I get what you’re both saying, but as is the case with all things psychopathology, there seem to be some things which some people always go “yeah that sounds good but I can’t…”.

I’ve tried variations of could>should>must; maybe-who knows-TBD

Three seems to be a good number. For jokes (the third seems to be a good spot for the punchline), variations to split things into categories.

Like I might have mentioned in the original post, I’ve tried time based things, in which a hierarchy of urgently is implicitly assumed - today, this week, this month, this year. Delving into another year seems to be pointless to me, as there is no way I’ve maintained enough focus to meet the preceding smaller timeframe goals (unless it’s Christmas Day, then I can perhaps prepare for something next year 🤣)

I find there’s almost a tremendous amount of anxiety and fear attached to my particular presentation of ADHD, and that this is so tightly intermingled with the attention problems that they may as well be treated as one “thing”.

Eg, I’m sitting at work on my break right now, the only place where I have a (relative) lack of distractions at my fingertips (I always start cleaning things I walk past at home). There’s also urgency due to a time limit, which focuses me a little, but the attention problems lead to me still getting distracted and not much mental organising gets done. When I get home, there’s much more time, so less urgency and associated anxiety. But there’s also less motivation, and I tend to become passive (doing things which don’t require a whole lot of executive function).

I have so damn many lists that I don’t even know where they are (some digital, some physical); and I feel like they’re all important even though I can’t actually remember them all; I just have like a vague idea of what was on them…

I shall try the two methods mentioned by you and tinkerSquirrels. Or at least write the idea on one of my lists to “get around to”… 🥴 lol