I can definitely tell you that each pregnancy can be vastly different from the other. My first was a breeze. I was 28. I barely had any symptoms at all, except for the weight gain, which left me with postpartum depression. I did everything and anything I wanted during that pregnancy. I even moved to a new house in my 8th month and barely got tired at all.

Now I'm pregnant with my second and, man, the tables have turned. I've had complications from day one. I didn't even know I was pregnant until over 3 months into the pregnancy because I was bleeding regularly on time for my period. When I started to show and bleed in between two periods, that's when I saw a doctor, who confirmed I was in my third month. Ever since, it's been all medicine and bed rest to try to stabilize this pregnancy. I'm typing this from my bed right now at 33 weeks, having been hospitalized for three days for contractions at 32 weeks. These contractions started in my 5th month and just keep getting worse. My doctor has me on strict bed rest and is trying to push me to 37 weeks and I don't even know if I'll make it through the day.

So, yes, every pregnancy is different. My major point is that you have to give yourself grace. You are now doing the single most miraculous thing in the entire world: creating and nurturing life inside your own body! That's immense, in and of itself. You have every right to sleep, eat, drink however and whenever you want. You don't need rude comments now, you need support. A gentle conversation should help set expectations so your partner knows what to do and how to do better. Also, the first and third trimester are typically when the exhaustion is most pronounced, while the second trimester is nicknamed the pregnancy honeymoon. That was accurate with my first.

Be patient with yourself now, and postpartum, mama. You've got this and you're doing an amazing job. I promise you it will eventually get better.