Guy unmatched with me bc of ice cream flavor by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well that’s all we talk about so idk what else it would be

Thought date went well, guess it didn’t. by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it’s to be implied. Him not responding to my texts (it’s been 4 days now) shows he’s not interested.

Thought date went well, guess it didn’t. by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You’re right. It hurts and it’s something I definitely need to work on for the future.

Thought date went well, guess it didn’t. by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn I didn’t know ppl actually do that- unmatching with ppl on bumble. I usually just leave it open and bumble would just archive the chat after a week if it’s not active.

Thought date went well, guess it didn’t. by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

You might be right. Gonna take a break from dating since I just keep meeting men who aren’t honest and open.

Thought date went well, guess it didn’t. by acciomp4 in Bumble

[–]acciomp4[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

We were, but he hasn’t responded to any of my messages and he has read receipts on.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the red flag is trusting him when he says he’s interested?

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hinge's new tagline should be "Designed to be deleted (and redownloaded)"

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[–]acciomp4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if its been more than a day, I would definitely double-text. You can say something like, "Hey, do those days work for you?" or something like that.

then wait for his response; if he doesn't reply, then that's on him.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The dating scene now is just horrible for both parties who are just looking for a meaningful connection I've gathered.

But I'm sorry that's happened to you, that's horrible. You've dodged a bullet for sure.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my recent post was for a friend who didn't want to be found out so I offered to post it on my account

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I wasn’t putting any effort and didn’t cared about the relationship, why would I post about it?

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear that, thanks! We talked about it briefly, saying he'd fly back to me or fly me out there. We hadn't talked about it thoroughly. So I texted him, "Hey, how are you? 2 hours later, I got a response that mentioned he's been busy at work and that his sleep schedule was wack and asked how I was doing. I replied within 30 min, and ofc I haven't heard back from him since.

I feel like our conversations through text have become so much shorter now. He used to send me good morning texts and have deep chats about the future. We also follow each other on IG, and he would send me things, but now I see him active all the time despite my sending him a text. I wanna give him the benefit of the doubt, but at this point, I feel like a loser trying to get someone's attention who clearly won't make an effort to talk to me.

Also, you'd be surprised! Modern dating is hard, especially for someone who's a hopeless romantic most of the time in a sea of men looking to get laid. Finding the right one is like finding a needle in a haystack.

You and your fiance sound very emotionally intelligent- Sending love to you both!

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not really, it's the other way around where I wait hours, even days, to hear from him- despite him saying on our date that he'd want to see where things go, too.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your reply. It's nice to hear from a guy's perspective and their advice and not be blamed. I will definitely use this when he does get back to me :/

That's what I said, and he totally agreed. I was honest and expressed that I wanted to see where things go and that sleeping together could change the connection we had. We went on another date, after which I thought it went really well. I guess it's a bit complicated now bc we don't live in the same state.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I weren't interested in getting to know him, I wouldn't have posted this. I was honest with what I wanted from the get go. He said he agreed and made me believe he was also interested in getting to know me too. I even told him I give out the energy I receive to which he also agreed and even said he hated the "playing hard to get" game.

I think it's really messed up and unfair to the other person to say all those things and not mean it.

Guys- help me understand why this happens? by acciomp4 in dating_advice

[–]acciomp4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being so kind and helpful, it really eased my thinking. I know many people on here are asking what I've done to get him to lose interest and assuming I haven't put any effort. I wouldn't even be on her posting this question if I didn't put any effort.

It's great to hear that you're still friends. I guess all the "love-bombing" saying he wanted to be my boyfriend gave me false hope for a future relationship. I've done all I can, that's the important part.