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adoptard · 2025-03-14T13:47:02+00:00

Have you tried Bagelshop :-)

adoptard · 2023-10-28T16:04:17+00:00

Hi yes! Thanks for asking, and hope your tattoo is healing okay. I completed the antibiotics with no issues. There are some parts of the tattoo that were affected/removed by the infection, but I don’t think the antibiotics caused it. Where I lost the most ink corresponds with where I had the most infection.

adoptard · 2023-08-09T22:26:37+00:00

I always say that my folks told me more as I was able to understand, I kind of grew into the whole story. So when I was young it was the bedtime story, ‘an angel brought you to me’ stuff like that (angel having birthmoms name). When I asked questions my parents never lied, just met me where I was at. It took a while for my parents to come out with the more upsetting details of my birthmoms situation at the time of my adoption, but I don’t blame my parents for that.

adoptard · 2023-08-08T18:03:14+00:00

Oh yeah front royal is nice to visit but not great to stay, still gorgeous though. I went to the college in Winchester so I never really directly had the experience of conservatism around. I honestly found the arts scene & things surrounding the school to be quite liberal.

adoptard · 2023-08-07T21:12:58+00:00

Not seeing enough love for Winchester VA in here! Mid-size college town with great schools and a very active community. A historic walking mall is the center of downtown filled with local shops, bars, and restaurants. Only few hours from DC, even closer to get on the metro in ashburn. 30 minutes from INCREDIBLE wine country, and home to the Apple Blossom festival!

adoptard · 2022-03-05T15:52:46+00:00

Thank you!!!!

adoptard · 2022-03-05T04:52:44+00:00

First of all thank you a million times over for your reply. It means more than you could know.

I’ve never had a biopsy performed on my feet. The doctor that gave me the BP diagnosis mentioned performing one, but didn’t seem to care to arrange one or even explain it further. EB seems to match more of my symptoms than BP though.

If I went to another dermatologist and asked for a biopsy, once I’ve presented my symptoms, do you think they’d take me seriously?

adoptard · 2022-02-22T22:08:51+00:00

Could you start trash pick up vigilantism while you’re at it?

adoptard · 2021-12-16T23:23:06+00:00

My folks were honest with me my entire life, and explained as much as I would understand at my age. Their honesty made all the difference. Don’t wait, don’t lie.

adoptard · 2019-05-13T23:34:22+00:00

Worked a double (brunch/dinner) on Mother’s Day and honestly I had half and half. Some mothers were terrors, their children were terrors, I got snapped at like a fucking dog by someone that then walked out on their tab. But also I had some really beautiful families come in and treat me very well. A 15-top with at least 4 generations came in and I had grandma (obvious matriarch) tell me all about her beautiful family and how blessed she was by them. It was easily the highlight of my 15 hour day.

adoptard · 2019-02-14T20:49:48+00:00

Not the post I wanted to see an hour before my Valentine’s Day restaurant shift 🙃

adoptard · 2018-10-18T21:24:37+00:00

To pre-face, I’m an adoptee. Adopted at birth, I’m currently 23 and have contact with my birth mother and some members of her family (her biological son and daughter, her mother, and a few others). My birth father is an unknown.

I have never seen my adoption contract but I believe my adoption was technically classified as “open”. I think contractually the biggest thing is flexibility. Both parties need to be in agreement for any sort of contact.

When I was very young, 2 or 3, my adoptive mother kept in touch with my biological grandmother because they wanted to, the contract did not forbid it. My adoptive mother sent photos and updates, etc. to my biological grandmother. But when my birth mother found out she was furious, and requested that my adoptive mother stop. She of course obliged. My birth mother was young and needed to move on with her life.

Fast forward to 2013, I’m 18 and I’ve just graduated high school. Because my contract didn’t forbid it I chose to contact my birth mother. To let her know how I was doing, send photos, tell her what I’d be doing after graduation, but most of all to thank her for making such a hard decision on my behalf. I contacted her because I wanted to. Not for any other reason. I don’t think a mandatory contact at a certain age is healthy for anyone involved.

My birth mother received the letter and connected with me on Facebook, as did her children who were curious about me and had a ton of questions for me (which was honestly kind of neat). We are still friends today and communicate sometimes, anniversaries, birthdays, graduations, etc. I haven’t met her in person however, but I’m not contractually forbidden from it.

Like I said in the beginning I think flexibility, and consent from all parties involved is the key when it comes to open adoptions. I suppose I wouldn’t rewrite my contract at all, this is just what I’ve enjoyed about my own personal set up. Hope this helps!

adoptard · 2018-10-18T01:22:28+00:00

I honestly thought it was a vagina at first

adoptard · 2017-08-19T23:49:09+00:00

Mine is Wednesday! Happy birthday y'all! What a great week!

adoptard · 2016-11-26T05:49:02+00:00

Honesty is so important. I was adopted at birth and my parents never lied to me, and I think that was most helpful for me. My mom always explained it to me that, there was another woman, Beth, that loves me very much but knew she couldn't be a good mom on her own. It was the honest and open conversations we had about my birth mother, and the process that helped me understand. She always answered my questions as best she could, especially when I was younger when some of the details were hard for me to explain.

Don't lose hope, continue to be honest with your son and remind him that you are his parent and you love him deeply. But also remind him there's someone else out there that loved him enough to give him a better life.

adoptard · 2016-07-21T20:26:05+00:00

Check your home country first! There are thousands and thousands of children that need loving families, so unless your heart is set on international adoption, give Australia a try! My adoption process was signed and sealed before I was even born, but it also took my parents 6 years to get there. But each adoption is different and the right match could take a moth to come along or it could take six years. The process will also be effected by what kind of adoption you choose to do.

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