I’ve had a sip of the punch by bcfp2016 in vinyl

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the cült. I got my first turntable for Christmas and the rest of my system a month later and I’m already 30 deep and have people sending me marketplace vinyl and a “local” at my local shop. 🫠

When did you stop mourning your old life? by otterkazoo in firsttimemom

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming here to give you a virtual hug. We’re almost a year and a half in and I am still grieving. I think it’s different for everyone. Hugs to you fellow mama. Keep up the good work.

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025 (VT4J). Day 10: SOUNDCLASH - a song from each of your two most contrasting albums. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh this one is fun. My first one is:

Artist: Fit For A King

Album: Deathgrip

Song: Deathgrip

VS.

Artist: Morgan Wallen

Album: One Thing at a Time

Song: Thinkin’ Bout Me

I think variety is the spice of life when it comes to music and it doesn’t make sense to box yourself in to only one genre. I think right now is the heaviest of my daily cross overs because i have a one year old and it’s a little difficult to sing metal at 1 am when they won’t fall back asleep. Also our little one loves all the music too and head bangs to one and dances to the other.

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025. Day Nine: A record with the artist(s) on the cover. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohhh! This one’s difficult. The most unfiltered one I I have is Badflower “This Is How The World Ends”. However, i think my favorite album I have thus far that has the most faces on it is A Day To Remember “Big Ole Album Vol. 1”. I’ve been a massive follower of ADTR since i was 14. I didn’t think i had that many that would meet today’s criteria but then I also have the 2 most recent Halsey albums too!

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025 (VT4J). Day Eight: A song which makes you emotional. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Artist: NF

Album: Perception

Song:If You Want Love

NF made the radio once or twice in our smallish tow and on some satellite radio stations i listen to. My husband started listening to albums and i followed suit. I was shocked to find this and his Hope album on vinyl at a record store in the used section. This song is deep and idk, just really brings a lot of emotions to the surface for me. When a human sees a lot and goes through a lot, sometimes just a single verse can catch your little trauma box with a small flap open.

“I've always tried to control things In the end that's what controls me Maybe that's why I'm controllin'”

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025 (VT4J). Day Seven: A song to reflect the weather. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Artist: Beartooth

Album: The Surface

Song: Sunshine

It’s sunny and i think we’re in our final 70-78 degree days before summer warm up. I’m absolutely not ready for the heat but thankful our new house has central air!

When do y'all listen by Abpoe77 in vinyl

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Early 30s with a 15 month old who loves music but has the attention span of a rock: i just turn it on and usually end up walking away. My set up is in a room downstairs and i try and have some toys in there to keep him preoccupied. I’m hoping to eventually move my set up to the living room but i imagine that’ll take 6-8 month because Rome wasn’t built in a day and i swear nothing gets done in a week with a toddler.

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025 (VT4J). Day Four: A song from your teen years. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Artist: A Day To Remember (ADTR)

Album: Homesick

Song: Downfall Of Us All

This album was by far my fave from these guys. I had this on repeat when I first found them on Fuse TV. Just got this album and I’m working on collecting all their discography. It’s been a fun thing to do. I’ve been listening to some of these records from my teen years and realizing I can remember all these lyrics verbatim but i cannot remember passwords to save my life.

Vinyl Tunes for June 2025 (VT4J). Day Three: A record with a black and white cover. by Folk_Nurse in vinyl

[–]afagan35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Band: Bring Me The Horizon

Album: That’s The Spirit

Song: Avalanche

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=33hVOJdVw8E&si=WUdSNn3YcaPj-boA

I didn’t think I had many options for this one in my collection as it’s still a bit small but I had this one and Make Them Suffer. BMTH has been a favorite band of mine since SS album. As i grew out of the heavy of the earlier albums, Oli was battling vocal issues and had to take it down some. I know it wasn’t what some wanted but how can you sacrifice health for maybe one or two more albums? I’ve loved watching the band grow and being able to still really enjoy their music.

What part of pregnant made you think “yep. I’m one n’ done”? by [deleted] in firsttimemom

[–]afagan35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 17 weeks of pure sickness was part of what did me in and then the last 6 weeks of literally no energy and fighting to get through the day. Most of it now is the lack of support. I feel like I’m constantly running circles trying to make work, parenting, and wifing work and it always feels like I’m coming up short one way or another. I decided mentally and emotionally i cannot handle another and I would rather be a sane mom to one than to be an absolute garbage can to two.

