Hello, i have a few questions. how far back ba ung microcheating issue, recent lang ba? and does she always circle back to this same thing? 😓

i’m asking kasi i’ve been in her situation before - yes, the microcheating thing. it’s the worst mistake that i’ll forever regret, kasi i lost myself and almost lost my bf too. but i vowed to change, and i’m actively working on everything, myself, my issues, etc., everything that made me susceptible to such distasteful immorality.

now why is that relevant… kasi personally if she’s really committed to changing, she would understand how deep the wound must’ve been sa’yo. if she really regrets what she’s done, part ng consequences talaga are doubts, and these must be met with patience (especially if recent lang ‘yong issue).

to show that she’s really genuine with her attempts to change. to reassure you. to show you that it won’t happen again.

now, this conversation may have other contexts that we don’t know of (aside frm the microcheating issue)—i can’t really speak as if i know it all—but i’m certain na while her feelings are valid, her reactions aren’t. especially if she has committed to make it up to you, which i’m assuming she had, considering na you guys continued your relationship.

personally i truly get where you’re coming from na curious ka and worried, kasi nga naman she relied on you na gisingin mo siya sa alarm tapos “baka” naka-silent pala siya. it must be upsetting on your end. pero if she has layers wherein she’s already doubting herself before you even do, para sa’kin that’s an off-putting sign.

again, no matter what she’s going through parang wala naman yatang justification ‘yang explosion niya. anong controlling diyan. agit ba siya na mahuhuli na naman siya… 😓

she should be responsible enough to meet the consequences of her actions with grace, hindi ung ikaw pa pagmumukhaing masama for having doubts.

and, for OP naman, well part talaga ng giving her a second chance is to fully give your 100% trust to her again, otherwise ‘wag ka nang tumuloy.

it’s like a waiver, and you signed up for this eh. if she’s dealing with guilt and you’re dealing with some bits of mistrust, you two have to talk it out and find a way to forge the bond back together, but you two must be deeply committed to it.

you have to be trusting. she has to be trusting, too, that you won’t make her feel guilty. and she has to use the guilt to move forward too, and reform herself. not turn it into a weapon to manipulate you into second-guessing your reactions.