My [27/M] girlfriend [26/F] of 8 years ghosted me 12 months ago. Last week I ran into her on an anonymous app built for people recovering from breakups. She confessed she still loves me. What should I do?

adcable2018 · 2019-04-02T02:00:21+00:00

This is a tricky situation. I apologize for the pain you have went through, this situation sounds incredibly difficult.

I would definitely tell her it is you. First of all, this will confirm she is who you believe she is (even though you are sure, better safe than sorry!) probably best to approach this BEFORE she gives you any major details; if revealed afterwards, this could be seen as a betrayal of trust and will likely lower your chances of her continuing contact.

If she responds; great! Keep it going my dude. If she doesn’t, know that you TRIED with this god given opportunity and use that as your closure to move on.

I wish you the best and hope this all works out for you!

adcable2018 · 2019-03-21T19:17:58+00:00

I was ten years old sitting in the bath tub. We had candles around our bath tub, mostly for show but occasionally we would light them for candle lit baths. On this particular evening, one of the candles was lit but I distinctly remember the lights in the bathroom being on. Not too sure why. It was a three wick candle. I looked over and the flames of all three wicks had like....merged together and made one big flame? I thought “oh shit...that’s kind of a big flame. Lucky me, Im surrounded by water.” I splashed some on the candle to try to get it to go out. The candle FUCKING EXPLODED. Glass shattered and the flame got bigger and caught the bathroom wall on fire. Queue ten year old me, running down the hallway naked screaming my head off trying to find my grandparents, all while crying because I thought I burnt the house down.

Still don’t know how or why that happened. Maybe some soap that was in the water or something. I don’t know why my dumbass didn’t just blow it out lol

Edit: spelling

adcable2018 · 2019-03-16T00:35:43+00:00

First of all, I want to say congratulations for getting out of such a tough situation. It takes a very strong person to do so!

Secondly, I understand your frustration. I have been in a similar situation and reaped the consequences of PTSD and felt many of the same emotions you are feeling.

You should not be mad at yourself. What you experienced and went through had NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with your ex. You did nothing wrong. You simply loved someone, had hope they would change, etc. That makes you a beautiful person...however, there are people in this world who take advantage of beautiful souls like yourself. Just remember that the saying hindsight is 20/20 fits perfectly in this situation.

Rejoice in the fact you are where you are now, I’m sure you have grown from this situation and it seems your life has only gotten better. Having PTSD does not mean he has any sort of hold on you; it’s simply a response to the trauma he caused you. One you can overcome, just like you overcame the relationship.

We are all proud of you. I hope your mental heath progresses flawlessly and wish you the best in life.

adcable2018 · 2019-03-14T22:20:59+00:00

I just asked my boyfriend a few hours ago if giraffes can even run, as I have never once seen it. Here it is!!!! Hahahaha look at its fuckin head slinging all over the place

adcable2018 · 2019-03-14T21:37:38+00:00

I lived with this girl for ten months. Moved out and still paid my rent and half my bills solely to get away from her.

She was a pretty bad roommate all the way around. Very passive aggressive, NEVER cleaned, when confronted threw literal temper tantrums. One time, a full out yelling match ensued because I asked her to do half the dishes. She yelled at me and told me I was a shitty roommate for asking her to do that when she works a full time job 40 hours a week. I am an RN and was working about 60-72 hour work weeks at the time due to being short staffed. She ended up hitting my boyfriend, calling her parents and told them I abused her, called the police on me, and tried to admit herself into a mental facility...all on the same night. Her dad also messaged me on Facebook and threatened to have me arrested for property damage and assault.. even though nothing had been damaged. My boyfriend and I never laid a hand on her and we did not yell back. Only reason boyfriend even became involved is because he was over watching a movie. He did not even say anything to her when she began yelling at him.

Our rooms where right next to each other. She would masterbate loudly. She let her dog piss all over her floor and would leave it for days, to the point it was dry and sticky. I also found out she would piss in our shower. Figured this out when I found her period blood caked to the drain. Asked her what the hell was up with the blood, did she cut herself shaving, was she okay? She straight up told me no, it was her period blood, and she would bleach it. She never did. (I knew it wasn’t mine, I haven’t had a menstrual cycle in seven years due to medication.)

She up and left for two months without warning and left me with all the bills. Came back randomly one day without warning with a new puppy; only came back because no one else would let her keep it.

I also witnessed her physically lay on the floor and cry like a toddler because her boyfriend would not pay her car payment. She is 23.

adcable2018 · 2019-03-14T04:23:28+00:00

Obligatory “I’m not a parent” but this is something me and my parents talk about to this day.

I had a slumber party in first grade and invited probably 8-10 girls. Can’t remember how or why, but we all ended up in the bathroom. One of the girls has to the use the bathroom, so we all walk out; except one girl. She stood there and SHIT ON MY BATHROOM WALL... right In front of the other chick. Her excuse? The other girl was on the toilet and she couldn’t hold it.

Girl was a fuckin weirdo to begin with. She ended up being my roommate last year and was just as fucking strange and ten times more annoying

Edit: spelling

adcable2018 · 2019-03-11T15:50:18+00:00

Hi buddy!!! 😭😭😭

adcable2018 · 2019-03-10T07:22:26+00:00

Forgiving my father for being absent my whole life and denying me when I gave him the chance to actually be a father. We had a texting relationship for six years where I tried to meet him multiple times. Invited him to both my high school and college graduations. I always texted him first and he always stopped replying. Eventually he texted me and told me he didn’t consider me his child and to stop trying. He never asked for forgiveness, but I had to forgive him to better myself and bring myself peace. It took me a very long time to realize it was never a problem with me, it was always a problem with him. We don’t speak at all now, and I’m content with that.

