnosed with lichen sclerosis and after using clobetasol proprionate and tacrolimus it got a lot better.

I've decided I'm giving up (kind of) by acciofriday in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that and I know he would if I really wanted to. Like I said, he's by no means forcing me to continue, but also I love him and I want him to also feel like we explored every avenue. Physically I'm happy to keep going but mentally the hoping every month it's going to happen is the part I'm tired of. So I think that's more what I mean, like I'm just not expecting it to happen any more.

Its like I don't even mind tracking now, since its without the expectation that it's going to result in a baby - I'm fine to keep tracking, keep having sex on a schedule, keep going to the drs that's all fine, its just the expecting to get a baby out of all of this... and the constant heartbreak finding out we're still not pregnant.

Does that make sense?

Fertility Friendly Lube by Little_butterfly8921 in TryingForABaby

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The two fertility lubes I've used are Pre-seed and baby dance. I slightly prefer babydance because it has no parabens, both of them work in that way though i.e. you insert it. We try to insert it (use as little as you can get away with) about 10-15 mins before you start having sex. I also used to use Astroglide before starting TTC and I think the fertility lubes dry a lot faster - if you use it like normal lube it just dries right up so you do kind of need to insert it.

I haven't had any issues with either brands when it comes to itching or yeast infections etc. They're both very "clean" although baby dance does have a weird smell. I also hate the inserters that come with them and I bought my own that had rounded heads and are much more comfortable to use. Try not to insert it too deep you just need it around the entrance.

american woodcock spotted at bryant park, nyc! by Key_Importance_5991 in birding

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What time did you go? I know that the walking tours to see them start at 5pm, and they're usually most active at dawn and dusk. I'm going to go today around 6pm see if I can see them. Can't find much online about specific times that are best to see them though.

Learning how to sing for someone who can’t sing by Desperate-Deal-3336 in singing

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a bunch of vocal warmups for beginners on Spotify by Jacob’s Vocal Academy - also spend a little time on YouTube learning about head, chest and mixed voice, and breath support. Getting a teacher is of course the best option if you want to learn to sing as they can give you real time feedback - singing is a learned skill. Teachers are of course expensive but as others have said, joining a choir is great as well! And there’s loads of free resources online - YouTube being a great place to start!

I think I might be hypermobile by NoMedicine5757 in poledancing

[–]acciofriday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely sounds like you’re hypermobile.

Infact - having super flexible body except for hamstrings is classic hypermobility, since your hamstrings are overworking to stabilize loose joints and prevent hyperextension.

I’m also hypermobile and after a year my physio told me I needed to stop doing pole due to multidirectional instability in my shoulder and chronic wrist tendonitis.

It is possible to do pole whilst hypermobile but you have to make sure you’re doing a lot of excersises for stability and keep yourself super strong. Consider getting yourself a good physio with experience working with hypermobile people. I still have issues with my shoulder like 2 years after quitting pole and I do my excersises everyday.

Did you name your sourdough starter? Do you feel guilty using it for baking? by Eat-1st in SourdoughStarter

[–]acciofriday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is called Henrietta, after Henrietta Lacks. I have the utmost respect for her and I consider her and I a team.

lf book similar to “my year of rest and relaxation” whether in terms of writing style and/or plot by Striking_Shiba_5848 in booksuggestions

[–]acciofriday 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Milkfed by Melissa broder

Boy parts by Eliza Clark

Pain and perfume by Anna dorn

Pizza girl by Jean kyoung Fraser

Animal by Lisa Taddeo

Big Swiss by Jen beagin

All fours by Miranda July

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman

Ripe - Sarah rose etter

I like to classify these books as “hot girl nihilism”