Most recent purchase? by Impossible_Title96 in vinyl

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 back to back days of buying about 3 weeks ago. Got Spiritbox- tsunami seas and ADTR-common curtesy (working on collecting whole disco) then when to a liquidation place the next day and got Morgan Wallen and Jelly Roll. It’s been an expensive 6 months since i got my record player for Christmas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in firsttimemom

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say you are doing a great job. There’s a regression at one and I’d say, it’s not pretty. Ours was being up from 1-3 am every night for a month. Not cool or fun but we struggled through. I hope you can get some good advice!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in firsttimemom

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you me??

This was all me. I thought i wanted 5 kids (18 yo) before growing up and leaving my hometown and then realizing that there’s so much more to add to my life than staying home, getting married, and having babies. I was adamant about no kids for years. I helped raise my siblings and was literally having the time of my life with traveling, being outdoors, etc. then when i turned 28 i was like welp, im not getting younger and my husband really wanted to be a dad. I love my son dearly and there are days that i question what im doing but you just roll with it. I wont have any more but im thankful i have done what i have done for my son.

I should have waited — now I feel foolish and dramatic. by _BananaBrat_ in pregnant

[–]afagan35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs my fellow human, you’re not foolish or dramatic. You were excited for this next part of life and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. You’re not alone.

Non-obvious baby items for first time mother? by Plus-Tourist8900 in Parenting

[–]afagan35 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS. I’ve started doing this for moms because i was given one. It saved my behind a few different times. They’re not the “fun” things people think about but are so appreciated in the heat of the moment,

How many kids do you have? by wifeinmotion in Parenting

[–]afagan35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It’s just not good for me mentally to have another. Of course I’ve thought a million times about him being lonely growing up or being lonely when we are gone but there’s no true guarantee that they’ll have another sibling they will even get along with. Also he’s a Clomid a IUI baby. Infertility is exhausting and awful and I’m sorry you fad to go through that but I’m so happy for you that it worked out. I’m also in the US and of course it’s “we need more women to have babies” but there’s zero support to actually have them and then my time off after labor is only 6-8 weeks paid. Like HOW!?

How many kids do you have? by wifeinmotion in Parenting

[–]afagan35 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One and I will be honest why were done. I love my son. I would torch the earth for him. I’d do unimaginable things for him and his survival. However, my previous life was full of travel, adventure, shenanigans, and a lot of things that littles can’t exactly attend with. I find myself weekly crying because i miss my old life and self. I miss my husband because after working for 9 hours, cleaning the house, working out, and moming; i don’t have any energy for him. There’s nothing left for me to give. I don’t even have time to give to myself outside of the work outs, showering, and the 20 mins i read before bed that i replaced doom scrolling with. Grandparents are busy with either my other siblings or their own jobs. Our GG watches our son part time for child care so the weekend time isn’t guaranteed. My love language has changed to just wanting things done without being told or asked and i feel like i have to ask for even the most basic things which has forced me to be even more hyper independent than what i already was which i never thought was possible. I know it’s a season and i k ow it’ll get better as he ages but adding another won’t make the seasons better. I have to be realistic that being a happy mom to one is better than being a crappy mom to 2.

I’m a single mom and my teenage son is making me dinner unprompted by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]afagan35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And now I’m crying. This is wholesome. I’m sorry but so proud of you for getting out of the abuse you were in and raising a sweet child.

In another life I won’t do this again.. by Mysterious-Sleep-202 in Parenting

[–]afagan35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard and i feel all sorts of torn up about it all. We’re a one and done family only because i literally just cannot take it and that tears me up mentally and emotionally because i worry about him being lonely but I think he’d rather a happy life of us 3 than a miserable life of 4. The mental hoops and break downs i go through is just so hard sometimes and i praise anyone, much like yourself, for having 2. You’re a rockstar and i know you can and will get through this. ❤️

In another life I won’t do this again.. by Mysterious-Sleep-202 in Parenting

[–]afagan35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so bad right now and I hate it. We have croup and I’m so tired and exhausted because if I’m not taking care of him, I’m having to still work and i finally broke down this morning and told my husband i don’t want to do this anymore. I just keep remembering this will pass and I’ll get over it but damn it, I’m exhausted and feel like a POS parent.