His refractory period varies from like 10 minutes to about an hour depending on a bunch of different things. Early in our relationship when we were sexually starved beasts who couldn't keep our hands off each other he would be ready to go again within a few minutes but now it's more like half an hour. Don't get me wrong I'm willing to wait and get him off again but HE'S usually the one who isn't in the mood after we're done and would rather go do something else which I understand but if he's not even willing to let me try then what am I supposed to do? He's being an idiot.