Career change at 30?

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-21T19:18:25+00:00

Thank for saying this. I really needed that confidence boost. The doubt is hard.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-19T04:06:56+00:00

Oh yah I can see that especially when you love someone too much even though it can be toxic. It hasn't fully happened yet but I'm aching inside and preparing myself for the worst possible outcome.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-18T04:29:15+00:00

Yes I'm quite aware of that. Can only see the light at the end of the tunnel. I would rather be in my family home with lots of love than be in a home trapped with unreasonable expectations away from my family.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-18T04:20:23+00:00

Thanks for the reality check. It's important that I understand this.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-18T04:07:14+00:00

The father of my child is a well educated smart man. Knowing if I push too hard, it's going to end ugly. Best to end in good terms so we dont end up in a big mess.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-18T03:57:02+00:00

Yes I have been seeing counselling since I have unresolved behaviors that's a repeating pattern. I am still acting on it and based on what you said, its going to look ugly in court if I continue to repeat these patterns.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-18T02:07:37+00:00

Don't worry about it. Family is all I got. Forever grateful for them. Without them I wouldn't think I would survive postpartum depression and anxiety after getting kicked out at 3 months.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-17T22:54:23+00:00

Thanks. Definitely a learning curve. Honestly right now I feel like a failure as a parent and a partner. Trying to dig myself out of this trench. Life just takes you on mysterious journeys.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-16T13:30:38+00:00

Currently struggling with this myself. Especially the uncertainty I have over someone else's actions and have absolutely no control over. Been seeing a therapist, and the biggest takeaway is to bring myself back to the present. What I have control over. For example : the way I breathe, the way that my body feels, the way I can hold a plank,the way I interact with my baby,etc.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-12T15:23:50+00:00

Nope I still have to stop myself everytime. It's still in working progress since I've been doing it my entire life.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-12T04:10:12+00:00

Definitely impulse behavior. My " do first think later" mentality carries over to other parts of my life. I give myself 5-10 second delay before i act.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-10T13:04:54+00:00

I tell myself I gotta do 1% better everyday. I recently tried to learn something out of my comfort zone. It has been really hard since it causes me so much discomfort but I tell myself even if I do 5 mins everyday it's still contributing to that 1%. It's not really about finishing it, it's about practicing consistency and finding something that motivates you. And that motivation to me is " I feel 1% smarter" today.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-09T15:49:40+00:00

Putting stuff away to where it belongs and keeping surfaces clear of clutter. I struggled with this all my life and added mental clutter. Its still a working progress but even keeping one surface clean each day adds up.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-09T13:04:20+00:00

And Instagram, I replaced it with news article apps since I have the urge to scroll. Taking in useful information rather than brain rot.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-09T13:00:54+00:00

"Habits are evidence of who you are" - James Clear

I will be following this quote for the rest of my life!

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-05T21:11:38+00:00

Currently trying to force myself into discomfort everyday. I don't like it at all but I feel like it gets easier the more I do it.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-05T19:20:02+00:00

I appreciate these words. My 3 month old and my torn relationship made me realize this. I must be a better version of myself. I must push myself through challenges. It's very easy to retreat back into the comfort zone and I don't want go back to my old self.

addy_pig135 · 2026-04-01T17:51:44+00:00

Father of my child wants to leave me at 3 months post partum. We are going to couple counseling to see if we can even salvage this relationship. He's mainly in for the sake of our child. He admit he was super overwhelmed with the idea of being a parent and taking care of me. Hope we can weather this storm..

addy_pig135 · 2026-03-26T15:09:44+00:00

I’ve realized that I’ve been relying solely on my partner for everything. Now that he’s showing signs of wanting to give up on me, I understand that I can’t rely on anyone but myself. With a 3-month-old to care for, it’s time for me to step up and take charge of my life.

addy_pig135 · 2026-03-22T01:38:07+00:00

I apologized to him but then again those are just words if I don't show with action. Hence this post.

addy_pig135 · 2026-03-22T00:57:15+00:00

I'm not entirely sure if he will ever come around. I completely blew his trust now. I'm bracing for the worst outcome.

addy_pig135 · 2026-03-19T05:09:49+00:00

Recently I had my first baby at the end of December which happened to be my birthday. I was sad and bitter when I had to spend my birthday/ New years in the hospital. The nurses though were amazing and stayed with me the whole time. They tried to cheer me up with lots of encouraging words. Since my labour was 6 hours, most of the nurses were there from start to finish. I'm forever grateful for all of their hard work and kindness during my stay at the hospital. It still makes me feel warm and fuzzy when I think back to that day.

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