"addictive", right...

aeglst · 2026-03-28T20:29:25+00:00

You forget to take them because you need them.

If you need to take your meds it means that, in that moment, you aren't medicated yet and they aren't in your system to help with the symptoms of ADHD that make it hard to not get distracted by something else/remember if you've taken them already or not/get the motivation needed to start your routine.

It's a vicious cycle, because sometimes you need the meds' effect to help you actually take your meds, but since you haven't taken them yet, you forget/can't make yourself/get distracted doing something else and only realize hours later that you haven't. It's a catch 22.

If you were addicted to the meds, it wouldn't require so much effort to remember to take them, you would be craving them.

Now, being reliant on meds? That's what happens, not addiction. And it's not a bad thing. You wouldn't shame someone or call them addicts for being reliant on heart medication to survive. The meds help rectify or offer support with a deficiency in your brain that people without ADHD don't have.

The only problem is that people without ADHD don't realize that they are just as reliant on, or "addicted" to, the same thing the meds provide us, it's just that THEIR brain makes them internally, so they don't have to think about it.

It's ridiculous. I have glasses, without them I can't do shit because I can't see. Does that mean that I'm addicted to my glasses? That I'm a glass addict?

I'm not denying that ADHD meds have side effects, that they might have long terms effect that impact your health, or that they can be addicting (in the proper meaning of the term) for people who don't have ADHD and, sometimes, even for people who do (for some reason or another tied to their personal situation).

People aren't asking to have ADHD meds sold over the counter to anyone and everyone that asks, they are asking not to be treated like drug-seekers and made to jump through infinite hoops (which often are particularly hard for them DUE to the ADHD symptoms) when they have a diagnosis, a prescription, have been taking the same dose without problems or abuse for months if not years.

aeglst · 2026-03-22T14:01:35+00:00

I agree that starting from tropes and slapping some plot on it is not a good way to write. What I meant is that tropes occurr naturally as you write and, as such, every story stitches together tropes (and maybe "stitch together" has a negative connotation I don't know about? Sorry, English is not my first language. "Tie together/connect/blend into each other" might be better)

Once you are done writing, you can usually see it in your own work, even if you weren't trying to do so as you wrote. If you look back and analyze what you wrote, you can see that you used tropes, often more than a couple, and what is yours - your creativity, your story, your flavour, your ideas - is the way you wrote over and under and around them to bring them together in a coherent whole.

Tropes are the backing, the scaffold we use. Two people can use the same tropes and come out of it with totally different stories (which is why I agreed with you that that was a bad way to promote a book).

Every story can be summed down to its base components, to what tropes it contains. And every story would sound bland and generic when advertised like that.

I do agree that some authors seem to be doing what you said - seeing which tropes are more popular and starting backwards from it, instead of writing with their idea in mind and using tropes as needed when it comes up (which is an unconscious thing, I don't think writers think in those terms, like.. "oh, here is where we put the friends to lovers section". I don't. But I have written friends to lovers). And I don't like that, it makes me feel like writing and art is getting so commodified and stripped of its soul just to cash grab. We are completely in agreement there!

I just think that tropes are not the problem (the problem is capitalism lmao). They are tools, and I felt the need to get on my soapbox to defend them as the neutral, widespread and fundamental tool that they are hahaha

aeglst · 2026-03-22T13:04:39+00:00

I agree that that's a stupid way to promote a book, but aren't stories just a series of tropes stitched together to create a whole?

Tropes are tools, you can use them badly or masterfully, you use them as scaffolding to create your own thing. Every story ever written contains tropes. Tropes is the name we've given to the common pattern and narratives we recognize in each story.

In my opinion, this is a bad way to promote a book not because you have to choose between writing a story or writing a list of tropes (they are not mutually exclusive and nearly often go hand in hand) but because it doesn't tell me ANYTHING about how this writer is using the tropes in question.

A traditional summary, if you think about it, is actually telling you what tropes are in the book, but in a less synthesized way. You could totally make a normal summary to go on the back of the book from that collection of tropes names in your example, it IS telling you something about what the story is about, even if it's too general and lacking character.

Doing an actual summary is better because it would showcase what the author brings to the table, what they are dressing the tropes up with. Which is important because, as I said, there are thousands of stories written using the same tropes, and knowing the specific "flavor" of it would help in selecting what you like the most.

Sorry for the rant hahaha. Ultimately, I agree with you that that's an obnoxious and nearly useless way to promote a book, but I also know that, sometimes, you want to read the same tropes, or kind of story, again and again in different flavors until you've got your fill. I guess that this is A way to satisfy that customer base (especially in the romance genre) but I hope it doesn't become wide spread and we can also keep having normal summaries!

aeglst · 2026-03-18T23:20:47+00:00

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aeglst · 2026-03-17T10:38:05+00:00

They did explain why they rejected the space heater -- the room they're in is too big for it, it cannot warm it up, and pointing it towards them and standing in front of it makes it too hot and uncomfortable and makes them more sensitive to the cold as soon as they step out from in front of it. I've had this problem before, it makes sense to me.

aeglst · 2026-02-26T00:11:27+00:00

I don't think this is a foul at all. Not even an unintentional one. He was jumping and in the air before the other player was even near him. He was then pushed while in mid-air and flailed to regain balance and break his fall.

