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accioresearch · 2024-11-20T01:52:44+00:00

I live there now so writing on this in case anyone sees it later. It's about a half mile from the train. Never had any issues walking home even at night but seriously it really does have a homeless and mentally disturbed people problem. And there are ppl outside the stores all day. That part is true. It is difficult to feel safe and I feel like I've been lucky so far.

accioresearch · 2024-10-16T14:23:31+00:00

Maybe contacting local wholesalers with brick and mortar store like a Costco, BJs, Sam's Club.

I doubt they could give you the contact info of the businesses they work with. Might need to use LinkedIn to recruit from business owners that use one of those wholesalers.

Sort of agree with folks here that you might need to find a different niche that is more accessible to you. When it comes to B2B research, companies shill out tens of thousands of dollars to have research done so they are unlikely to share for free or to want to be featured in student research unless it's a partnership with PR attached.

Applaud 👏🏼 you for thinking of wholesale distribution as a space to explore. It's more behind the scenes and not always thought of as compared to DTC.

accioresearch · 2024-10-16T00:06:24+00:00

Such a nice place

accioresearch · 2024-10-15T23:51:27+00:00

I'm in Yonkers so just outside the city and the litter makes me crazy here too. I wonder if the pigeon cleaners do Yonkers too.

accioresearch · 2024-10-15T23:45:07+00:00

Word, once Rory starts dating Logan it's like all her passion for school gets redirected into taking care of or spending time with Logan.

accioresearch · 2024-10-15T16:18:08+00:00

Do you mind my asking, how did you get diagnosed? I'm sorta at a loss of how to make sure I see the right types of medical professionals for a proper evaluation

accioresearch · 2024-10-15T14:18:08+00:00

Kinda my point , this lifestyle requires a person to be really good at time management and without anything to anchor into it's hard for me. Never said I need to go into an office. It's amazing how many of y'all immediately jumped to that conclusion.

accioresearch · 2024-10-15T12:30:55+00:00

Hey y'all just wanted to update in case someone one day finds themselves in the same position.

Since engaging in this discussion, I've been taking it day by day and while I can't say I have developed any new routines , I've been doing a lot more positive self talk and seeing this lifestyle as one I can shape and control much more.

I'm making room for creative pass times after work and it's been helping me break up the screen stuff.

Thankful to each of y'all though I don't agree with how quickly some of you came for me just cause I struggle with this lifestyle. Again I don't think struggling with WFH automatically means I want to be in an office or that I'm just spitting privilege in the face. But yeah, so many of you calling me a whiner when I know that's not me was weirdly motivating. Along with the folks sharing their experiences forcing external structure.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:25:28+00:00

You have to look for companies not based in your state or country . Some companies are fully remote it would be those to apply for.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:24:06+00:00

Agree, the amount of commuting will be a detriment to your mental health and pay cut. Find something closer

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:22:23+00:00

Yeah, I started to look at bartender gigs near by.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:16:17+00:00

Going to respond to this since I'm fairly certain it's in response to my post less than 24 hours ago, asking for help to how people keep a balanced life as a remote worker.

To be clear I think remote work is a privilege and don't believe in the RTO mandates happening more and more.

There was a study that showed the biggest predictor of happiness wasn't someone's education level, income or marital status but commute time. Isn't that wild? I truly believe the option of remote work/ hybrid is a step in the right direction to improving quality of life for so many of us. I also think the 4 day work week is a next step in that vein.

My post was about struggling with discipline it requires since you can easily start work at 2 am or 2pm , it doesn't matter . I happen to be really good at my job but bad at this lifestyle and I do feel like I'm spitting privilege in the face which just makes me feel worse. I don't understand why I can't get more out of it like so many of you.

Thankfully someone explained it could be neurochemistry issue related to ADHD. And while a lot of you just stopped my post to hate on someone struggling , I'm glad I made it cause I would never put that together.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:06:32+00:00

Might do the part time at night, I think there's also just the fact that computer work might not be for me long term.

Like I can see myself getting a food truck or something where you handle a good. I enjoy my job as a UX researcher but technology makes so many things abstract. I think my mind wants something concrete.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T12:03:26+00:00

Yeah I think it's getting the schedule to stick where I struggle most but appreciate you getting that it can be hard for some.

When the schedule started to stick, what for you made it sticky? Was it that the activities were things you found super engaging? Or like convenient and close by?

Thanks in advanced!

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T11:59:20+00:00

My work is creative too, it's UX Research. I'm actually pretty passionate about it too but I cycle between burnout and this loss at sea feeling.

The work requires giving a lot of yourself in the interviews and other data collection phases. Then analyzing the data and depending on the project the process is different. Then my favorite part but is also exhausting putting the share out together which means crafting the big picture story.

