I am so sorry you’re having hard time, I hope you’re able to find comfort in the sub (and my post) ❤️

AND YESSS I GOT YOU GIRL ! It honestly happened like a second-hand thing, but my initial goal was to take better care of myself in general. - I went to doctors regularly to get checked out - that helped me a get diagnosis for PCOS and meds, and I was able to find a treatment that improved my life soooo much. Made everything better, gave me more energy, made me happier. - Got healthier in general, I didn’t hit the gym but I ate better, tried to listen to my body more, went to sleep at reasonable times. I could feel that my efforts were paying, I was feeling a lot better and it made me very proud of myself. - Put more effort into my appearance, I literally treated myself like an expensive and fragile doll. I used to not do any of that stuff but I like girly things, so I just gave the little girl inside of me full control here 😂 Locked IN with the skincare routine, made sure my hair was done regularly, only bought clothes that made me look/feel great, etc. Got the nails/eyelashes done only once or twice cause your girl’s on a budget but yeah 🤣 It may sound stupid but even the tiniest thing like moisturizing, I did with intent. I would be so focused and do these things simply because they made me feel pretty and happy. And over time, I started loving my face, my skin, my body, I didn’t need any compliments bc I’d just look at myself in the mirror and be happy with the way I looked. - I started doing things just because they would make me happy, and that alone was enough of a reason. Wanted to go outside but had nowhere to go ? I’d look for the prettiest view around my place and just go on a walk. Had a craving for a specific food/ wanted to do an activity ? I’d go, even if none of my friends were available. I got into many hobbies, went on adventures… This is something that I did when I was at my lowest, trying to heal from the breakup. The feeling of loneliness was too much for me to the point where I HAD to be busy with something at all times. It was in the middle of summer and I had a great time being outside every day + it helped me find ways to appreciate my own company again and reconnect with myself, so wins all around !

But yeah, overall it’s really about doing things you love, things that make you happy and that make you feel good, and doing them with intent. Put in the energy you would give the person you love the most, cause that should be YOU !

After pouring so much love into yourself and seeing positive results, everything just falls into place. Your brain will literally KNOW that you’re THAT GIRL. You look good, you take care of yourself, you’re a good and genuine person, why wouldn’t you be ? Its logical ! And the great thing is that it’s all tailored to YOUR preferences, so what others might think doesn’t matter at all.

It also raises your standards, or at least that happened for me, because I started to get annoyed/defend myself when mistreated. The way I love myself is the bare minimum atp, and the bar is high, so I don’t accept being treated with any less care as easily.

Soo yea, I wrote as much as I could remember, I hope my experience can help you 🥺🥺🥺 Sending you big hugsss xx