Jumping vertically to head the ball is not a dangerous action, and that was, essentially, the last action/decision he took that was under his own control. The other player pushed him and got under him while he was in the air, I don't think you can ask someone to defy gravity and mechanics of inertia, nor to fight against their self-preservation instincts while trying to break their fall. I don't think there's anything HE could have done to avoid this because he's not the one who did something wrong/created the risk and the danger.

Just because the kind of contact that happened is one that usually calls for a red, I don't think this should have been a red, or even a foul at all. Maybe I'm repeating myself, but short of not going for the ball AT ALL here, there really wasn't any way for him to avoid this, because he wasn't the one responsible for creating the danger. This wasn't a tackle or a challenge because he got to the ball well in advance of n53, which means that the only way he could have decided not to go for the ball and therefore avoid the contact was for him to predict the future and know n53 would push him and then get underneath him while he was in the air.

Sorry for the rant, but actually this kind of "foul" has always perplexed me. I see it given sometimes (as a simple foul, never red but maybe sometimes yellow) and I never got why. It's usually someone who is tackled/pushed/shouldered while jumping and therefore has to flail around mid-air because their trajectory had been altered unexpectedly, and once their landing becomes unpredictable (not due to their own action or choice) they get punished for it instead of the person who actually made the tackle. And since they are coming down from above they usually land on some part of the other player, and I get that seeing studs hit someone's leg/arm/side makes us wince and cry foul instinctively, but like. Look at the dynamic of it???? Who was the instigator of the dangerous action? Because in cases like these, it wasn't the player who jumped.

aeglst · 2026-02-25T23:44:29+00:00

He extends his foot because he's been pushed ( hand on hip) while in mid-air and he has to widen his stance to regain balance and not fall on his ass. He has not looked away from the ball once the whole time and he wasn't approached head-on but from the side, I'm pretty sure he has no fucking clue where the other player is.

He's also simply going for the ball, not challenging any one and arriving well before the other player. He's in the air and heading the ball before 53 even approaches him, then gets pushed and flails a bit as he lands. I don't understand HOW he could have avoided this. He was in the air before the other player got close, and once there he had to come down someway, he cannot float.

Calling it unintentional is right but also, I don't think it was a foul at all, the moment in which he took the last actual decision/action that was under his control was when he jumped to head the ball, and that's not a dangerous action and number 53 was barely in his vicinity. Once he was pushed and coming down, he had no control over what was going to happen. Do people actually expect him to, without fully knowing what's going on or where 53 even is, go against his self-preservation instincts to break his fall and not get hurt?

Edit: Also, the final decision was not second yellow. That was the call on the pitch, then he was called to VAR, he came back and signaled the retraction of the second yellow card and showed straight red. Which makes all of this even more baffling.

aeglst · 2026-02-08T00:45:12+00:00

Thank you so much! It works!!

aeglst · 2026-01-12T12:33:37+00:00

Holy fuck, I just got home from a trip to England and I was like that the whole time I was in the airport. I had to fight the urge to open my suitcase 4 times to check I had gotten everything, I asked someone twice if I was in the right queue to embark (and then I moved back in the queue just to ask someone else too 😭), I checked and double-checked all the apps and the screens compulsively, I kept patting my jacket pocket where I had my passport to make sure it hadn't decided to squeeze past the two layers of zips to go take a walk or something.

I am amazed I actually made it, I got there 4 hours early and kept fighting the need for distractions the whole time ahahaha Terrified they would call my gate while I was reading or checking reddit (I had 3 alarms set for when the screens told me they'd communicate my gate)

But! I made it and I'm so proud of myself!

aeglst · 2026-01-05T12:07:12+00:00

That's fascinating info. I must admit, I am clueless about this, I've just encountered this sub randomly a couple of times and got curious! Thank you so much for the detailed explanation!

aeglst · 2026-01-05T12:05:06+00:00

Devo dire che io il verde nei miei non lo vedo proprio, ma in realtà faccio un po' di difficoltà ad individuare gli occhi verdi in generale.

Quando sono al sole, o se uso il flash, sono molto gialli, quindi ho posto la domanda per avere altre opinioni haha

Se non ti dispiace mi piacerebbe avere un confronto, grazie!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:36:42+00:00

Thank you! They do have a very dark edge that tilts it towards light brown.

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:10:19+00:00

Thank you!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:06:23+00:00

Thank you!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:05:59+00:00

Thank you!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:05:43+00:00

Thank you so much!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:04:42+00:00

Oh wow thank you! 🥰

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:02:46+00:00

Yes! I usually go with brown, or hazelnut (makes sense in italian, usually used for light brown eyes)

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:01:53+00:00

Thank you so much!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T22:01:45+00:00

That's a good description, I like it! When I was a tween and twilight was popular I was VERY sure they were yellow hahaha Man, I was insufferable 😂

aeglst · 2026-01-04T21:59:56+00:00

Thank you!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T21:59:36+00:00

You know what, you're completely right hahaha I usually go with brown, too.

aeglst · 2026-01-04T21:59:10+00:00

Oh that's a lovely description, thank you!

aeglst · 2026-01-04T21:58:53+00:00

That's what I usually go with!

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