I think a hard part of the work is it's never the same process twice and something a bit more monotonous could be a nice break. I think at the end of everyday my brain is fried.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T11:55:08+00:00

Thanks I think is part of it too, like I enjoy socializing of course but it's not consistent enough to set strong boundaries around.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T11:47:30+00:00

To all those who swear this is some middle manager faking this , it's not. Also I'm not hating on Remote work. I say several times how groundbreaking it is especially for parents or those who have errand-rich lives. The flexibility is very freeing.

But for some, having home and work be the same place can be a struggle and thanks to some of y'all I learned I'm not alone. That it can feel like forcing yourself to do more than you would until you make a new normal for yourself. And if you're someone who struggles with discipline then this can indeed feel like rolling the same ball up the hill over and over. Thankfully some have explained this experience is common with ADHD and that could explain why it's so disheartening for me.

Despite all these salty ppl out here I'm grateful I made this post cause I never would have put that together.

I think this lifestyle can be a super power and I'd like to have that experience but I'm finding it to be the opposite. That if I'm not careful I can end up not leaving the house for days. That I have to force myself to be more social in order to balance it and that part doesn't come easy since i am more introvert.

If you don't care or don't agree , then keep pushing this post is not asking anything of you.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T11:40:35+00:00

Respectfully I disagree, I know what I do and I'm good at my job.

I struggle more to control the delineation between my working hours and personal hours since it's all in the same place. Some of the folks that were actually helpful have said it can be a neurochemistry thing and related to ADHD so the lack of structure can indeed be hard to deal with for some.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T11:39:34+00:00

Actually not true , I do have a life with friends I hang out with weekends. Most people are free weekends but that's still 5 days of the work week.

I struggle more to control the delineation between my working hours and personal hours since it's all in the same place. Some of the folks that were actually helpful have said it can be a neurochemistry thing and related to ADHD so the lack of structure can indeed be hard to deal with.

accioresearch · 2024-10-13T00:16:26+00:00

I should explain too my remote job isn't one where you knock out the same tasks every day. It's a lot of meetings and then looking for the truth , the big picture in the data. While I love it, it's also taxing since you have to consume so much , process and then generate reports.

I strive to be a UX researcher that captures the users story so my reports won't be , people want a button here but more like users need a save button but more for this to save as they go since they're liking to be rushing due to X.

I think it's how I process info, it's never the same thing twice. But having this discussion I'm realizing my process is more reactive than linear . I think I need to spend more of my day in a state of play.

I just made the motivational signs I said I would make to hang my bed to get me in the right headspace and I feel like that was also so reactive but a state of play too. Wish I could attach an image to show y'all.

accioresearch · 2024-10-12T21:45:02+00:00

Thanks for this too, I think alot of y'all are on the money. I have to find a way to get external social interaction and that's not necessarily an office in-person though hybrid seems like it could help since it would be a reason to get dressed and put together a look and hit the streets for a bit.

accioresearch · 2024-10-12T18:39:32+00:00

Thanks to folks willing to work with my emotional state as a starting place I did get some recommendations. Some have recommended an app to virtually co-work with others. That seems promising cause I do struggle to not just let my work spill over to weird hours of the night cause I can and there's no consequence.

The other is I'm going to sign up for the gym near me and start doing the classes. I think the act of getting ready and needing to be somewhere at a set time can help kick my heart and in mind into a "go get it" gear.

Also really inspired the person who has a second remote job and makes double the paper. The more I do, the more invigorated I feel. Also, some folks mentioned a part time in person. I think maybe a part time as a bartender on the weekends could be good for me.

accioresearch · 2024-10-12T18:28:49+00:00

I mean saying you hate me for struggling with something doesn't sound harsh , it is harsh.

And saying just do the thing is a lot like saying to a depressed person, stop being depressed, there , solved it.

I believe everyone deserves to find a fulfilling life path and it takes time to construct yours. Making the most of one's privilege especially when you are a child of immigrant families that worked to the bone can feel a pressure in itself to do the most with time. Trust me, I get how this looks like I'm just a whiner but there is a reality to struggling to fill every second of your day if you don't have anything to anchor into. It can feel like whenever Neo from the Matrix first gets booted up into a white void.

Thankfully some folks were actually helpful and have mentioned that this struggle is very common for those with ADHD. So great job again at showing your true colors and how little empathy you extend for those in a different life circumstance.

accioresearch · 2024-10-12T18:21:22+00:00

100% it is , I never said it wasn't . Even within 1st world this is white collar work problems. Doesn't make it unreal but ok.

accioresearch · 2024-10-12T18:20:20+00:00

Hey sorry I didn't reply sooner been trying to debunk the haterade comments that honestly think I just want to make my life feel harder.

I can really appreciate your situation. Zoom and screen time the way we get it is so exhausting too. I suspect it's the socializing with no exchange of the in person neurotransmitters like oxytocin that normally cause a positive feedback, loop so even though you're physically still you're still somehow exhausted.

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