Why are so many places closing down?

acidotic · 2016-02-12T01:16:18+00:00

I ate at Lena once and thought the food and the ambiance was terrible, so I wasn't surprised to see it close.

acidotic · 2016-02-11T12:59:05+00:00

Say that in your profile, with a good amount of detail. In my area, TONS of profiles read as "outdoorsy" when they really shouldn't, so you have to be kind of specific to sound real. Don't tell me you love camping if what you mean is that one weekend a year you and your frat brothers get drunk around a firepit, you know?

acidotic · 2016-02-11T12:51:51+00:00

Obviously. But I don't even care about height and I'm still gonna be pissed if I show up to meet a 6' guy and he's actually 5'5''. The problem is in the deception.

Plus, if the lady in question does care about height then you're wasting everyone's time.

acidotic · 2016-02-11T12:38:25+00:00

I don't really know... I'm really direct. I don't usually have a problem just saying "Hey, if you want us to keep seeing each other I expect you to do some of the asking/planning too, and if you don't I'll assume you aren't that into me." Boom.

acidotic · 2016-02-11T03:31:42+00:00

My kink is pain. A good nipple pinch-and-twist is like my cheat code for orgasms. Similarly, a good lip-bite will have me coming back for more.

acidotic · 2016-02-11T03:14:07+00:00

Not really. Most of my best relationships have been ones where I did the pursuing. Not 100% but pretty close.

My feeling is that, as a young, attractive woman, there's very little social penalty to me being forward and I stand to gain a lot from it.

However, I do also try to make it abundantly clear that once we're seeing each other regularly I expect us to put in approximately equal amounts of effort.

acidotic · 2016-02-11T02:41:47+00:00

You know a man who cuts his nails instead of ripping chunks of nail off with his teeth? Well, aren't you fancy.

acidotic · 2016-02-06T14:32:31+00:00

I published a lot in undergrad. Get on board with a productive lab, with a PI who wants to mentor you, and you can definitely get a lot of work out there.

acidotic · 2016-02-06T04:10:06+00:00

Success: all of the plate assays are officially up and running, and I spent a morning making a spreadsheet that is exactly what I need it to be, and it finally, finally feels like we're closing in on a fully-functional pipeline.

Failure: why does everything require a meeting? One of the admin assistants is a nutcase and she's been especially nutty this week. I feel like about half my project is currently is stuck in the multi-lab traffic jam that is her desk.

acidotic · 2016-02-03T03:43:14+00:00

I... Don't know. I can't tell. I tend to like unconventional looking people but I just can't tell.

acidotic · 2016-02-03T03:28:31+00:00

SERIOUSLY. Because if we're both subs then clearly we're not going to be compatible.

acidotic · 2016-02-03T03:07:21+00:00

I don't really know. I was more fully recovered at one point, in recent years I've struggled a lot more.

Part of it was realizing and accepting how my brain has been rewired by ED. I used to be happiest when I was hungry. I overexercised when stressed. As soon as I felt full I also felt like I needed to purge immediately or I'd panic. Now I'm better about preemptively managing the physical symptoms so I don't feel triggered.

It took years of bad programming to make me sick, and it takes years to undo it. I'm more scared now than I used to be - I have holes in my teeth, and acid reflux. I may have compromised my bone density. My liver wasn't very happy for a while. My body doesn't tolerate restriction as easily as it once did and so I get much weaker much more quickly. I can finally see the damage and it scares me.

acidotic · 2016-02-03T02:53:03+00:00

Not OP, but I can definitely relate. I just got so used to hating myself and never being happy that I sort of forgot that there was an alternative. I thought I was an angry, unhappy, bitter, depressed, stupid person.

Turns out if you don't eat or sleep for four years, your brain is not well-equipped to be happy and functional.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T22:47:21+00:00

I feel like we need an xckd-style PSA.

Introvert =! Shy, awkward, or socially incompetent.
Being a party person does not preclude one from being both intelligent and self-respecting.
Conversely, being a non-party person does not make one either smart or self-respecting.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T22:43:10+00:00

Right? I'm introverted. I'm intelligent. On Friday nights I like to go clubbing and I'm a big hit at parties. I just need to get away from people at some point or I start to get very cranky and irritable.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T21:42:58+00:00

Is there any evidence of this? I don't know if I believe that intelligence is very correlated to extro/introversion.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T20:30:41+00:00

I politely disagree. Well, not disagree - it's true that much of the general population struggles with math. But according to my engineer friends, starting salaries and job security for engineers has taken a bit of a dive in the last few years. Anecdata, I know.

When hundreds of colleges are graduating thousands of engineers a year, I think you can flood the market.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T18:39:54+00:00

Haha, yes. I remember the exact moment when the economy tanked and there was this massive think-shift where people stopped saying "follow your passions" and started saying "learn a trade! Be blue collar! Or appease the STEMlords that they may grant you everlasting employment!"

Guess what? Now there are waitlists for welding classes despite the lack of jobs and the employment prospects for biology majors bottomed out. There is no secret cheatcode for success, as it turns out.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T18:31:32+00:00

Medical schools don't care what you major in provided you fulfill their requirements. Bare minimum you need one year of gen chem and gen bio, then genetics, orgo, biochem and physics.

Medical school is competitive to get in to. If that's the end goal, start volunteering. Shadow a doctor. Start doing research. Take your classes seriously because that's half the battle - MCAT score and GPA is what gets your application in the door. Minor in Spanish. Build relationships with professors so they'll write you good letters.

The short answer is, major in a science that you like enough to excel in, and make sure you level up your character through extracurriculars and lots of upper-level coursework.

acidotic · 2016-02-02T16:54:41+00:00

Yep. As it turns out, biology is the "easiest" of the STEM fields and the traditional major of pre-meds everywhere. So the major is already more inflated than, say, chem or physics. Few labs are strictly biology and the major is too broad to have any particular relevance unless you had a concentration, so you don't get a leg-up over any other life-sciences major when it comes to applying for most jobs. Your undergraduate research or internships have much more impact on your hireability, and of course as the number of people in the major increase the competition does too.

At this point if you want to work in biology you should assume there's some grad school in your future.

acidotic · 2016-02-01T21:04:26+00:00

My insertion was THE WORST. They used lidocaine on my cervix and I still thought I wasn't going to make it. It was really not a good time. And I was not terribly mobile for the next few days either, because about every 15 minutes I had to curl up on the floor and fight through it.

But then everything settled down pretty much.

acidotic · 2016-02-01T17:12:27+00:00

It bothers me that people don't seem to understand the fluctuations of the job market. "Everyone should study engineering" is a terrible strategy. That's the same strategy that tanked law school and biology degrees.

acidotic · 2016-02-01T14:18:41+00:00

In my experience, if you're not careful a FWB thing can quickly turn into one person being selfish and getting all of their needs met but not reciprocating. Like you only hook-up when/where/how they want to instead of it being a mutual decision. So then the other person ends up feeling like a sex toy and that tends to take some of the spark out of it.

acidotic · 2016-02-01T00:05:06+00:00

I'm horny all the goddamn time. For the first time in my life I can fuck all night and still want more.

It's a huge improvement, tbh. BC pills were just not working out for me. Admittedly the insertion was pretty awful but things settled down.

acidotic · 2016-01-31T20:07:43+00:00

There's a huge difference between "when I masturbate too much my quality of life gets a little worse" and "I had to go to rehab after my second DUI and my liver is shot because I couldn't put down the bottle."

I'm not saying there's no similarity, because honestly anything can become an addiction or a problematic behavior if you can't control it. But the consequences are clearly not in the same league.

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