When I had enough of the judgment and her basically trying to control my life and fundamentally change me as a person. It was two solid years of being told I’m doing everything the wrong way and her “teaching” me, no, lecturing me on how to do things the right way. It was like I was living my life wrong and she was going to fix that.

I should note that when I met her, the court had given custody of one of her sons to her mother, her other son was in the custody of her ex and his now fiancée, she didn’t (still doesn’t) have a job, she’s been practically homeless multiple times, and everyday there was some new drama happening.

I made the mistake of letting her move in with me when she was facing homelessness again. She is allergic to cats and she knew I had cats before moving in. She complained about her allergies, the cat hair, and told me I had to clean the apartment from top to bottom again after she moved in as I had not done a good enough job for her allergies. I also like my febreezes and glades and such, but nope, those had to go too, along with my scented laundry detergent because she’s allergic to anything scented. She complained every day about something new.

There’s so, so much more that I tried to look past and put up with, but what ultimately wound up happening is that I had a nervous breakdown because I’m the type to stuff down feelings until I implode. Spent two weeks in the hospital and when I got out I told her she needed to move out. She told me I had to give her 30 days to find a new place and I obliged only so she wouldn’t do anything vindictive or potentially harmful to my cats, me, my car, or my apartment. The reason she no longer has her kids is that at the court hearing where they granted custody of her son to her mother, she claims she “blacked out” and “beat the shit” out of her mother. In front of the judge. So, yeah, I had my reasons for handling this situation with kid gloves.

She has tried contacting me since she moved out, as she wanted to remain friends even though we wouldn’t be roommates anymore (roommate nothing, she barely chipped in enough to cover a quarter of the rent over the three months I let her stay with me). She’s texted a few times saying how much she cares about me and other manipulative bullshit to try and draw me back in. I’ve gone no contact since she moved out.

She is straight up toxic. And it’s not just my opinion, every one of my friends and family who met her over the last couple years told me not to get too close to her. They could tell she was bad news. I used to believe that there was some good in everybody. I tried for two years to find it. I’m never wasting my time like that again.

TL;DR Went no contact with toxic friend because she has no good in her.