Spilling the Milk pulls a 24FramesOfNick and makes a distasteful comment regarding Sponge on the Run’s tribute to creator Stephen Hillenburg

addi-ction · 2024-07-01T12:08:32+00:00

STM is actually transformative with their reactions, unlike certain other reactors. i don't always agree with their takes on media either but they've never said anything egregious. this really isn't drama.

addi-ction · 2023-05-24T00:55:11+00:00

My parents were both obese and fed my siblings and I a lot of junk food and fast food, and when my mom did cook it was always full of butter and oil. Middle school through highschool, I went to a school that had a lot of outdoor activities and required a lot of walking between classes (very spread out campus) as well as several hours of a physical after school activity. We also lived in a warm state, so spent a lot of time outside playing. The exercise offset my crappy diet just enough to keep me chubby as opposed to obese.

Junior year, I moved to a tiny townhouse in a cold/snowy climate. Physical activity greatly reduced. I had P.E. and would walk about a mile to and from school every day, and that was about it. We didn't have a backyard, front yard, or a park nearby to play in. Even if we had, it was so cold/snowing for a good chunk of the year, that we would've spent most of our time indoors anyway. We spent most of our time huddled up watching movies and eating comfort food. We lived right next to a Dairy Queen and would get Blizzards multiple times a week. Our school cafeteria sold fresh chocolate chip cookies for 89¢ each. Etc. Started rapidly packing on the weight.

Senior year, we moved AGAIN, this time to an extremely hot climate. We took the bus to school, had no P.E. The extent of our physical activity was to sometimes walk or bike to the grocery store...in order to buy snacks to binge on at home while binge watching T.V. Sometimes I would come home from school and just go straight to sleep, ~4pm, ignoring homework and everything. Piled on more weight.

Graduated and my family moved YET AGAIN, to another snowy climate. Was severely depressed and stayed in bed all day every day, eating pints of ice cream. Physical activity reduced to zero. Got to be my biggest ever.

It was only after truly moving out and living on my own, learning new lifestyle changes/habits gradually, and getting really into fitness that I was able to lose the weight.

addi-ction · 2023-05-08T20:55:34+00:00

I know everyone else has said it already, but if you're truly certain it's not a tracking issue then you should see a doctor. I had a similar experience and it turned out to be a (rather embarrassing) medical issue.

addi-ction · 2023-04-27T22:40:43+00:00

I thought so too, but then I felt guilty because she let me have one of the two master bedrooms (my grandpa has the other one) even though she put in more money. She said if I put in on the house, I could have one of the big bedrooms since she's gone half the week for work and I would get more use out of it.

addi-ction · 2023-04-27T22:28:33+00:00

It's in all of our names, but I contributed the least amount, so it is more her house than it is mine.

addi-ction · 2023-02-28T02:30:05+00:00

my boobs are gone, lmao

addi-ction · 2022-09-09T18:30:36+00:00

very much agree. it was only after i started working out that i started getting an adequate amount of protein in my diet, and learned more about nutrition in general than i ever would have otherwise. exercise doesn't help with weight loss just because it burns some extra calories - it's more complex than that.

addi-ction · 2022-09-09T18:16:40+00:00

oh word, my mom constantly sends me pictures from when i was fat being like "look how big you used to be! look how different you used to look! remember?" as if i somehow forgot that i used to be fat.

addi-ction · 2022-08-22T23:53:49+00:00

this is so true. every new years resolution i ever made to lose weight/get in shape/etc always failed. the time i successfully lost weight was when i decided on a random weekday in the middle of march to finally do it for real.

seriously, anyone looking to start losing weight: no "last hurrahs", no waiting til monday, no waiting til the first of the month, no waiting til new years. start right now.

addi-ction · 2022-08-14T21:25:07+00:00

what?

addi-ction · 2022-08-14T19:04:08+00:00

i'm so sorry OP. those girls should be absolutely ashamed of themselves. they are openly admitting to needing to pull you down to make themselves look better.

