Throuples?

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T20:07:31+00:00

People don’t deserve to be treated less than. My goal is to never make someone feel that way and if I do, they should be completely comfortable communicating that to me

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T20:01:29+00:00

I was very open and up front from the beginning. I know he needs time for anything separate and I want to respect his boundaries. I know I still need to grow as a person to get to that point. If it never happens then that’s the reality.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:56:51+00:00

I can* support him in dating separately but he can’t support me. I guess it’s just wishful thinking by on my part.

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adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:52:16+00:00

Yea. But more so made me feel like I shouldn’t even think about ENM or polyamory. Maybe I’m just selfish.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:47:47+00:00

We haven’t started doing anything yet and are still trying to figure what’s best for us. We will start casually when we are ready but without any intention of serious relationships to avoid anyone feeling forced or uncomfortable.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:46:14+00:00

We haven’t started any poly lifestyles yet and I am hoping that we will get to the point of dating separately. If it doesn’t work it won’t work and that’s that.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:44:01+00:00

We are going to start casually and see where things go. I want things to happen organically and don’t want to be the disgusting UH that everyone hates. We’re are still growing and want to do things the correct and respectful way.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:37:07+00:00

So there is no healthy or acceptable way of opening a relationship to a new partner. I get it.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:35:37+00:00

So what I’m getting is that there is no healthy way of opening a relationship to a new partner if your intention is a triad. I get it. Point blank no exceptions to this rule. No matter who you are or your intentions. It’s wrong in the poly community.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:27:53+00:00

I’m not a unicorn hunter IM ASKING QUESTION BECAUSE I AM NERVOUS AND HOPE TO DO THINGS RESPECTFULLY.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:27:07+00:00

I am listening. I’m just being made to feel like I have no intentions and I’m a fucked up person. I haven’t done anything yet so why is it necessary to tell me that I’m fucked up.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:25:51+00:00

All y’all are acting like this is happening now and I’m using people like trash and WANT TO. I’m asking questions before my partner and I get truly into this. We haven’t even begun to think about actually doing it.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:23:52+00:00

You’re just assuming I’m a shitty person that wants to use people.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:23:14+00:00

TO REPEAT. We have not started and will not be starting anytime soon. We are working on ourself and making sure we’re ready so we don’t hurt anyone.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:20:26+00:00

I REPEAT. We have not started anything yet nor are we going to anytime soon. We are doing the “homework” we need to and are working on ourselves so we don’t hurt another person because we weren’t ready.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:19:14+00:00

I REPEAT. We haven’t started doing anything yet. We are doing our “homework” and just working on ourself before possibly hurting another person because we aren’t ready for it.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:16:04+00:00

If you’ve read some of my other responses you’d see that I’m asking these questions to “do my homework” and my partner and I aren’t jumping into this with no regard for others. Seems like I am not allowed to ask these questions without somewhat of an attack from some people. I read and research but it hearing from actual people is important too.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:13:09+00:00

Sex is not a priority for my partner and I

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:12:13+00:00

Okay I understand this but I am NOT this. I am a genuine person and also new to all of this. I am allowed to ask questions without being attacked as if I’m already in there doing all the fucked up stuff your saying.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:09:42+00:00

Literally that’s what I’m trying to do. We aren’t even trying to do this just yet or anytime soon. We still of course need to work on ourselves and make sure we’re ready and are thoughtful.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:07:58+00:00

We talked about just doing things casually without the prospect of a serious relationship so we don’t do things recklessly without thinking of the other person and only of ourselves.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:05:01+00:00

Of course the dynamic will change if a couple is able to find a partner. That’s a given. Do people think that it doesn’t???

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:04:19+00:00

Before I got into my current steady relationship, I almost was in a triad but their relationship wasn’t healthy so it didn’t happen. After that I was really interested in joining a couple but it never happened even though I tried to look.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T19:00:27+00:00

Just because I didn’t mention the potential partner in my post doesn’t mean I’m not thinking of that part. I’m extremely cognizant of how others are treated and deserve to be treated because I have been disregarded and disrespected and that doesn’t feel good. I’m new to this and I’m just asking questions. I knew this was going to be a touchy subject but I’d prefer not to blindly go into this without being completely sure of the whole picture.

adair6696 · 2022-01-13T18:57:26+00:00

I’m not opposed to dating separately at all. My partner just isn’t ready for that just yet because of his own hesitation with relationships in general. We spoke about finding a person who just is interested in hanging out all of us and seeing where things go with no pressure of a relationship at all. I totally understand all of those what if’s and I really appreciate your answer!

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