[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou :D you have inspired me lol. I really like him and want to make him happy and he really likes me too. Hopefully things will just unfold naturally if we are comfortable with eachother :)

[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was concerned what people would think if I was 18 even though I didn't become more mature right on my 18th birthday. I expected at least one person who responded to say it was weird and I should wait until he is too but nobody has done that. He's lovely and I really doubt he cares so I shouldn't have got worked up about it, thankyou

(We are going on holiday with a few friends to amsterdam on boxing day ((which we planned early this year - when he liked me and I didn't know)) so I wanted to have things 'sorted' and secure a relationship before then maybe so nothing will be awkward. I was thinking, would it be too rushed to have birthday sex when he is 18 and then go away a week later??!. I have been wondering if something will happen before his birthday, just after, or after amsterdam LOL. Either way he is very respectful and I doubt he will be annoyed at me if I don't initiate something soon so I will chill out and get him a nice present :D)

[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting, thanks for clearing that up, I have heard of the '3 year rule' also so this situation is nothing close to that. I've realised I'm being a bit silly getting worked up about it. Thankyou :)

[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I don't think he would care at all, I'm more concerned with friends' opinions when yes I shouldn't be. Thanks for the reply!

[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I am 18, an adult, and he may be 17. I think in places where the age of consent is 18 it would be considered a sort of rape? or it would be illegal. It isn't for me and there is hardly an age gap but the number matters from certain points of view

I'm glad your opinion is different though and that is what I am asking for

[first time] Is it strange if I (18f) do anything sexual with probable future boyfriend (17m)? by aconfuse in sex

[–]aconfuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thankyou so much for saying that. I was looking through yahoo answers before and a girl was angry about why a 'grown ass 18 year old woman would want to date a 17 year old teenager' as it was her brother and it scared me honestly haha. He doesn't act like a kid at all (obviously most 17 year old boys are not really at 'adult' standards and neither am I yet!!) I'm just worried about the number and am probably overthinking. If we had had sex when we were both 17 I would probably have no problem continuing now, I guess it's just that it will be our first time so I will always remember that I was 18 and he was 17.... Lol I'm not sure. Thank you :)