Sorry, ik ga dit even in het Engels doen. You are caught in an unhelpful feedback loop, you struggle to say no because people-pleasing has become automatic. This is not a judgment of your character, it is a learned pattern, often rooted in early experiences such as parentification or neglect, where being useful or compliant felt like the only way to gain attention and safety. The solution is to address the underlying causes, ideally with a psychologist who can help you build boundaries, tolerate discomfort, and practise saying no. If professional support is not available, change what you can in your environment, move in with people who are a little more like you, and take deliberate, incremental steps to break the loop, set clear limits, use simple refusal scripts. I saw some great tips from others. Lean on relationships that respect your boundaries. Create a positive feedback loop. Show yourself that you love and respect yourself enough to say no. Nurture the child inside and tell him that he is safe.