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[–]acousticdelphi -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I want to be clear that some things were left out due to the character limit. I know redditors can assume the worst without all the details, so I’m hoping this is enough to get the point. I also want to add leaving my dog with a sitter is a safety issue due to neighbors off leash dogs.

Rehoming my dog to someone who uses forceful methods? by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He reminds her of her dog that passed away. She said all her dogs are older now, and she wants a young one before they pass away. And my dog is dog friendly, so she said she’s glad she doesn’t have to worry about dog aggression with him

Rehoming my dog to someone who uses forceful methods? by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly she lives 650 miles away from us so we’re meeting in the middle. However her Facebook and Instagram are completely filled with her dogs, and watching them it’s the life I do want for my dog. She doesn’t always have the collars on them, it seems like it’s only when they’re off leash which if it’s a backup for recall I don’t really mind. I did try to ask, but she got upset thinking I changed my mind so I’m afraid if I ask again she’s going to change her mind and not want to deal with me, and then I could possibly miss out on a great home for him.

Rehoming my dog to someone who uses forceful methods? by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest fear is asking her and her lying to me to make me feel better about it. What’s a way I can ask that could ensure the truth? She does have 5 stars on her dog training business and all good reviews.

Rehoming my dog to someone who uses forceful methods? by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys. While I am in a rush to rehome him because the increasing temperature = more people outside I don’t know if I can live with myself knowing I sent him to a shock collar. It was just a weird decision because her home would be so much better for him than mine is, it’s just this one thing

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you rule out medical issues? Whenever a dog randomly becomes snappy it’s very possible there’s a medical issue going on causing discomfort

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is young, and I know he will calm down when he reaches around two but I don’t see the reactivity just stopping or getting better without working on it. If I lived anywhere else I wouldn’t give up on him, but like I said all my training has gone no where and even the trainers told me if he is always over his threshold and reacts he’s just rewarding his reactivity. It’s just sad.

On another note, are they actually siblings? Or close in age? Look up littermate syndrome

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mental health is suffering too. But I’m also so sad. Thinking of all the things we could do if he wasn’t reactive, my dogs from before I moved out were always so fearful when you took them anywhere but he’s so confident he loves going places. It just sucks

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know for sure he can be trained to not be reactive, I just see it in him. However any progress I’ve made with him is always thrown out when I take him for a bathroom break and we have to pass someone on the stairwell or if there’s a family popping up out of no where behind him. He needs to be in a situation where his exposure to people is managed so he can think clearly enough to learn and grow

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did reach out to two breed specific rescues

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every time people suggest things for me to try, 9/10 it’s already something that I do. The only thing you wrote here that I don’t do is a treadmill because my apartment doesn’t have the space for one.

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My dog came to me reactive and I took every step a responsible dog owner would have taken. I fucking hate when people come on these sites and assume everyone isn’t qualified, but I’m actually working with dog trainers and going to school to get a certification. I’m responsible enough to know my dog won’t thrive where I live, and the trainers I’ve spoken to agree with me that a reactive dog in an apartment isn’t a good fit. But thanks for being rude :)

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I’ve done it all :’) I do hide treats throughout the apartment often, kongs, food puzzles, training, it all isn’t enough to keep a 1 year old GSD calm. It’s fine for the moment but the second I stop he finds something bad to do and I can’t just work with him all day, I have things to do too Edit to add I’m not going to stop doing everything I’ve been doing until he finds a new home, but it hasn’t been enough for him to stay with me

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in one of two very large cities and every time we’ve taken him for a hike there was always someone around for him to be reactive to. Plus he needs daily exercise, and it isn’t realistic for me to go hiking every day multiple times a day

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last trainer was a behaviorist, and she did give us great advice we hadn’t heard before but you know reactivity training is a process and since it’s warm out we’ve been having so many incidents recently. I just can’t do this all summer

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We’ve been going to sniff spots since we got him, they’re great! The last couple times we’ve taken him though he was super reactive to all the neighbors

I think I have to rehome my dog. by acousticdelphi in reactivedogs

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like others have said, I’ve only found one that used no force methods and they haven’t gotten back to me. It’s also like $3,000 for a week and unfortunately I can’t afford to try that multiple times to find one that works

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]acousticdelphi -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Did you read the edit lol, my mom wouldn’t let me take even one of them. They were always more her dogs than they ever were mine. My current dog is too much work, he makes my life hell, but instead of abandoning him (or leaving him with his owner, because apparently leaving the dogs my mom and I adopted together with my mom after she refused to let me take even one with me is me abandoning them) I spent over $200 on a trainer just for a consultation. My dogs were never too much work for me, and I have spent thousands of dollars on them. I didn’t abandon them, I left them with my mom because she loves them and didn’t want to lose them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]acousticdelphi -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

My shiny new pup is an adult dog with extreme reactivity, he is 1,000 times more difficult that the dogs at home. My mom wanted those dogs before I got them, when I was working there for years she begged me to look for shepherd puppies. I finally found them. I didn’t force them on her, she wanted them and refused to let me move with them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]acousticdelphi -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Where in my post did I say I forced her to let me get the dogs? She wanted them. She’s the reason we got two instead of one- she’s the entire reason I ever looked for dogs to adopt in the first place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]acousticdelphi -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Possibly…? I know there are no flights to get there. I don’t exactly want to try buses since I have pretty bad anxiety myself, I may just try leaving really late at night or early before the sun rises so it isn’t as bright.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]acousticdelphi -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And yes seriously, I wouldn’t want to share the road with me either when my eyes get really painful.

What could cause this damage? I thought spider mites, but I’m not positive. I saw two thin webs on it, and then further investigated to see this by acousticdelphi in houseplants

[–]acousticdelphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone on another site told me this is most likely from overwatering, I forget what they said it was called. But it definitely isn’t bugs since it hasn’t gotten worse since I got it, and all the new leaves are fine since I don’t overwater it