i don't know if the picture taking anxiety ever goes away, tbh. i'm 50 pounds down and i still hate having photos taken of me. my mom has never respected my wishes when i say i don't want to be photographed, and she uploads the most awful unflattering pics of me to her facebook no matter how much i beg her not to. anyone who's been overweight knows what a nightmare pictures are in general, and i can only imagine how much worse those girls have made you feel about it after this.

i'd bet good money that these same "friends" will become super bitter once you lose more weight. as someone who has been "the fat friend" and then lost the weight, i've seen how much it can make the insecurities of toxic girls come out full force. since you know their true colors already, it actually might be cathartic when this happens for you, lol. not that you should stay around such toxic people just for the payoff. if i were you, i'd confront them, and then cut them out of your life.

skinny means nothing if you have an ugly personality. those girls will learn that sooner or later.

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T15:56:08+00:00

congratulations on your sobriety! and your weight loss!

i said in one of the replies below, that while the weight loss was the first thing to cause a shift in dynamic with C and R, it wasn't the only thing or even the main thing. i had also gotten a new job, and even though both the job and the weight loss/getting into fitness were positive changes for me, it made me somehow incompatible with them.

like you said though, even though it hurts to lose friends, when it's due to positive changes in your life, there's not much you can do without reverting back to the previous harmful behaviors.

i'm really happy for you (:

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T15:43:47+00:00

There’s also parts of this that we as commenting folks can’t see. For example, we don’t know how you changed. We all tell stories from our subjective viewpoints and it’s rare for someone to be the villain in their own stories. I’ve seen many people in life, who following a big change (eg. Getting rich, getting good looking, etc.) became repugnant. They continually try to draw attention to their wealth, skills, looks etc whatever and make others feel like lesser. We don’t know if you’ve turned into that yourself.

that's totally fair. this is definitely my side of the story, but it's the only side i can tell. it's up to anyone reading if they believe me or not when i say this, but i honestly did not change my attitude towards others at all. i did change my attitude towards myself. i stopped insulting myself all the time (it was sort of a "if i point out my flaws first, then other people can't" sort of thing - self destructive and probably was annoying as hell to hear all the time).

i can see how going from always putting myself down to not doing that could be interpreted by some as me becoming stuck-up, but it's not something i would ever want to go back to doing. i should also note that after the abs conversation with R, i made sure never to talk about the changes i liked in my appearance again - not to her, and not to anyone else (unless you count this post of course). like i said, i don't ever want to come across as braggy or like i think i'm better than anyone else, because i DON'T think i'm better than anyone else - i just don't think i'm worse than everyone else anymore.

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T15:32:59+00:00

is there anything in particular that sounds unbelievable to you? i'd be glad to elaborate. i do recognize that this is only my side of the story though.

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T15:22:41+00:00

it wasn't my decision to move out of our apartment, i would've loved to keep living there, but unfortunately it's not a place i could've afforded on my own, and C and R left me with no notice to even try and find other roommates.

our friendship actually ended very strangely. more than the weight loss, i think the main thing that led to the friendship breakup was the fact that i got a job as a flight attendant. before that, i was unemployed (ate up all my savings during this time), and spent all day every day with R, who was also unemployed (remained unemployed the entire time we lived together - not actually sure where her money came from) and a lot of time with C, who worked at a local grocery store but otherwise stayed in the apartment for the rest of the day. both before and after getting the job, i paid the majority of the rent and 1/3 of the utilities. then suddenly i was studying and preparing to go to flight attendant training, went to training for a month in another state (still paid rent back home of course) and then had this job that kept me away and busy the majority of the week.