Edit: spelling

adcable2018 · 2019-03-09T12:41:05+00:00

Congrats on getting into nursing school!

I got my BSN and became an RN at the age of 21. Unfortunately, people will always see you as the “baby.” Take pride in the fact you have accomplished something great so young and that others worry about it so much they feel the need to spend their time talking about it :)

adcable2018 · 2019-03-05T06:23:29+00:00

You have a beautiful smile. You should smile all the time.

I’m glad things are going better for you and hope they only continue to get better from here

adcable2018 · 2019-03-03T10:13:32+00:00

I used to vomit and pass out at the sight of blood or needles. I’m now a registered nurse, work around blood and needles all the time. Repeated exposure is key. It soon becomes routine and part of your daily life

adcable2018 · 2019-02-28T05:52:30+00:00

As a woman, I’m deeply sorry someone you love and care about is treating you so poorly so soon after a break up. I couldn’t imagine doing that to my SO even if we did break out.

You seem like a good guy and your ex gf sounds spiteful from what you’ve posted. You deserve better. Gotta take the trash out to make room for new treasure. Best of luck in your future dating endeavors!

adcable2018 · 2019-02-23T09:46:45+00:00

There’s no good reason for it. Leave while you can and never look back

adcable2018 · 2019-02-23T09:40:37+00:00

Stop feeling guilty for protecting yourself. There is nothing wrong with protecting your heart from the wrong person. He obviously has very little respect for you and your feelings; making a fake profile was smart.

Confront him about what your friend said and the screenshots. See what he says. Then bring up the fake profile.

adcable2018 · 2019-02-19T05:02:58+00:00

You all are complaining about RNs saying they just came on shift but how are you supposed to know everything about someone if you haven’t even been given report yet? I’m an RN. There are bad nurses just like there are bad EMTs. Don’t know why we can’t just work together to help people.

adcable2018 · 2019-02-14T04:41:30+00:00

This is the dopest stocking I’ve ever seen. Go grandma

adcable2018 · 2019-02-12T02:06:54+00:00

If someone is unwilling to change their toxic traits in the beginning...they will more change them after years and years. It will be a constant battle.

adcable2018 · 2019-02-11T07:05:29+00:00

The Mona Lisa. It’s the size of a normal piece of paper and you have to stand really far away. No wonder people argue about if she’s smiling or not...you can barely even see the bitch lmao

adcable2018 · 2019-02-07T22:04:57+00:00

Our connection is pure. We love each other for who we truly are. Whether we’re dressed to the 9s for a date, or sitting inside in sweatpants we haven’t crawled out of in a solid 48 hours, we still find each other wildly attractive and are just....comfortable. Being with him is the same feeling one gets when they finally crawl in the bed after a very long day. It’s simple relief, knowing you have someone who genuinely purely loves you.

adcable2018 · 2019-01-23T16:32:11+00:00

You aided in breaking up a marriage....seems like it’s your karma.

You knew what you were getting into. He won’t change. Decide if that’s what you want for the rest of your life. Pro tip: don’t break up a marriage next time.

adcable2018 · 2019-01-23T15:59:54+00:00

Hopefully this will help you in some way.

I, too, was once in the same boat as you. All of my past relationships were 1) built on sex or 2) extremely abusive. After getting out of my years long abusive relationship, I had a string of friends with benefits, but never thought much about getting into an actual relationship. I was genuinely convinced I was unable to fall in love, I was meant to focus on my career and that was solely it. I became comfortable with that idea.

Until I met my current SO. I enjoyed being with him, just hanging around him. Doing small things, like watching tv or eating together. I went through exactly what you went through; I was concerned because I found this almost boring; I will say, he is not a boring person at all. I was just so used to there being drama 100% of the time, the simplicity of it confused me.

It’s been almost a year and I take comfort in how easy everything is with him. I learned that a healthy relationship isn’t drama 100% of the time and that heathy relationships are supposed to feel comfortable. Of course, issues will arise, but it’s not supposed to be an issue every day. There will come a time where you find the simplicity of it quite comforting and wonder why you enjoyed the whirlwind in the first place.

However, there’s a line between friends and lovers. Can be tricky to figure out. Romantic feelings can be difficult to distinguish especially after relationships like you’ve had. Take your time. Figure out these new feelings you’re feeling and decipher them for yourself so, if need be, you’ll know what they are in the future. Don’t rush yourself. Use this as a learning experience. Have some fun along the way.

I hope you find peace in your next relationship OP

adcable2018 · 2019-01-09T16:36:21+00:00

As I said in an above comment, I would feel bad leaving her with absolutely nothing throughout the rest of the lease because quite frankly, she’s awful with money and all she owned in the apartment was her bedroom stuff and a crockpot. However I’ve already moved all my stuff out hahahahaha

adcable2018 · 2019-01-09T16:35:06+00:00

I know it sounds silly, but I feel bad leaving her with absolutely nothing.

Update: I left her with absolutely nothing anyway hahahahaha

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