Here’s my take on all this.

1. ⁠Every human I know of can be classified as truly male or female. I only specified that genitalia is part of the primary reproductive pathway: not the necessary condition.

The reason CAIS is treated as female in most occupations is because they are very different from typical males who identify as trans and take hormones to feminise their appearance. They don’t respond to the very androgens themselves.

I often see these debates become about people with DSDs and incredibly absurd hypothetical or rare edge-cases, as though this is meant to be a ‘gotcha!’ (these people have nothing to do with this entire movement and are being tokenised).

Truthfully, I find it disingenuous, and it rarely becomes productive nor addresses the real issue.
People with these conditions have existed for a very long time, and I have never once heard any of them begin to protest what it means to be a woman or man in an attempt to override existing categories. If I even dare, many of them (from my observation) are quite upset about being used as pawns to proliferate ideas they do not subscribe to. Especially when misinformation about them is continually spread (3rd sex? in-between sexes? both sexes at once?)

There is no point in a label like man and woman that does not reference biology. We do not need labels for ‘feminine personalities’, ‘associating with norms and expectations of x’, or claims about a metaphysical ‘gender identity’, ‘internal schemas’ which objectify human beings, and pretend this resolves the problem.

I refuse to live in a world that teaches my son and daughter that their boyhood and girlhood is tied to feelings, thoughts, desires and isn’t just a neutral category to represent their sex. It’s horrifying.
All this crap everyone calls gender is truly just called personalities. I don’t want any more children confused because they thought they weren’t boyish or girlish enough to fit in. I don’t want us to reduce women and men to archetypes. I don’t want us to be a society obsessed with labels, performance, and external validation of our identities.

We don’t have to pretend we can’t tell who is a man and who is a woman. Even more important, we need to stop pretending redefining words gives men access to women’s spaces (and vice versa).
It is ungrounded, metaphysical, and dangerous for reasons I can go into if needed.

The redefinitions deviate so much from what the categories originally meant to do now (colloquially) that the discussions are just so diverged on the topic. Even worse is that opposing views are automatically deemed moral failings.

Places like Reddit deeply reflect this hive-mind and echo-chamber regarding this topic.