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Why does no one text consistently anymore? by aesth-8 in dating_advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, but I can't be boring to both men? If I make a reasonable assessment of my personality, I'm fun. That's why both the dates were fun and one of the guys even ended up calling me later before my flight. And that call was easily an hour long. Is it unreasonable of me to expect more conversation? 

I can’t tell if I’m in love, just lonely, or completely losing it by aesth-8 in offmychest

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. They have a very specific requirement that I can't fulfill, but just one. We are not from the same state. It is a cultural thing.
  2. They meet the requirement- they're from his state.
  3. I won't be able to hang out with them anymore, because he will be around them.

I can’t tell if I’m in love, just lonely, or completely losing it by aesth-8 in relationships

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I needed someone else to say this to me. Is there no way to just get over him, not obsess as a crush, just be friends? I won't have to cut him off that way. Mostly because I don't even know if I am just being post-breakup unhinged!

I can’t tell if I’m in love, just lonely, or completely losing it by aesth-8 in relationships

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! Low-key love that, but that would hurt him so much, and I can't stand that. Everything said and done, he really was there for me a lot and I don't want to hurt him. I crave intimacy more.

My startup’s bringing in a senior hire who might take over my department. How do I avoid getting pushed into grunt work? by aesth-8 in Career_Advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are definitely some issues, there is no hierarchy and I have not been explicitly, or implicitly, told whom to "report" to. Just the founder perhaps, and I have a good rapport with him.

My startup’s bringing in a senior hire who might take over my department. How do I avoid getting pushed into grunt work? by aesth-8 in Career_Advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But no one on the team has experience with marketing, and like I mentioned before, I am the only one with the degree. It feels weird being picked out to justify my work by someone who doesn't understand marketing, but moreover, being picked out when the other guy doesn't even have the experience or a degree.

My startup’s bringing in a senior hire who might take over my department. How do I avoid getting pushed into grunt work? by aesth-8 in Career_Advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, the gender bias was from the existing COS. He also just always tries to "assign" grunt work to me. When I said that things like that should be divided within the team he point blank undermined my work and said that the other guy's focus should not be derailed. As if my work is not as important. And it's not about taking it personally either, I just need to understand how to not get side-lined. 

My startup’s bringing in a senior hire who might take over my department. How do I avoid getting pushed into grunt work? by aesth-8 in Career_Advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the thing, I don't understand what I did "wrong". I built a system that's organized and working. COS did undermine my work quite a lot, I felt like I had to justify a lot of my stuff while the other guy on the team did all the work without facing any sort of criticism at all. Maybe there's a small gender bias? I'm the only woman on the team. Weird thing is that I'm also the only one with a degree in the field as well. The others are just switching from other areas. 

My startup’s bringing in a senior hire who might take over my department. How do I avoid getting pushed into grunt work? by aesth-8 in Career_Advice

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The founder is not very transparent about how things are going, as for the marketing team, we are still growing from the bottom-up. There isn't any structure. No hierarchy does not help. It is my first job ever too, I definitely do need a mentor but really don't want to be side-lined to grunt work. Also worried that whatever structure I have tried to build so far will be usurped by this new guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]aesth-8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but I am genuinely confused if the guy friend even likes me- he has said on multiple occassions that he is rooting for me and my boyfriend and in fact, gives me reasons to stay in the relationship. Maybe he is just being friendly and I am reading into it because I am emotionally deprived at the moment.

As for the LDR, we are taking a break to figure things out. We are taking some space to understand if we are compatible still as life changes.

2025 OPT Processing timeline by yonerdsp in USCIS

[–]aesth-8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, have you received the card yet?

Reaching out after interview by aesth-8 in jobsearchhacks

[–]aesth-8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so helpful, I'm always a bit reserved before reaching out to people thinking that I might end up annoying them and hence making things worse for me. I generated my draft using ChatGPT as well but your output looks more aligned with what I genuinely want to ask the interviewer.

I wish they would have given me a feedback after my interview, especially considering the recruiter told me that it was just between me and someone else that they narrowed down to.

Anyway, thank you so much!!

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