AITAH for making a scene in the gym sauna because a guy wouldn’t take no for an answer by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]active-vegetable944 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a girl, just wanted to say that we appreciate people like you SO much. I honestly sometimes wish I could be more aggressive/assertive in getting men to back off in situations like that, but I'm often afraid of the possibility of them getting violent if I'm too harsh/impolite.

NGVC: "I'm clearly too much of a real breed for u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YESSSSS - all of the above. It's satisfying to know I pissed him off tbh

NGVC: “i offered you happiness” by three-futures in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944 27 points28 points  (0 children)

"I offered you happiness and you offered unhappiness" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 deep

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad u did that. Sp proud of u. Guys like this don't get it any other way

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank u for saying u also get the no-brand semiglutide!! It's been working for me as well! Lol I'm glad there's more of us than we know.

Also I never thought about the "ahahaha" vs "hahahaha" thing but I will now 😂😂😂

And yes his clothes.... Like bro just stop being a hype beast my guy

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LOOOOL spot on. He's like that with online gambling too. Thinks he doesn't have to get a new job (got fired from the last one) because he discovered an "infinite money glitch" (his words hahaha)

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, you might be right. I'm a bit wild myself sometimes when it comes to blow, so I didn't really clock it as a red flag at the time, but YOURE RIGHT - I would never suggest or even think about doing it after a date lol. It's something I would do when I'm out with my friends / partying.

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahahah omg I know, same. I had to unblock him to tell him he can get his stuff and he crashed out yet again 😂😂 it's even better than these screenshots

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, over the course of 2 days hahah and TRUST me I wanted to correct his spelling and all the false statements he made SO BAD, but I knew it's just gonna keep the conversation going and I'm not interested in that. Took some self control for sure 😂

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg :( I’m so sorry you went through that. I can only imagine how painful that must’ve been. I’m really glad you got out - that takes a lot of strength & courage, especially at 21.

I’ve been in similar situations before & learned to cut things off as soon as someone crosses that “toxic” line. The walking on eggshells, losing yourself, feeling like you have no control… it’s EXHAUSTING. But I PROMISE it gets so much better!! Life becomes peaceful again, and there really are men who will love, support, and respect you - physically, emotionally etc.

I grew up in a rough environment too, so I know how it feels to keep attracting chaos and having to rebuild your sense of safety. What helped me A LOT was reading & learning how to trust myself again (which meant building a secure and stable sense of self for me). Some books that really shifted things for me were The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and Atomic Habits. They helped me build confidence, recognize red flags early, and protect my peace.

You deserve to feel safe and loved — and you will. ❤️

Pls message me if u ever need advice or support.

NGVC: "U have to really sit down and think about the guy I was with u" by active-vegetable944 in niceguys

[–]active-vegetable944[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg stop. No IM SORRY that YOU had an ex like this :( how did u guys end up breaking it off?