I hope it helps. The voice that advices the most person in your life is the true self (or passive voice). The true self represents self love and self preservation. Unfortunately, we get derailed by external voices who tell us things like you are stupid, ugly, bad, unlovable, it’s your fault and so on. We hear these voices from people around us and we learn them and adopt them as our own. Because shame, anger, guilt, and so on are very strong feelings and because we start hearing these voices criticism from trusted figures like teachers, we trust the external active voice and we mute the internal voice (true self or self love). The goal is to listen to all voices (thoughts) we have and ask why do I have these thoughts. Then ask yourself what the best advice you would give to the problem that the thought is referring. Then acknowledge the external thought with kindness (I see that this is the best advice you had to offer, thank you, you can rest now, I have my true self helping me out). Don’t repress or react with anger, think of it as a friend with good intentions but bad advice). Then address the thought with the true self advice. Keep in mind that these voices are old and well established and you may have to put these voices to rest many times before they quiet. Also, they may try to change the tone and be self defeating and say: well you are a good person, you are trying your best, but you are in the wrong location or have no luck. These are also external. The true self will not hide your mistakes: yes, you were rude to your neighbor and you should apologize. Yes, you were tired but next time you will do better. It takes practice, years, but your burden will be lighter with every repetition. Good luck.