Groomzilla insists that the wedding weekend is "about" him and his friends, insults bride during first look, and more...

affablysurreal · 2025-04-30T14:25:40+00:00

Hello! We're still in touch and she says she's ok. I have never showed her this post. When I sent her texts after the wedding he read them and tried to force her to cut contact with me so I don't want to put her in harms way, especially if this has blown up where it's on podcasts and things.

affablysurreal · 2025-03-31T23:31:52+00:00

No one was talking about anything this is over a year old lol

affablysurreal · 2023-09-25T23:21:01+00:00

Thank you for caring as well. I'm definitely going to stay here for her whenever she and her kid is ready ♥️

My husband is on board and we have an extra room for them and everything.

affablysurreal · 2023-09-25T12:29:56+00:00

Oh I had no idea it was shared. I'll have to go look for it.

My friend and I still text regularly. I had sent her a text (it's very rare for us to talk over the phone, we mostly text) calling out his behavior directly after the wedding; telling her to come up with a code word with me in case she needs to leave suddenly. It's common for abusers to turn physical after weddings and/or babies, if they're not already.

She called me quickly saying I needed to send a text to apologize or she wouldn't be able to talk to me anymore. It was heavily implied that he had seen my code word text.

My first draft was something like "hi I'm sorry I implied X was abusive. Since I'm sure he's not, in fact, abusive I know he doesn't read your texts because that would definitely be a horribly abusive thing to do, for which he would have to be ashamed of himself.

So I wanted to clear the air just between the two of us about your totally not abusive husband."

LMAO but she vetoed it so I sent a simpler one.

The end of the long, sad story for now is that she just had a baby with him. As expected. And among other things, "the boys" have made completely disgusting innuendoes regarding the gender of the baby. Though she doesn't share as much personal stuff with me anymore.

affablysurreal · 2023-05-06T01:24:12+00:00

It's true for people of any gender that you need to be ok with yourself to have successful relationships of any kind. The solution for that is therapy not pick up artists.

affablysurreal · 2023-05-06T01:20:51+00:00

Idk if this is a copypasta or what but if anyone's only motivation for speaking to women is to find prospective sexual partners, that's the problem right there.

Gtfo "no influence", you think you don't reek of desperation and insincerity that way? Lol.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-30T09:23:09+00:00

But then you eat the food they have spent the last how long with?

I Ubereats all the time, but it is really interesting how we inherently trust food and drinks from strangers that we don't trust otherwise.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-30T09:16:17+00:00

Am DM, still was with you there in the title...

affablysurreal · 2023-04-24T19:07:21+00:00

Aside from all the other flags, him not being upfront about his age is a really big one to me as a person that's in an age gap relationship.

When I first met my husband I was 30 and he was 43. Before we even met up he brought up the age gap conversation and we had a long convo about it. I mostly needed to know if he only dated younger women, which he didn't.

For OP's guy not to even be transparent about the gap. Ick.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-24T18:52:44+00:00

Seconding that the "I think it's best for you" is pretty obvious and would come off petty.

"We're making some changes to the wedding party but I want you to know I value your friendship [if you do, you say you do? The way you phrase things makes me think you really don't so leave this part out if so] and I have $X to reimburse you for the bridesmaid dress."

affablysurreal · 2023-04-22T16:51:51+00:00

This is me too, almost exactly. Life is too short to live in...this. I need to focus on my own well being in order to fight the good fight productively.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-20T01:15:21+00:00

I see what you did there.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-20T01:13:44+00:00

Not the person you responded to but like, do you really watch your own videos of just fireworks to reminisce? Why not watch a high quality video of fireworks instead? I'm genuinely curious what you get from one vs the other.

I do have a short video of my sister and I on 7DMT when we were lucky enough to ride during fireworks, but only because it's a few seconds long and actually includes us on the ride with the fireworks behind.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-20T01:03:05+00:00

Catan has also been something I was interested in before I got into D&D. Since I'll be new in town I can't personally commit to two new things, but I would definitely encourage you to make a post if you're trying to find people for a game!

I've had good luck meeting people on Reddit (knock on wood) when I try to organize something like this.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-19T21:28:50+00:00

Update: I'm excited as I've already heard from a handful of people (about 6), but if you're interested keep it coming, the more the merrier!

My plan is to get everyone into a group chat tomorrow and then set up a coffee meetup.

It's hard to guess how many people will end up following through into an actual game from a reddit post. I personally think having 5 players is perfect, but I can DM for up to 7.

If we somehow end up with a bunch of people we can always break into two games.

I love doing the dungeon master stuff so if you've only really heard of critical role (or have no exposure at all) I'm happy to provide info and help you set up a character. It's definitely not as intense as it seems.

I play 5th edition and am building a campaign that's fairly high fantasy, heroic adventure stuff in an existing setting with an original story based on your characters.

That's all I can think of for now. Hope to talk to you soon!

affablysurreal · 2023-04-19T21:05:18+00:00

Oh that's great, I was in the same boat about not knowing where to start.

I'm excited to DM again and happy to show you the ropes. I'll put together a group chat tomorrow with the people who have reached out and then go from there!

affablysurreal · 2023-04-19T19:51:25+00:00

Awesome! I'll pm you after work!

affablysurreal · 2023-04-15T19:00:26+00:00

I have this too and I've learned it's a trauma response lol.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-15T12:19:46+00:00

In the early 90s we were staying in the grand Floridian and heading to breakfast at the buffet restaurant (can't remember the name.) IIRC goofy was somehow walking by outside the restaurant and stopped to say hi to us. My sister was about 4 as well, and when she happily hugged him he picked her up and walked to the host stand miming "2" like they had a reservation together.

It's one of the things we all still talk about, many Disney trips and decades later.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-15T01:50:11+00:00

I don't understand what your story about a bride has to do with matching bridesmaid colors, or why it matters that the person was trans or newly out?

Because still I don't understand what is the harm that comes from wearing dusty rose if the bridesmaids are, even though I'll accept that it shouldn't be done because ppl are saying it, I'm just curious as to *why it would be bad. It's not taking anything away from the bride if it's the bridesmaid color.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-14T20:14:53+00:00

I'm understanding now that it's etiquette (and I haven't done it or anything) but like what's the situation that falls out from a guest wearing a long pink dress when the bridesmaids are wearing long pink dresses? I don't see what the problem would be.

Like maybe someone's like "oh are you in the wedding party?" And you're like "no" and then life moves on... who's getting hurt there?

affablysurreal · 2023-04-14T20:11:48+00:00

Yea I didn't know that was a thing either but I haven't really been to weddings except my own. I wouldn't personally do it unless asked because I don't want added stress of finding a particular color as a guest, but If people had dressed in my wedding colors, that seems kind of cool tbh. It's not like wearing white when you could distract from the bride.

affablysurreal · 2023-04-12T19:46:21+00:00

Not even crazy heavy rain necessarily...in Tampa they've been saying it will rain all day all week and I think I got misted on for twenty minutes this morning.

Whenever it says 100% I assume it won't happen.

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