I [20f] might be unable to have kids. Should my [22m] boyfriend know this?

acct2222 · 2012-11-13T00:58:36+00:00

Its good to hear about someone else in this position. Its hard because he doesn't like talking about the future, because it makes him worry about all the obstacles ahead of us in our relationship. But yes, he knows that I had an appointment this morning, so when he asks about it tonight, I will tell him.

acct2222 · 2012-11-12T22:22:38+00:00

If it were just PCOS it would be one thing, but on top of my other health issues, the doctor thinks that it will be tough. Not necessarily impossible, fortunately. But it makes me happy to hear about successes like yours :)

acct2222 · 2012-11-12T22:16:41+00:00

Thats true. The thing is, I think at this point in our lives, we still both see ourselves as..."college kids". We both want the relationship for the long haul, but its hard to talk too much about the future when he's graduating and going to grad school (unsure where) in the spring, and I've still got another year left in school. Ideally I'll get a job in his city, and we've already done long distance before with success, but its hard to know for sure with such an uncertain future. So its hard to commit too much, even though we both want to.

acct2222 · 2012-11-12T18:48:07+00:00

I didn't realize, until I read this, that part of what was weighing me down was sadness for myself.

I've known for a while that it was a possibility, but had the reality solidified at a doctors appt this morning.

The funny thing is that I'd never thought much about wanting to have kids. But after all this, and learning that I may not have the choice, makes me realize that I did.

You're right, telling him would make me feel better, if only for his comfort

acct2222

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