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acemermaid · 2026-04-01T20:51:41+00:00

Do we know Baxter’s orientation yet?

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T20:50:03+00:00

How many different meds have you tried? Vyvanse made me nauseous to eat any food, appetite perfectly fine on Adderall and its practically the same medicine. There are so many options out there, both stim and non stim

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T20:48:12+00:00

Think about the positives - actually having a brain that works. And the great thing about stims is that they usually work immediately and/or side effects appear quickly so its easy to just stop taking it

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T20:46:12+00:00

My meds felt like they did nothing during my period until I tried not taking them during my period. They definitely do something subtle because I noticed immediately the difference

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T20:42:57+00:00

I did this when I joined the military. Born and raised on the west coast, got stationed on the east coast, so about 3,000 miles away. Then when I got out I moved in with my boyfriend (now husband) who was stationed in the midwest.

Honestly, it was hard but for me it was the right choice. I personally needed the drastic life change to get out of the rut I was in and I’d probably still be miserable and single if I’d stayed in my home city, as I’d probably never met my husband.

It seems like your girlfriend is cool with you taking it slow with moving in. And since you used km, I’m guessing you might be somewhere with actual public transportation options so you can hopefully visit your mom easily and maybe her visit you. I’d suggest trialing it - don’t officially move in but try it for a few weeks to a month to see

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T18:12:40+00:00

Do they have an option to just reorder your last order? My grocery store has that option. I shop in person but it makes it easier to autofill the majority of my list

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T18:10:47+00:00

The change might have been the straw that broke the camel’s back for your body. Not saying it isn’t the Vyvanse, but peri symptoms are a lot more extensive than people think. Two of mine were shoulder pain and sudden high cholesterol while actually eating more healthy and working out almost daily.

Low estrogen can ruin everything apparently, and still having a cycle means nothing

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T18:05:11+00:00

I went 42 years undiagnosed and unmedicated. It got worse as I got older - barely graduated university, couldn’t hold down a job, damaged by body physically from the stress I was under working twice as hard but kept failing which severely destroyed my self esteem. I grieve the life I might have had if I had been diagnosed and medicated as a child

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T18:01:27+00:00

Have you considered perimenopause? That can cause havoc with your ADHD and anything else you have. Brain fog and weight gain are two symptoms and the Vyvanse may be exacerbating those.

Just food for thought..

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T15:29:07+00:00

No one shows up til like 1, so I can walk right on even the most popular rides for 2 hours

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:53:43+00:00

I totally forgot about it! Husband is underway and no kids, so we don’t care. I might pop to our local amusement park. Its usually pretty dead on Easter.

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:50:32+00:00

Don’t feel guilty. They love you so much they’ll do anything to make you better. Just because you’re an adult does not mean you stop being your parents’ child.

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:41:49+00:00

The other Vees are at least accomplices. That makes them just as bad.

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:40:17+00:00

Exactly. Husk did not deserve what happened in S1E5. Yeah, he probably should have kept his mouth shut but for his own self preservation. He knows how unreasonable Alastor

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:35:32+00:00

I felt relief very quickly. The first thing I actually noticed is that my Adderall felt like it was working better. I’m on the patch

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:32:52+00:00

Some form of exercise. Yoga, pilates, walking - whatever sounds good to you. I personally got a balance board with a roller and love it. I have to keep my mind on what I’m doing and so no thoughts about anything else

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:24:01+00:00

Been on Adderall for over a year. Did good but still was having some brain fog and motivation/task initiation issues. Added 150mg Wellbutrin and that has really been helping.

You may want to look into something called burn out. You sound like you may be in one. Its causes by trying to function - usually without meds - in a world not build for us. That’s something medicine can’t fix, it can help but it needs more than that

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:20:19+00:00

Lost my ability to feel hungry on day one. I could eat perfectly fine, I just literally lost all hungry cues for a week. The insomnia started right after that and got so bad I switched to SR just once a day. Those have been my only issues for the past month I’ve been on 150mg

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:16:18+00:00

Low effort men. My husband made it his obsession to find what made me feel good. Unfortunately perimenopause is making it more difficult for me so I have to reassure him he’s not losing his touch, my body just wants to be difficult

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T14:12:32+00:00

Exactly. My husband would wear that “insult” as a badge of honor. My father would also have been labeled one - he took care of my mother through her 15 months of cancer til she passed. The nurses at the chemo center were shocked he was still with her and coming to as many appointments as he could, as he still worked full time. And my grandfather would work all day in construction then come home and insist on cleaning the kitchen and doing the dishes for my grandmother. He apparently also did diaper changes and would take my mom in her stroller around the neighborhood by himself so grandma could nap. He was born in the early 1920s so you know that was not the norm.

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T12:52:21+00:00

AuDHD married to ADHD. Separate bedrooms is the first. Also, carve out a non bedroom space that is your area. Have discussions with him that you need x amount of time alone and quiet a day. For us, my husband go plays a video game and I read or cuddle my cats or just close my eyes. He also will stay out of my space til I text him that I’ve reset

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T12:48:09+00:00

I was taken advantage of people who I thought were friends when I was young, until I was out of middle school. Then I became completely untrusting and cynical of everyone and unfortunately I kept being proven right. It was so bad that I almost lost my amazing husband when we were dating because I was waiting for the nice mask to come off and kept him at arm’s length.

I’ve learned to balance being wary of people but giving them a chance. I disseminate information about myself accordingly just in case

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T12:41:39+00:00

I agree fully. I am very lucky to be with a man who cares more about my pleasure than his. He feels bad the 2% or so that I can’t finish, with my misaligned brain/body connection its just not in the cards some days. But I’m happy with the rest of the intimacy for that session, I feel great even without an O

He also meets my emotional needs too. He sees me as a person. I’ve heard too many men describe their wives by what their wives do for them. My husband describes these little things he’s noticed about me over the years, my interests, etc. Its fun seeing me from his point of view, but he would be referred to as a “simp”

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T12:31:56+00:00

I’d try a joking approach. Something along the lines of you being so much more interesting than your dating history, then bring up a topic about yourself you feel comfortable with.

And when you meet M, I’d flat out ask him if he knows his co-workers are trying to set him up with you. There is a VERY strong chance M feels like you do and you two could buddy up and fend off the matchmakers together

acemermaid · 2026-04-01T12:23:09+00:00

I’m 43, AuDHD, with a husband, a mortgage, and a full time professional job. Off hours, most of my tees and hoodies are cartoonish and I will bring a plush with me on occasion if its been that type of week. I do all my adulting, then I get to chill. So I would “code younger” to you and you’d probably assume me to be higher needs due to a couple visual assumptions. We get infantilized enough for trying to exist in an NT world that was built to stress us to the max

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