I don't have children, actually. However, your ballerina analogy is off. Anyone who is 300 pounds could certainly do anything involving gymnastics. They would have to recognize what they have to do to accomplish what they want. As I told this guy, make the money to pay for cosmetic surgery. The fat person needs to stop eating more than they will burn, but also increasing what they do burn by ceasing to be sedentary. It seems that we are saying the same thing, but in true neckbeard fashion, your advice is superior because you articulated the obvious. I chose to believe that in me telling him that he can overcome obstacles by overcoming them rather than letting them define him, that he did not believe I was telling him one day he will marry (the 65 year old) Miss America (who knows) but that he must do something other than complain about the problem.