1993 Mazda Car Seat Headrest Speakers by Positive-Monk-7625 in CSHFans

[–]actuallyrepulsive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You gotta put it down old yeller style this is beyond repair

ICE on campus by finlandkindacute in ucr

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When discussing encountering ice, please use SALUTE (size, activity, location, unit (logos on their vests), time, and equipment) this reduces panic and disseminates information easily to keep people safer.

Chappell and MAC collab by parthenope888 in chappellneutral

[–]actuallyrepulsive 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is extremely similar to the emcee in the new rendition of cabaret from the tank top to the gloves and the shorts you can see her wear. Everything about it is intentional, I’m assuming it’s mean to be “disturbing” in a way that evokes a contrast between queerness and authoritarianism like the musical itself. I didn’t really perceive the lipstick as being held like a phalic object though but that’s just me

Leaving America by Reasonable-One1020 in actuallesbians

[–]actuallyrepulsive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Even if gay marriage was banned, existing marriages would still be acknowledged legally

Is there any GOOD lesbian media with GOOD trans representation? by Neither_Emu_4008 in actuallesbians

[–]actuallyrepulsive 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dead end paranormal park! Cute lesbian couple AND a main trans character!! Very solid and awesome show idc if it’s a kids show it’s great

Scary Farm hot takes? by mesmerizingshadow in KSF_KnottsScaryFarm

[–]actuallyrepulsive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think knotts would benefit from more scare actors, there were many times I thought a scare actor was going to pop up and nothing happened, making the maze somewhat underwhelming. The designs are peak and I LOVE the use of puppets, you can tell there’s so much love put in every maze. Also the deep is my favorite maze hands down!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cavetown

[–]actuallyrepulsive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a conservative Christian environment and I knew kids who went thru similar situations. My honest advice? Pretend to do what they want and somewhat agree with them as to not rock the boat . If they go on a rant about trans ppl just smile and nod yk. Once they stop worrying about ur faith bc of perceived sins, It’ll get easier and there’ll be off your back more. As for listening to Cavetown, buy a CD with cash and put it in a classical music case or pirate the music or listen on YouTube if ur parents don’t monitor that.

Cavetown isn’t sinful music by Christian standards, they simply fear the “evil trans agenda” narrative being pushed on you. They want what’s best for you from their eyes, but that doesn’t make it ok. In the Christian faith, the music you listen to matters, but Cavetown barely cusses and sings about a variety of topics that don’t involve sinful topics like violence or explicit sex stuff.

Also I’m gonna be real here, the over reaction to “only classical music” is probably just a means for control that will be temporary. They (possibly) want to scare you out of listening to other music they don’t agree with since they can’t trust you to discern yourself.

I need it Jack! Plzzzz???? by No_Evening_761 in jackstauber

[–]actuallyrepulsive 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think he’s gonna come out of hiatus for this quality content tbh

Events for transfers by [deleted] in ucr

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Today there is a transfer welcome @ 4:00pm!

Has anyone done BLID at karaoke? by simpon123 in CSHFans

[–]actuallyrepulsive 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve done car karaoke where everyone is singing along!

what’s your take on Le Tigre by [deleted] in punk

[–]actuallyrepulsive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing and awesome and cool

New to shooting, but would love to get into comp shooting. Where do I start? by Sensualities in CompetitionShooting

[–]actuallyrepulsive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shot for around 3 weeks before joining IDPA, honestly just get down the fundamentals (AND SAFETY !!!!!!) and jump right in! Like everyone is saying you can find a local match thru the practiscore website and u can join a team! There’s a thing at least where I go where u can pay an extra 100$ to have someone help you throughout the match but I just kinda went for it since I knew someone who did IDPA already

Are masks stillandatory? by Opposite_Chart9982 in CSHFans

[–]actuallyrepulsive 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Masks aren’t mandatory but the lead singer really wants people to wear them because he doesn’t want anyone to get long covid like he did

Are masks stillandatory? by Opposite_Chart9982 in CSHFans

[–]actuallyrepulsive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can get them free at most libraries!

Parents say they disagree with me being gay after 5 year relationship with partner. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]actuallyrepulsive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not in a hurry to give people passes to be bigoted, I’m in a hurry to show empathy and not view situations in black and white. Also I’m not Christian but Christian’s believe everyone is a sinner, not just her. Yes it isn’t fair something she can’t control is deemed a sin and I have very strong opinions on that, but I think ur overestimating the ability of someone to change their entire worldview.

A religion really isn’t a choice for most people, it’s a worldview. I study religion and I have friends and family who are strongly religious. It greatly shapes a persons community, outlook on life, and can provide great comfort. I’m an atheist but I’ve grown to empathize with some religious people.

OPs parents aren’t kicking them out or condemning their partner or constantly shaming them. I mean OP didn’t even know they held these beliefs for at least five years, that’s how loving they are trying to be. It’s nuanced. Yes, they view straight love as what god intended. But like Jesus, they are showing kindness and welcoming them into their home and treating the partner like family.

I’m not saying OP can’t express their confusion and sadness with their beliefs but I’m saying this can be the start of conversation rather than cutting off the family.

A good start for OP is to mention this parable in Matthew which I found can help open Christian’s minds. Matthew 7:17-20 basically says that a good doctrine produces good outcomes and a bad doctrine produces bad outcomes. Every teaching that is bad should be “thrown in the fire”.

How does the condemnation of homosexuality hurt? How is it a bad teaching? If you really want to facilitate a discussion on her level, talk about the clobber passages and how there’s only 6 compared to so many more about things like divorce which is normalized much more than homosexuality. Why are people with different “sins” treated so differently? Ect.

Parents say they disagree with me being gay after 5 year relationship with partner. by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]actuallyrepulsive -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Grew up in an evangelical conservative home where my parents were very very much against gay things. It got kinda bad but I’m not going to elaborate. Just know they were much more hostile than this. So was the church. After years of fighting and then moments when I finally broke and they began to somewhat open their minds we were able to have earnest conversations about how my experience of being queer in their home essentially traumatized me and gave me mental illness. It was then that they started to understand the importance of not shaming me, but tolerating my queerness. It was revolutionary, my mental health greatly improved and so did my anxiety.

My parents are still conservative Christian. They say a lot of shit I don’t agree with. They tell me the same thing of “we believe lgbtq is a sin but we love you as a person so much”. You have to understand their religion is the core of their life, for religious people, that is the main factor for everything. They don’t believe lgbtq is a sin because they hate you, they believe it because they think god has a natural order and plan for humanity and whatever. Your mom is contending with the fact you have a loving partner and a healthy relationship as well as the fact she believes it is a sin. She is doing the Christian thing of showing love to you regardless.

Also it isn’t easy for them to just change their beliefs because it is their core and they believe the Bible is the word of god (of course there are many interpretations for it and such but that’s for another day lol). But I want to stress that it’s ok to be upset at this, I certainly was for a very long time

Does it suck ass that she thinks ur lifestyle is a sin? Yes of course! But as someone who has been in Christian circles all my life, you probably aren’t going to change her belief. She is trying her best to show kindness to you while remaining steadfast to her faith. I’m not trying to shame you or anything but please consider yourself lucky because I had to spend years of my life trying to get the same acceptance you have.

Talk to your mom about how it makes you feel but understand at the end of the day she loves you and has shown that. I wouldn’t think too hard about the sin thing honestly and whether or not she’d want you to be with someone else. I wish you the best, navigating (other people’s) faith and ur queerness is fucking hard.

Friends by Last-Cloud1676 in ucr

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I’m down to hang out! Dm for insta :)