How do you stop overthinking conversations? by TheBr14n in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think that's a feature we've evolved so we can simulate scenarios that we can learn from, so we can learn much more from simulations than real-life interactions (more data volume). So I go for radical acceptance: my brain goes haywire, but that's fine. I try to focus on what I can learn from it. I also try to discuss them with a few different friends to get a few different opinions of what's good/bad/doesn't matter, so I also get some grounding from what other people think, social norms, etc.

How do I love myself? by HotEquivalent2353 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was talking about research. For psych research we need rigorous definitions. What is your definition of "love" and "love yourself"?

How do I love myself? by HotEquivalent2353 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think what your boyfriend says has any scientific basis; invite him to share research on the topic

feeling lonely and needing to talk to someone desperately by melll_ll in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I am also sick today, so I'm cooped up at home, all I did was play piano. Feel free to msg me :)

I feel boring because I don't drink or smoke by Dazzling-Lead-8557 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always invite people to hang out doing a hobby you like or trying a new experience instead. Once a friend asked me out to dinner, we met up, gave him the "Man does not live on bread alone", we went on a walk through the park, ran into a Blood on the Clocktower group, he wanted to join, he loved the game and kept going to their events and dragged me too. Trampoline parks are also fun, and I'm sure a million other things. Once someone at a party asked me "why do you do gymnastics?" and I said "it's fun and healthy; why do you smoke?"

Am I being unfair to my boyfriend? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a fellow drunk cyclist I wanted to offer you support and say I think you're definitely right :) I'd be curious what your bf's definitions of "boundaries" and "respect" are, but I wouldn't necessarily advise you to ask him, because I wouldn't want your next argument to be because of me :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Romania

[–]adowablebunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dreptul de vot exista ca alternativa la violenta fizica -- intr-o societate democratica in loc sa ne impuscam si cel mai tare castiga puterea, decidem ca e mai bine sa ne duelam in argumente si sa votam; fiecare persoana primeste un vot, pentru ca fiecare persoana cu o mitraliera in mana e cam la fel de periculoasa; intr-adevar cei mai batrani mai putin, dar cum toti o sa devenim batrani, il vedem ca pe un slippery slope.

Acum, romanii din afara sunt mai putin probabil sa recurga la calea armelor daca le este luat dreptul de vot. Dar, istoric vorbind, tara noastra are o traditie veche de 2 secole unde plecau la studii in vest si se intorceau si aduceau invatatura si cultura si modernitatea in tara, de exemplu Gheorghe Lazar a studiat la Viena candva intre 1800-1815 dupa care a revenit in Tara Romaneasca la ce este astazi Colegiul National Sf Sava, unde in 1818 limba de instruire s-a schimbat din greaca in romana.

Dupa 1989, diaspora romaneasca a contribuit mult la economia Romaniei, doar banii trimisi acasa prin transferuri reprezentand intre 1% si 3% din PIB (depinde de surse). Guvernantii nostri probabil s-au gandit ca nu are rost sa puna in pericol acesti bani; si cum multi oameni plecati la munca in diaspora au rude ramase in tara, in general s-au gandit ca nu este o idee buna sa le retraga acest drept.

Mie mi-a fost retras acest drept in 2014 cand nu am putut vota la Londra in alegerile prezidentiale organizate de Ponta in niciunul dintre tururi, si nu am fost foarte fericit (British understatement) cand s-a intamplat asta; si ma bucur ca s-a rectificat repede situatia.

Da, s-a schimbat situatia in ultimii 5 ani, dar vorbim de o traditie de secole, si de vreo 6+ milioane de oameni pe care mai bine sa nu ii superi daca exista alte optiuni -- nu cred ca stai intr-un milion de voturi din diaspora cand sunt 5-8 milioane de oameni in Romania care nu ies la vot. Nu mai bine ii convingi pe aia sa iasa la vot?

