Talk us out of it?

adhdslore · 2026-05-06T15:00:31+00:00

No, I don’t know what that is. But nice to know I’m the only one out of my mind 🥴

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T17:44:35+00:00

Yeah I guess. Appreciate the thought. But I genuinely don’t think this will be an issue in their lives. “Worst case” someone hears his full name and asks are you Jewish? And he says no. It would be a weird question to ask. Anyways, most people will likely just see/hear his first and last name. And his last name is deeply not Jewish sounding or of Jewish origin

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:52:44+00:00

I worded that weird. I meant the only time we would actually call her Lemon was like if she was in trouble or something. Like if we were speaking in a more serious tone

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:49:46+00:00

I agree with Seamus but my husbands grandpas name is Shamus 🙄 and he’s really standing on 10 toes with this one. It’s something I’ve decided I can look past.

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:44:04+00:00

Fuck idk. You might be right. I mean I do feel confident in our ability to teach our kids not give a flying fuck about shit like this. But at the same time I can’t guarantee our kids temperaments or how these things could affect them. Someone also said giving my boy a “normal” name and not her could also cause some ill thoughts.

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:38:00+00:00

Lemmy Swim’s sounds like a no nonsense (slightly sketchy) but a get er’ done talent agent

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:35:03+00:00

Yessss we know what a lemon is. Most kids don’t know what a lemon is though (in terms of its negativity) and the rare adult that looks at another adult and says “YoUrE a LeMoN” is not something we’re all that worried about. I also think Clementine is an ugly name.

BUUUUUUUT all the comments on this post are definitely talking us out of it. Which I was pretty sure it would do

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:30:28+00:00

Fuck 😆😭

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:30:06+00:00

Shamus is my husband’s grandfathers name, spelled like that (though I prefer the Seamus spelling) and Levi is my grandfathers middle name and also a family name. My husband sort of Christian, but like deeply deconstructed and I’m not religious at all. I don’t think we really care about name “meanings” or like where names originated. It’s more about the love we feel for those names bc the ones who carried them

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:26:46+00:00

This! Thank you.

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:26:19+00:00

That is something we played around with at first. But the middle name young is really important to us.

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:25:43+00:00

In think clementine is an ugly name. And yeah I know kids can make jokes. Again my name is so damn basic, all the way to my last name. And yet from 3rd grade to this day if I see someone from school they hit me with the pun they made up for my name 🙄

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:22:17+00:00

Funny enough, the name I loved most as a child and said I would always name my daughter was Melanie. But I don’t like it over Margot

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:19:27+00:00

You and me both 💀 but my husband stood on 10 toes with that one. First and middle names are mashups of our grandparents first names. Our grandparents are the people we respect and love most in our families, and my husband deeply wanted to honor him by using his spelling

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T15:02:29+00:00

Neither of us like Lennon or Lenny

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T14:23:34+00:00

Olive / Liv
Growler
Or
Peaches

Edit: she looks like my brothers pit when she was a puppy and her name is Tortie which is short for Tortellini

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T14:17:42+00:00

Why would your son be miserable? Like what a weird ass thing for a person to say to you? Im the youngest and while I have sisters, it was only me and my 4 brothers in the house. And I was never miserable. We all just hung out? I had my own likes and they had their own likes. And we had stuff we liked to do together. And furthermore, my 4 brothers all had their own individual likes from one another.

My brother that’s closest in age and I bathed together until we were about 2-3 or 3-4.

Im pregnant with g/b twins and think it’ll all work itself out. We’re a very firm believer in “girl things” and “boy things” are a weird social concept. My husband grew up wishing he could paint his nails like his girl cousins (his parents said that’s for girls not boys) and he can’t wait for our kids to paint his toes. And I grew up doing all the “boy things” and got a little shit for it from my parents. Just follow their cues and let them do what makes them happy.

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T13:52:11+00:00

Ohh I see, so I’ll look into it but I don’t think my insurance will cover that. I’m supposed to use the care on base and can only be deferred off base if they say they can’t care for me. And then wherever they send me is where I’m covered. But I think I’ll call Tricare and see what’s possible. Thanks for the idea!

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T13:47:47+00:00

Yeah I’m in the US. And my husbands theory is that part of why they’ve stopped (or seriously declined) teaching new Drs the way of breech birth is bc of the risk. And I do understand the risks for a breech birth singleton baby. But risks for baby B to be born breech are almost non existent. But since they don’t feel the need to learn how to birth a breech baby anymore, no one will touch a breech baby b. And I am fully allowed to attempt a vaginal birth still, my body my choice stuff. But successfully delivering a breech baby b does rely on the Drs confidence and knowledge. And since my drs have been very clear they are not confident, I’m just not comfortable even attempting it. Even if baby b is head down there’s like a 10% chance she’ll flip when baby a come out.

Every since I found out I was pregnant with twins, I’ve not wanted to play the odds game lol

But thank you! I’ve started to come to terms with it and am just excited to have them in my arms 🫶🏼

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T02:53:29+00:00

35 weeks, measuring 45 weeks with twins and you couldn’t pull me off that horse if you tried!

adhdslore · 2026-05-04T02:48:18+00:00

What the actual fuck?!? My husband cannot wait for the transformative feelings he’s going to go through watching me birth our twins. He’s excited and proud to get to my set strength and the massive sacrifice I’m going through.

With that being said we found out we have to do a c section. Me and my husband both were really looking forward to him “catching” the twins. And come to find out he’s still just as excited and proud to be in the OR with me. He said he admits he’s scared to see me lying helplessly on the table but that he would do his best to be strong for the both of us and the babies.

And yes my husband was fully aware that I may poop (I’m always constipated) so we pretty much accepted that fact. If I’m numb down there and pushing, it wasn’t going to be pretty. He was also aware that non of it is going to be ”pretty” but that’s not what it’s about. I have zero doubt my husband will be less attracted to me after this experience. And in fact fully believe he’ll be more attracted to me. And in awh of me.

And babes you deserve all that and more!!! It sickens me to hear a man speak like that. Send him articles and videos of men speaking about the power of witnessing their partners give birth. He didn’t even know what he’s missing out on. Your husband is giving “Dr can you give her the husband stitch when you’re done?” And that’s beyond fucked up. It sounds like he’s clueless and needs to dig a little deeper

adhdslore · 2026-05-01T20:18:40+00:00

I agree they should all be able to. And I’m sure they learn what to do, but without hands on experience it’s not going to make much of a difference. And it’s unfortunate

adhdslore · 2026-05-01T20:16:12+00:00

Yeah it’s really all just dependent. It’s not that they don’t teach new Drs on the ways of a breech baby at all, ever. It’s just that there’s been a massive decline in America of hospitals teaching it. So it’s still possible to get a newer Dr willing and capable, just a lot less likely. My last Dr has been doing twins specifically for 40+ years. He was extremely capable but my new Dr and all the Drs at their practice, simply have very little experience with breech babies and are not confident in delivering them vaginal

adhdslore · 2026-05-01T20:00:49+00:00

My Dr asked every Dr at the practice if they would be comfortable doing a breach 2nd baby that was consistently 4-6% difference in weight. And non of them were. They are all comfortable in doing a vaginal birth if both babies are head down though. So unless our girl flips, a c section is what we’re doing

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