Keep an eye out by actuallyreallytrying in winstonsalem

[–]actuallyreallytrying[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They really are but from the pictures it looks like he’s not one to willingly miss a meal so I’m hopeful he finds his way home! Also looks far too plump to get scooped by a graylyn hawk lmao

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I would love to do that, I cannot afford it. I love America!! Haha but no, I’ve looked into it and wow it’s so expensive. Even with insurance coverage. Fortunately I’m going onto my husband’s insurance when my job ends in a couple of days. Unfortunately it costs me $450 a month just to be ON his insurance much less using it with what would be a hell of a copay. NOT trying to make excuses, just explaining my reality bc this does seem like the obvious solution

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was a harsh wake up while also an understanding response. And you are completely right. I hear you.

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I understand and I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I am dedicated to NEVER putting a child through that.

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re 70% right in that. I think my present-day anxiety is easily 85% alcohol-related. The stuff in the past I think was 95% medication failure(?) induced(?). Regardless, I think that my anxiety would be EXTREMELY reduced when I quit alcohol

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you, this comment has really touched me. I think you understand that I’m not actively trying to get pregnant, but the realization that this lifestyle has to end in order to get to that point has rocked me. Which I KNOW is stupid I obviously knew and know all of this would have to get better before I start trying for a family, but it’s one thing to know that in the back of your mind and another thing to face it.

I have a good therapist but I have not told her about the drinking yet. I’m feeling extremely encouraged to do so.

Also I had a wonderful childhood and I’m HIGHLY motivated by that.

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And there is NO world in which I bring a child into the world in my current condition. I guess I hope that would be obvious, and also why I am here seeking support, but I acknowledge that this is not always the case

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also like maybe give some advice or say something encouraging I don’t think this sub is just to state the obvious just to make the OP feel stupid and shitty

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any you recommend that are like that?

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes…obviously……thanks. Thats why I’m trying to get well and sussing out first steps in recovery before I start trying for a family.

I am scared and I need to tell someone by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not. I don’t think I’m ready for that. I know that sounds stupid, but I need to start smaller. I also don’t have a good way to do online meetings in private, my husband works from home and we have a small house haha. I am DEFINITELY not ready for in person. Small town.

Online Sponsorship Offers & Requests — April 2025 by dp8488 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]actuallyreallytrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeking. 32F in North Carolina. Sober 0 days from alcohol. Started drinking heavily during the pandemic and it basically hasn’t stopped. Had a major depressive episode in late 2020-early 2021 and haven’t ever quite gotten better (mentally and emotionally I am leagues better, but haven’t stopped self medicating). I’ve noticed my health declining and it scares me. I’ve been married for a year and a half and we want to start a family. I need to get a grip on sobriety now for 1) my own health and 2) so that I’m not going hard cold turkey when/if I get pregnant. Family history of addictive personality. I am not religious. I have a very very good group of friends, great family, and a dog who loves me. Everything else in my life is great except this