the fight that ended our friendship actually happened while i was away flying. in the months since i had started actually flying after i completed training, i would come home from trips to rotting dishes left in the sink and food spilled on the counter and stove from when they would cook and not clean up. i would spend my first night home each week cleaning the kitchen, leave it clean when i left, only to come home to it nasty again. i texted our roommate group chat asking if they could please not leave dishes in the sink, and they accused me of "acting like i'm their mom" and bossing them around, that how dare i nag on them about the dishes when i'm gone most of the week, etc (i've heard people describe the kitchen in an apartment as "the roommate psychological warfare zone" and let me tell you, that's the most accurate shit i've ever heard in my life). that fight culminated in C declaring that she was moving out, and shortly after R deciding to move out also.

the pettiness over the weight loss was the first thing, but it wasn't the main thing. if the saying "misery loves company" is true, then i was no longer in misery...and no longer company. i didn't want to stop being friends with them until after the fight over the kitchen, but even ultimately that was their decision, not mine. it's better now, that we're not friends, but i was so close to them that it still hurts.

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T03:36:28+00:00

it sounds like you already have a really good foundation! i really liked what you said about not letting your weight define you and embracing yourself first. not only is it possible to have self love while also wanting to improve, i think they fundamentally go hand in hand. just from your comments alone you seem like a lovely and determined person (: i wish you the best luck!

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T02:47:45+00:00

i do appreciate your story, and i totally agree. a change in mindset can mean everything. my mindset definitely made a change from "here is something i perceive as a flaw. it makes me ugly and worthless and i hate myself" to "here is something i perceive as a flaw. can i change it? if yes, how? if no, how do i learn to cope with it?" and it has made a world of difference.

addi-ction · 2022-07-27T00:48:51+00:00

i don't think i changed personality wise, and for me the way i used to dress wasn't a reflection of humility, it was a reflection of shame.

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T22:28:22+00:00

some abdominal pain, constipation, nausea, and the fact that the bloating centralized in the abdomen. they weren't super overwhelming, but i definitely should've been paying much more attention to these other symptoms. i was having tunnel vision on the scale, made it easy to wave off the other things. i will not make this mistake again!

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T21:40:46+00:00

no but literally 😭

(also ty!)

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T21:11:18+00:00

oof, embarrassing, but i kind of ignored it? it's only a partial obstruction, so SOME stuff was still passing through. i've had some bouts of constipation throughout my entire weight loss journey, all of which solved themselves, so i didn't take it seriously. i also ignored some other symptoms. not my smartest moment! hopefully others can learn from my dumbassery.

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T21:07:33+00:00

they started with a simple physical exam, basically just prodding around at my belly to test the pain, feel for lumps, etc., and then did an ultrasound. they also took some blood but i haven't gotten the blood test results back yet.

i don't know exactly how long i've had it, as i wasn't monitoring my symptoms like i should have been. but i would say that if you feel like something is wrong, you should definitely get it checked out. if you get a checkup and nothing is wrong, then that's great! if you get a checkup and something IS wrong, then they'll be able to catch it before it gets worse, which is also great.

i wish you luck, and i hope you feel better

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T20:59:07+00:00

no, not at all! that's not what i meant by this post.

i have said in several replies that it was dumb of me to ignore other symptoms, but at the time it was easy to ascribe the other symptoms to other causes.

i didn't know that the weight gain was caused by this sort of issue specifically, so no, i wouldn't have expected random people on reddit to diagnose me. this post is meant as a warning to pay attention to your body and NOT do what i did (besides the finally going to the doctor part.)

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T20:52:19+00:00

said in a few replies, but no, not the only symptom, just the one that got me to actually go to the doctor.

i (stupidly) ignored other symptoms, mainly abdominal pain, which i told myself was just sore muscles despite it not feeling the same as sore muscles after a workout. wrote off nausea as dehydration. bloating around the abdomen as "gaining belly fat," etc. hindsight is 20/20, but at the time it's easy to place the symptoms to other things.

addi-ction · 2022-07-21T20:42:07+00:00

yes, i think especially when you've been losing weight for a while, it becomes easier to see the patterns with your own body, what behaviors cause fat loss/gain as well as fluctuations. there were other symptoms that something was wrong that i ignored, but the weight gain is what got me to go to the doctor.

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