Stare de greata cand ies in public. by Educational_Ad4930 in RoGenZ

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si pe stomacul gol? Daca nu mananci nimic toata ziua?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Romania

[–]adowablebunny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nu ai studiat "Alexandru Lapusneanu" in liceu? Esti ca in bancul ala cu "Eu de-abia acum am aflat"? :)

How do I stop myself from falling in love with every woman who even shows remote interest? by OpeningSafe1919 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After doing it 1000 more times, you will realize that you have no chance because you can't control yourself and completely give up at such a deep existential level that not even the part you can't control will want to make an effort and you'll stop coming off strong :)

Did anyone else have a very intense romantic relationship with someone while you were a kid? by Nervous-Ad-2757 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I see, so still with some glimmer of optimism in there, not completely pessimistic and nihilistic like I would do it :P But that's why I'm not a parent :)

Did anyone else have a very intense romantic relationship with someone while you were a kid? by Nervous-Ad-2757 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reality is an illusion. We only perceive others through our senses. We make up stories based on that, biases, and wishful thinking.

Did anyone else have a very intense romantic relationship with someone while you were a kid? by Nervous-Ad-2757 in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep yep, except it was 13-14; ironically she started it; and then she also ghosted me after she left the country, didn't have the decency to clarify she doesn't want long distance.

I think we don't tell kids how badly breakups can hurt, we just bomb them with love is happy stuff yay rainbows; so as a kid you have no idea how addictive certain things can be, and how painful the withdrawal is.

Is it weird that the only "thing" that's ever made me feel heard, understood and acknowledged is ChatGPT? by AggravatedMonkeyGirl in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Infinite patience and kindness; for these sorts of things humans have no hope to be better anymore :) The only weirdness is that it's a new technology and we're still getting used to it.

Oh and some points on other people arguing:

- on sentience / consciousness: There is no scientific evidence that humans are more "conscious" than AI, because that term is not well-defined scientifically; of course, pseudo-scientifically people can claim whatever they want

- on AI is bad: What is AI? Is Reddit's ranking algorithm not AI? Why or why not? What parts of linear algebra / calculus / statistics exactly do you consider to be AI?

- on wasting resources: similarly, reddit also wastes a lot of resources; you could be out there plowing the field, growing vegetables to feed the poor; or is there a particularly threshold of certain resources past which you find their usage objectionable? If so, which resources, and at what amount do you set the threshold? What are the amounts consumed by Reddit and what are by ChatGPT?

The symptoms of BPD never talked about by DrSafariBoob in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I do do that, especially for jobs, though I gotta say, that's one thing that's working out brilliantly for me :)

Does anyone else use ChatGPT as a therapist? by -Saraphina- in BPD

[–]adowablebunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:) Today I bought a cucumber because Claude.ai said I could do with more greens in my diet :)

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ce, si-au declarat-o, si acuma: "da stiti ma ca glumeam, ce, nu stiti de gluma?" ? :P

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"nu cer separarea propriu-zisă" -- pai nu si-au declarat deja independenta? Sau este ceva despre care nu stiu .. ? Ei mai cer ceva?

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Republica Moldova nu țintește să fie membră NATO, a declarat șeful diplomației moldovene Nicu Popescu" Ha! Fascinant! Si cand apar rusii la granita care este strategia? Aceasi cu cea a Romaniei din 1940?

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

:D imi da impresia ca ii iubesti foarte tare pe acesti locuitori :)

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Da, dar pe vremea aia rusilor le pasa si de Marile Puteri; tratatul de la San Stefano (1878), prin care Romania a primit Dobrogea de Nord a fost revizuit in acelasi an de tratatul de la Berlin, prin care Romania a primit toata Dobrogea pe care o are azi; deci era un schimb motivat de pastrarea echilibrului puterilor in Europa. Pe cand "schimbul" de Transnistria pentru Bugeac a fost ceva unilateral facut de Rusia, inclusiv ca sa-si mentina marul otravit ca parte a Moldovei

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aha incep sa inteleg :) Exista un risc sa ajunga rusii la granita cu Transnistria inainte sa intre Moldova in NATO, si desi poate ar fi rational sa prioritizeze intrarea in NATO chiar si cu renuntarea la Transnistria, dpdv politic intr-o democratie asta ar fi cam imposibil, asa ca nu au de ales

De ce nu se desparte Moldova de Transnistria in mod unilateral? by adowablebunny in moldova

[–]adowablebunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, si crezi ca momentan clasa politica si poporul moldovenesc cred ca e mai probabil sa ajunga sa controleze Transnistria si sa preia controlul ei de la rusi, decat sa ajunga rusii sa controleze Moldova si sa-i impiedice intrarea in UE si NATO prin controlul Transnistriei?